Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

becs

Hi AnnieM

My GP said to me that prolactin levels were increased by stress so I'm sure if you're job is stressful it won't be helping. I had a friend who had a really high pressure career in catering so long hours, working in london and commuting and senior so lots of responsability. She tried for 8 years to conceive then decided the job had to go! Low and behold within a few months she became pregnant with her little boy and she was in her early forties. I know it's probably not what you want to hear but if you can change jobs or find some great ways to really unwind when you're out of work may well be the key! Good luck.

AnnieM_3

becs wrote: »

Hi AnnieM

My GP said to me that prolactin levels were increased by stress so I'm sure if you're job is stressful it won't be helping. I had a friend who had a really high pressure career in catering so long hours, working in london and commuting and senior so lots of responsability. She tried for 8 years to conceive then decided the job had to go! Low and behold within a few months she became pregnant with her little boy and she was in her early forties. I know it's probably not what you want to hear but if you can change jobs or find some great ways to really unwind when you're out of work may well be the key! Good luck.

Yeesh! If only I could afford to stop work! :rolleyes: It's so difficult to even think about changing jobs in this current climate though. I just wish I could say to my boss that I needed to go home early so I can get pg! :rotfl:

Somnium

liloandstitch wrote: »

Im a bit late to the party, but 100% agree on the jealousy thing too. People are insensitive even when they know you are ttc and going through IVF - my daughter in law told me that she had had soooo many problems conceiving and it took suuuuuch a long time - a whole 6 months WOW, I was so upset for her.

Lilo

Again people just don't realise how lucky they are!

The good thing about working at Mothercare is the staff are really supportive (wouldn't be much cop at their jobs otherwise), well those that I am close to and know what I'm going through are. I had a couple of colleagues who have fallen pregnant and have been shy to tell for fear of hurting my feelings, which I thought was so sweet and I told them not to be so daft.

FairyElephant_2

Important for those getting NHS treatment... I was at the #2 mtg of our support group last eve, and it was confirmed by the staff there that the rules re 'top up' treatment have changed - they got the official directive yesterday. Not that this counts for us, as we've nver been able to have any NHS help (GGRRRR!) but the previous NHS rules were that you couldn't 'top up' the treatment privately, so for eg, if your PCT paid for IVF but not ICSI, you couldn't pay the difference and have ICSI, or the same if they didn't pay for freezing - if you had 'spare' embryos you would have had to waste them, as you couldn't have paid to have them frozen if you were on a NHS funded cycle (how stupid was that one?!?). Well apparently this has now all changed, and you CAN pay for 'extras'. If this applies to you, best to talk it over with your FC as soon as poss! Hope this helps someone.

As for me ....CD41 and STILL no sign of AF.... Appt with my consultant this afternoon. Got some more ?'s for her, so better write them down in case I forget something.

liloandstitch

Good luck with the consultant FE, hope you get your questions answered!

Lilo

Somnium

FE thanks for the info referance top up treatment thats very intresting.

ginvzt

Well, we are one step close to finding out what is going on with us - OH did the semen analysis this morning. I will be doing the last blood test in 1.5 week, and then we can go to see our GP!!!!

Oh, and the best - I think we will definitely be moving the house this time. We saw a very lovely one last night, but don't want to make a decision until we see the one we have arranged the viewing for this Sunday - it is in such a lovely area (we wanted to buy a house in that road and we lost it in bidding war - we were gutted and the wounds just started to heal, and that was 8 months ago!!!!!), but it looks lovely from outside, but there are no photos of inside, so we can't know anything until we see it!!!!! I so want to move, I really don't like this 'coach house' we are living in now!!!

PeachyJem

becs wrote: »

Hi AnnieM

My GP said to me that prolactin levels were increased by stress so I'm sure if you're job is stressful it won't be helping. I had a friend who had a really high pressure career in catering so long hours, working in london and commuting and senior so lots of responsability. She tried for 8 years to conceive then decided the job had to go! Low and behold within a few months she became pregnant with her little boy and she was in her early forties. I know it's probably not what you want to hear but if you can change jobs or find some great ways to really unwind when you're out of work may well be the key! Good luck.

Becs, your post has really cheered me up Ive not been succesful in 7 years so you have given me lots of hope. I really was getting down about it. Hope you all are feeling better. We'll all get there soon, i know it! x x

becs

Glad it cheered you up PeachyJem and it was all natural as they opted not to have any fertility treatment so I think it is another of those cases that proves how much our bodies react to stress. I guess if you think about it logically it's natures way of protecting us and children I guess, if women who are already highly stressed became pregnant and had children it wouldn't be good for either. It's just a shame nature doen't realise it's the 21st century and most women are stressed because of not being able to get pregnant or in jobs until they have their children!

Krystaltips

Sorry for thread hijacking... But I changed jobs and was pregnant within a month after 6 years trying and infertility testing... My midwife at the time said she had come across it quite a few times... I think job stress had a lot to do with me not concieving at the time...