Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

toniq

Well done FE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xxxx Much much much luck and stickiness xx!!! xx

xxxxx toni

shelly

Not much to report here....as per usual

On CD23 with not much BDing going on in this weather. The heat really affects us both so we don't bother.

I'm on a bit of a downer tonight after watching Emmerdale. Lexi had an ectopic and lost her baby. I know it's only a TV programme and not real life but it choked me up a bit to hear her talk about how useless she thinks she is because she can't even carry a baby.
Its exactly how I felt and still feel.

I feel like time is ticking. I am 33 now and hubby will be 38 in August. I want to give him a baby before he feels too old.
Also I want to give my parents a grandchild before its too late. I don't mean they are dying or anything but events of the last 8-9 months have really opened my eyes to the fact that my parents aren't as invincible as I would like them to be.
In November my Dad was in a serious car crash. He was left with numerous broken ribs, a fractured wrist and a broken collarbone that isn't healing and needs surgery to fix it.
He was 60 a couple of weeks ago.
Then they had a small fire at home about 6 weeks ago and in haste to throw wet towels over it a puddle formed on the tiled kitchen floor and Mum slipped over and snapped the head off her humerus bone and will never regain 100% perfect use of that arm again.
She is nearing 60.


I know I need to get off my backside and do something about it.....loosing weight is my only option.....why haven't I done it yet???
I don't know......I really don't.


Sorry to bring down the mood of the thread ofter FE's excellent news but thanks for the self indulgent rant

I don't know why I bottle it all up and let it out in one big horrible post.....I don't post on this thread much (but I do read it everyday) but when I do post it's not good news

Sorry

nunnygirl

Congratulations on the BFP FE!!! :T:T:T

liloandstitch

Shelly, I am so sorry you feel low, you have been through so much and deserve to have your happiness. It is hard to do things, even if you know they will improve things. Let off steam as much as you need xxxxxx

Lilo

MadMac_2

Aww Shelly, I really feel what you are saying. My parents desperately want grandchildren and I'm their last chance being the youngest! But at 38 the years have flown by with cancer in the family, other tumours, miscarriages, hospitalisations, it just seemed to have been one thing after the other for the last 9 years or so.

I lost over 4 stone in weight due to illness and that lead to me having an eating disorder... it is now at the stage where my man can barely manage every other day, so I know our chances are nearing nil and I am finding it harder and harder to accept. I don't want to sink back down again, but it is proving difficult although I'm afraid to admit it out aloud.

So rant away, I really do sympathise and appreciate that even online chatting can really help, xx

shelly

Thanks ladies.

I feel a little better for having got it off my chest.

I'll most likely be absolutely fine tomorrow and on reading back my post wonder where it all came from

Somnium

FE am soooo happy for you...



Please keep a PMA, your scan is a day before mine, so looks like our babies will be due about the same time

Shelly & madmac hang in there and dont give up. If you really want something and are putting in 100% then thats all anyone can ask. Stay as chilled as poss though, stressing really doesnt help anyone (i know easier said than done) Huggles xxx

Also agree with who ever said that we need a 12month + pregnancy club. The normal pregnancy club girls are lovely but that thread moves way too fast for me, and I miss you guys.

becs

Ah Shelly,
There are so many times when I could have written that post myself., I really do feel for you. I think we've all had days like that where it just hits us. We really need to take support from each other and keep trying. Never give up hope, we all know that creating a baby is a miracle and for some that miracle comes without effort where as others do everything in their power to make it happen. Life isn't fair but we all just need to keep hoping that one day the miracle will come to us.:grouphug:
MadMac, you too have gone very noticebly quiet, I really hope you can stick with us and keep trying. I really hope we all get a much deserved BFP soon.:grouphug:

ginvzt

Shelly, you are not useless - stop thinking that!!!!! (Look who is talking, I keep thinking that I am useless as I can't even conceive...)

There are difficult times in life, and it is hard to cope. I know my parents are not going to be there forever, neither OH's. Both of my parents have heart conditions, so does OH's father and his mother just had skin cancer. They were supposed to come to visit us couple of weeks ago, but had to change plans as OH's father's health was not good. My father was made redundant as of yesterday from working at a college back home for 32 years. He is 55 in 2 months time - and I am not sure he will find a job easily. I can't help being thousand miles away, and my siblings seem to be useless in this as well (sister just graduated without any job prospects and she thinks too highly of herself to take just any job, brother too bothered about himself and doesn't know how to behave with money). But things will work out - one way or the other, they will be resolved.

OH always said he doesn't want to be an old dad, and wanted to have children before his dad had him (35), but that is not going to happen anymore, as OH was 35 this year and there is no chance of us having a child before his 36 birthday. I wanted to have my children before I was 30, but as I am going to hit that in less than 4 months, it is impossible.

But - the life has prepared a different path for us and we will take it as it comes. We all get there - lets just believe in it (even if we get nowehere in the end....)

liloandstitch

We all have long stories, and have endured so much. Its amazing that we are still here, and prepared to put outselves through so much in our quest.

We must be inspired by our successes recently - they too have been through so much and have the end in sight. It can and will happen for us all in time. Remember those slow boats to Australia - they get there in the end ( and no boats were sunk in the making of this movie!)

Have a great day everyone, and keep trying!
Lilo