Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

ginvzt

I loved my previous job, and didn't want to leave it, but we were relocating, so I have no choice. Still we didn't conceive while I was there.Now, I am in the current job for 8 months (!!!!), didn't really enjoy it for the first 6 months, it is getting better at the moment (since I started to go away and do a bit of different work). Maybe - finally we can get lucky? I am just hoping for the promotion and pay rise before I go on maternity leave (every little helps!!!)

PeachyJem

I've also decided that i don't want fertility treatment. Im type 1 diabetic and although i don't see it being a problem, i personally couldn't take anymore medications, treatments etc etc. I find it hard as it is having two injections a day:o. I hope that i can have children one day naturally, but i've also had a strong desire to adopt for many many years. Again i'm too scared to do anything about it as i think i'll be laughed at for being so young (24).I've had really bad depression in the past and also my partner has a few health problems(nothing major) and i feel that will also affect us with adoption.??!

ginvzt

I am one more of those willing to adopt. I would love to have my own baby, to feel him/her growing inside me, and giving this wonderful gift to my husband, but ever since a child, I wanted to adopt, maybe one day we will do it. I just one to give family to one of those unlucky children. I haven't decided about the treatment. We would probably go with it if it was deemed the only way and the chances were reasonable. If the chances are low, I don't think I would go ahead (I am a mathematician and I know a fair bit about statistics:o), but one can't be sure about this until the time to make a choice comes...

PeachyJem

ginvzt wrote: »

I am one more of those willing to adopt. I would love to have my own baby, to feel him/her growing inside me, and giving this wonderful gift to my husband, but ever since a child, I wanted to adopt, maybe one day we will do it. I just one to give family to one of those unlucky children. I haven't decided about the treatment. We would probably go with it if it was deemed the only way and the chances were reasonable. If the chances are low, I don't think I would go ahead (I am a mathematician and I know a fair bit about statistics:o), but one can't be sure about this until the time to make a choice comes...

You've summed up exactly how i feel there. I want to be pregnant, have the awful symptoms but enjoy every tiny second of them, and also like you said make Oh a daddy, but at the same time there are soooo many unwanted, beautiful children ready and waiting for people like us with an unlimited amount of love to give.I think i may start looking into it. I just have a feeling because of my past depression, that i can't.

ginvzt

PeachyJem wrote: »

You've summed up exactly how i feel there. I want to be pregnant, have the awful symptoms but enjoy every tiny second of them, and also like you said make Oh a daddy, but at the same time there are soooo many unwanted, beautiful children ready and waiting for people like us with an unlimited amount of love to give.I think i may start looking into it. I just have a feeling because of my past depression, that i can't.

Never say never. Asking is a good start, I think. Whatever happens, I think we can't get any further from that final goal than we are now, even if the answer from authorities is a no...

PeachyJem

ginvzt wrote: »

Never say never. Asking is a good start, I think. Whatever happens, I think we can't get any further from that final goal than we are now, even if the answer from authorities is a no...

Well i've started looking into it on my local councils website, and i fit the criteria so far...gonna talk to OH about it again and see how he feels and go from there. Atleast if we do get a no, then we can still say we've tried. x

jiblets1

A friend of mine is suggesting I go part time on my teaching job. To be honest, although we could afford to do it (just) it would really change my quality of life and I'm not sure getting broke is the best way to start a life with child....

But I can really see her point. I've lost count of the number of late periods and delayed ovulations that I can pinpoint specifically to a nasty staff meeting or stressful time of year. I'm starting to really consider it. Even if I just stopped one day a week. It could even save us potential IVF costs. It's interesting that so many others here are considering the same thing in one form or another.

Js_Other_Half

Just to say I changed jobs before embarking on the IVF, I used to work shifts (residential work with learning disabled children) and I think the move enabled me to get pg with the first cycle of IVF.

AnnieM_3

At the risk of sounding really old-fashioned and un-emancipated...

...it's a shame that most of us women HAVE to work these days. I wish we had the choice, but most families just simply can't afford to live on one wage.

I realise a lot of women manage to have kids and have very successful careers, but for those of us who are struggling to get pregnant, and think that a break might do the trick it would just be nice to be able to do it.

I'm not advocating we should be unambitious or not career-minded, in case anyone was wondering. I guess I really want to have my cake and eat it! :rotfl:

AnnieM x

shelly

I have to say that I haven't worked for a year now since being made redundant (have been looking and applying but no luck) The most stress I have in a day is deciding what to do for tea or deciding shall I wash my hair today or tomorrow.....Hasn't worked for us, still no BFP.