Trying For a Baby II

iwantababy123

alittlesad wrote: »

I've been off the pill 7 months and no period :eek:
After spending many months kidding myself I was pregnant...I went to the Dr's! My advice would be to go if you get to 3 months and heckle them into doing blood tests - wish I hadn't left it so bloody late now as after speaking to a gyno family friend I'm told there's plenty they can do to make it restart and get your ovulating again!

Wow 7 months :eek: Are they doing something to get you "going" again?

alittlesad_2

iwantababy123 wrote: »

Wow 7 months :eek: Are they doing something to get you "going" again?

Back at the Dr's tomorrow and I am armed with a tonne of info from the gyno friend - he has told me what to ask for and demand!! Had a hospital scan last wk which was truly awful - she kept slipping up and suggesting things were wrong but then wouldn't tell me anything :mad:

Whilst it's bad it's also good as it's made me and the OH sit down and really discuss what we want and that is to have a family and now [please!] So yeah fingers crossed things work out tomorrow! And fingers crossed we and everyone else on here has a BFP soon

becs

Hi Alittlesad,

My Af stopped fro a year after I'd come off the pill, I had a few cycles then nothing. Get your GP to check your prolactin levels on a blood test. This is what my GP did although most don't, luckily for me she did this quite quickly and I was diagnosed with a pituitary tumour. I'm now on daily meds and cycle has returned to normal, this happened within 4 weeks of starting meds! Pituitary tumours are thought to be alot more common than Dr's realise because most women are diagnosed through fertility issues but they can affect men and women. Unfortunately they are still seen as rare which is why most GP's don't test prolactin. Having read others stories on the support forum some went for years before being diagnosed. On the more positive note on the pituitary website forum there are a few ladies currently expecting and all happened within a few months of starting the meds.
Good luck
Becs

fattybooboo

Hi, just been reading last nights posts with interest. Still no sign of AF this morning and still not really thinking like its going to come any time soon, only signs I have are still sore breasts (well just nipples really, sorry TMI!!,and a bit more than usual discharge TMI TMI!!) God I dont know if I will be able to wait 3 months before going to Docs but I know Im just being mega impatient!! :rolleyes:

iwantababy123 - Yes I am loving talking to everyone on here too, its nice talking to people going through the same situation and getting helpful responses.

alittlesad_2

becs wrote: »

Hi Alittlesad,

My Af stopped fro a year after I'd come off the pill, I had a few cycles then nothing. Get your GP to check your prolactin levels on a blood test. This is what my GP did although most don't, luckily for me she did this quite quickly and I was diagnosed with a pituitary tumour. I'm now on daily meds and cycle has returned to normal, this happened within 4 weeks of starting meds! Pituitary tumours are thought to be alot more common than Dr's realise because most women are diagnosed through fertility issues but they can affect men and women. Unfortunately they are still seen as rare which is why most GP's don't test prolactin. Having read others stories on the support forum some went for years before being diagnosed. On the more positive note on the pituitary website forum there are a few ladies currently expecting and all happened within a few months of starting the meds.
Good luck
Becs

Hey Becs!
Thanks for the pointer - funnily enough the Dr mentioned this morning that there was an abnormality in my prolactin level when they tested 3 wks ago and they were going to do more tests but these are still not back - going to push for it now I have heard about your tumour...honestly didn't know what prolactin meant before!!
Had a referral back to the hospital in the middle of December so should hopefully find out more then...fingers crossed. Feeling very dejected this morning and a bit like giving up - my estradiol levels were low at 69 but have now dropped to 61. ARGH. Who knew TTC would be so hard?!
Hope everyone else is doing well this morning?
xxx

Dreama

Hi All

I have been hovering on the board for some time now, as I am desperate to start TTC. I have been with my partner for 7 years, and we were teenagers when we got together so never really talked about the issue until a few years ago. Now my problem is that the last time I spoke to my partner about it he said he understood that I want one, but said he is just being lasy by not wanting to TTC....that he hardly has free time as it is and that he would never have any with a child. He definately wants them, but always says 'one day'...now I know if I were to fall pg he would stand by me, but he will not committ to TTC - and I don't know what to do. It is more difficult because both my sisters and his four siblings all now have children and I feel sick at gatherings because I want this so much and I feel like i'm the one who'll never get it.

