Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

liloandstitch

The sticks are quite strange - I think you need to go a few hours without weeing, and the best time to use is appx 1pm, which apparently is the peak time during the day for the hormones - never managed it myself!!

becs

Ah that might explain it then Lilo! I was doing them first thing in the morning.

I love the cb monitor though and find it really reassuring. Not having had an af for over a year I was really panicking that I also might not be ov'ing but the monitor has confirmed what I was charting previously. So it certainly looks like I am although have just had the 3 day and 21 day bloods done so hopefully they will confirm it.

AnnieM_3

Hi,

I'm hoping you guys might be able to give me some advice or some opinions on something...

Basically, my mc bleeding stopped a few days ago, and now I have ewcm. I think I might be ovulating. I'm going to do an OPK a bit later to see if I'm right.

My question is, is it too early to start trying again? My head is a real mess - I'm still trying to cope with what has happened, but if there is an egg there, maybe I shouldn't waste the opportunity. I'm petrified of having another mc, but I can't give up.

Hope everyone is ok.

AnnieM x

liloandstitch

Only you can answer that AnnieM - there is no reason why not, and I think there is info that you are more fertile in the month following mc,. However, you would have to cope with the emotional aspects of it - are you ready to get pregnant again, can you cope with it! It you can, I would say go for it - If you cant dont worry about it - leave it until you are ready. There is no right or wrong answer.l How does DH Feel?

Lilo

grace1990

Only you know when you feel ready to try again.

AnnieM_3

It was really the physical stuff I was wondering about. There seems to be varying info about the physical aspects of ttc after a mc on the 'net. I've read that your dates can be skewed if you get caught straight after a mc, but the idea of making the most of a fertility boost is very tempting. I was thinking that if there is no physical reason not to start straight away then maybe we should.

Emotionally, I'm in a very weird place anyway - the 2ww stress might just feel like normality! I think I'll just see how DH and I feel later.

AnnieM x

fairydiamond

It is up to you, Annie. Whatever feels best for you.

Good luck.

shelly

Hi Annie.

As others have said its up to you and OH when you feel ready emotionally.
As for the physical side, I was told the month following a mc is a very fertile one and I haven't been told not to TTC for awhile following either of my mc's.
These days scans are excellent and they can date you from them so no need to really wait for an AF before trying again if you feel ready.

Best wishes whatever you decide.

Nikabella

Sorry I haven't been around for a while, I just needed sometime to get my head together. As its a long weekend for both of us we decided to keep very busy & try to do some of the things we couldn't do had I still been pregnant. My OH & I went to Alton Towers yesterday as I could go on the rides, we took our 2 year old, my best friend & her partner it was a lovely day & I remembered how lucky I am to have what I have. We also have 2 bottles of wine which have been in our fridge for months which I might have a glass of.

Over the past few days I have felt progressively better, once a day I seem to have a point in the afternoon or evening where I suddenly feel very low & sad about the baby but it passes eventually. I am worried that I haven't dealt with this properly though, I haven't cried as much as I expected & I don't know whether it's all going to come crashing down in the future. My grandfather had an operation on a huge tumour a couple of weeks ago & he gets his biopsy results at the beginning of next week - the same week we should have had our first scan. Before I lost the baby I kept thinking to myself that because I was pregnant that it must mean I was going to loose my grandfather as I wouldn't be able to have both, now I'm worried that because I've lost the baby it will mean that I'm going to loose him aswell. I sound crazy don't I.

We did a pregnancy test on Saturday & it came back as a strong positive still, it felt very uncomfortable to be looking at a BFP that I knew didn't mean anything good. A little part of me keeps thinking that maybe if it's still positive that I could still be pregnant, that I might of lost one of twins - as I had read a woman's story like this on the internet - but I know this would be a miracle, I know that I can't still be pregnant & wish I'd stop even considering this. I know exactly what you meant AnnieM about your result not being what you wanted even though it meant that everything had come away like it should have. It's so hard to feel good about something which is the opposite of what your heart wants.

The bleeding seems to have stopped this morning & we have talked about trying again. We have got a supply of ovulation tests & would like to try & take advantage of the rumour that you are more fertile after a miscarriage. I'm presuming I won't be able to ovulate until after my pregnancy test start to show negative though? I don't know how you feel Annie but I'm worried that if I get pregnant again I might find that I wasn't ready for it, I don't know how to know that I'm ready for sure.

A.x

AnnieM_3

Hi Nikabella,

Glad you're ok - I've been wondering how you were getting on.

I'm sorry to hear about your grandfather. I hope it's good news for him when he gets his biopsy results. You don't sound crazy - grief and worry can make you think all sorts of things.

How long did they tell you to wait before going to see someone if you're still getting positive tests? ((Hugs)) 'cos I know that must have been really difficult. It could just be residual HCG in your system, but if you're worried it might be worth booking an appointment with your GP anyway - you could talk to him/her about trying again too.

I feel more like I'll definitely be ready to start trying next cycle. I want to ask my GP about whether the low progesterone or high prolactin they found before could have any impact on a pregnancy. I need to know whether I should be on progesterone or whatever. Because I got pg just before we were due to go for our referral, I don't know if we should get referred again to investigate the dodgy results or whether the will just consider us ok unless more mc's happen. I'm hoping this mc didn't happen because of low progesterone that could have been sorted - the doctor didn't say anything about it when I went for my first appointment with her, but maybe she had forgotten or maybe it was too late by then anyway?

AnnieM x