Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

toniq

Lilo u r so uplifitng and positive xxx Thank you for being u , i do find comfort often in ur posts xxxx

liloandstitch

Thank you XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

liloandstitch

I see you are famous from the weekly Email toniq - well done. Lovely to put a face to the 'name' and I am so glad you had such a wonderful time.
Lilo

toniq

Lol, My moment of fame!!!!!!! xxxx

Seriously amazing day xxx I've been very luck with comping and have won so much, we go to italy on a 4* hol in 4 weeks thanks to comps!!! so looking forward to it, just wish i could get lucky in the bding dept! xxx

ginvzt

How is everyone coping with the heat?

It is so bad in my office (no air-con and basically no ventilation), that I am afraid I might collapse. The last time I checked,thermometer showed +29, and as it is as high as it will go, I bet it is above 30 now. I keep drinking water so much, that I think I must have 'downed' some 4litres already...
I wish i was going home - it is so much cooler in our house!!!!! I think I will be resorting to working from home tomorrow...

shelly

Oh dear. I looked at my e-mail and found Toniq because I too like to put a face to a name. Cue bursting into tears

You look such a nice, kind person and life really isn't fair to the nice people.

My mood hasn't got any better overnight. I find myself kind of wishing that the cancer had been worse than it was and that I had had to have a hysterectomy so I can stop wondering every month if this is the month.
I know how lucky I was though and I realise how low I am feeling when thoughts go that way.

toniq

Awww shelly xx:grouphug:xx

dizziblonde

I guess... I belong in here now.

We've been trying a year and a half - and nothing's happened. I'm overweight, so will get no help on the NHS - and it took me until very recently to even tell the doctor we were having issues. She's taken blood tests, thinking PCOS but the hormone levels came back normal. OH's been for his little trip to the hospital with his pot... we have the appointment for the results of that tomorrow (after him being the male wimp about it for ages). He also has issues with getting it up on occasion - and, when it happens once, it seems destined to happen for the entire month killing months of opportunity at a time.

I've got a scan on my plumbing next week as well - then, because of my weight, we're at the end of the line with what the NHS can do for us (and no BUPA cover). Doctor's wanting me to get a coil fitted for 6 months of weight loss tablets... but I'm sat here thinking that I'm 31, time's running out and 6 months is a long time not to be able to try for. OH doesn't seem to be supporting me when I mention that I HAVE to lose weight - seems to feel that's all my problem and he just changes the subject... feel like I'm doing everything and he makes an issue about going to the doctors to get the results of his swimmer assessment.

This month I was so sure we'd nailed it... and AF showed as always - it's destroyed me completely as I've hit the wall where I can't keep going. I hate everyone - I hate people with babies, I hate people who think they're better than me because their plumbing worked, I hate that in all my local swimming pool's pool timetable - there's only an hour a day for adults to swim... I'm just becoming a hollow shell of anger towards anything and everything right now, even myself. I'm just utterly sick of it all right now.

toniq

Dizi, u have time honest, these ladies tell me that and im 37!!!

I treat stuff like this 1 step at a time, u need oh on side, so maybe start there? always around if u ever need to chat/vent xxx

liloandstitch

Right all of you - It WILL be your time. Keep your end up (ooer) I have heard from several sources that if you think you will get nothing, you will. I know it is hard - and if you are all over the hill I am on the top of the mountain at 40. I had my DS at 34 so you are young puppies!

And Shelly, your cancer was discovered when it was for a reason. You have plenty of time to get that elusive BFP. I know it makes you feel differently about yourself, but if you are ready to give up at your age, I am just going to have to shoot myself. You were so supportive to me through my cancer treatment, for those of you on here - she sent me a PM every week to see how I was and gave me so much support and information when I was ready to give up. It really made a difference to how I got through the treatment. I couldnt have done it without you! You have HOPE - like me, if you had had a hysterectomy you would have had none. Remember - one sperm, one egg and a little bit of luck!

Dizziblonde - welcome to the thread. You have arrived just in time for me to bash all of your heads together for being so down! (I know Im so bossy, you will get used to me!) Wait and see what the outcome of the tests are - did you say they were going to do a scan? And see if gives you any clues - have they checked you are ovulating? It WILL help if you lose weight, it is well documented that getting to your ideal weight can increase your fertility - it is to do with the hormone balance in your body. But remember that overweight people get pregnant too! It doesnt mean that you cant get pregnant if you dont lose the weight. Keep posting and talking to us, we will explain what we can, and give support where necessary. But try (Its hard) to keep positive and have hope!

Lilo

PS sorry to be so hard on you all, Its in the nicest possible way - I am a !!!!!cat really! Its just that I feel so desperately sad that you are all feeling this way and want to help any way I can, and really feel that if you can keep as positive as you can it helps.