Am i overreacting? I don't want to force him into it but I can't go on with this longing, it is making me so miserable, I can;t think of anything else...

Sorry for the rant

HypnoNu

Oh Dreama, you will get the baby you want because your OH isn't saying "no" which is definitely a start....i think men take that much longer to come round to this stuff and if he's anything like my hubby then he finds the pressure of the decision to TTC too hard, especially when i kept going on about when we could start trying...

The way we dealt with it was to agree a date when we would come off the pill and then we would see what happened, and it meant from my side that I stopped talking about it and pushing the issue and let us both relax about it. What that really meant for me was that I could quietly become obsessed with cycles and stuff and he could just think enjoy the BD'ing without always feeling the pressure of it being " to make a baby", from his side he knows i'm off the pill but we're not TTC as such, we just not stopping ourselves from getting pregnant.

And hopefully when we become pregnant I can just congratulate him on having super-sperm and making me pregnant without us really trying (and i know that i was making sure things were in the right place at the right time to give us every chance of it happening!)

The turning point for him was when i explained that the problem i have was not that we were not actively TTC, it was the fact that we were actively stopping ourselves from getting pregnant....

Sorry of that was a bit of a ramble...hope it makes sense!

Dreama

Hi Hypno,

Thanks for your response

It really helps to hear the same situation from another couple, especially the bit about we are not actively trying, but at the moment we are actively stopping it ... I can see that registering much better in O/H's brain!

I will try that one and see if it helps, I will be happy to do all of the TTC obsessing myself, I just need him to take the step to let me ... I want to stop sounding like i'm baby mad and just get on with it!

shelly

Dreama wrote: »

Hi All

I have been hovering on the board for some time now, as I am desperate to start TTC. I have been with my partner for 7 years, and we were teenagers when we got together so never really talked about the issue until a few years ago. Now my problem is that the last time I spoke to my partner about it he said he understood that I want one, but said he is just being lasy by not wanting to TTC....that he hardly has free time as it is and that he would never have any with a child. He definately wants them, but always says 'one day'...now I know if I were to fall pg he would stand by me, but he will not committ to TTC - and I don't know what to do. It is more difficult because both my sisters and his four siblings all now have children and I feel sick at gatherings because I want this so much and I feel like i'm the one who'll never get it.

Am i overreacting? I don't want to force him into it but I can't go on with this longing, it is making me so miserable, I can;t think of anything else...

Sorry for the rant

I'm going to be harsh and sympathetic at the same time.

My personal opinion about "forcing him into it" is that it would be a very selfish thing to do. On the other hand I know exactly where you are coming from as I felt the same for years (not about forcing him into it....the longing for a baby bit)

Before hubby and I started TTC I thought about stopping my pill on the sly for all of about 2 secs. I just couldn't have done it to him. What would be the consequences if he found out? The trust we have would be gone in an instant.
I wanted him to want a child as much as I did, not have it forced on him.

For me its something that depends on trust and respect.

Ultimately the decision is yours but I'd advise thinking long and hard about going behind his back.

Dreama

Hi Shelley,

I think I may have come across the wrong way, I would never, ever go behind his back, of course the thought has come into my mind by accidently forgetting to be careful but I could never do that, I just couldn't live with myself. Also it is something I want so much that I also want him to be the same, I want the day I see a BFP to be such a happy memory for us both, which is why I am so wary of pushing it - I don't want to nag him into it, but if he really does and like he says he is just 'being lazy' by not thinking about it I don't want to let it slide.

Oh it's driving me insane, god damn maternal feelings! And bless them at the same time!!