Trying For a Baby II

lizziebell*80

Totally agree that men just don't see it like we do, but fair enough it is technically slightly removed from them seeing as we are the ones who are the most involved and on the schedule with respect to the fertile time of the month etc which a lot of the time they are completely oblivious to seeing as they do not have the same limitations (although to be fair until you start into this game I would think most women aren't that clued up on their cycle- well I wasn't due to years of ignorance on the pill really).

My DH is up for having kids and trying now, but still needs some encouragement to do the deed! We really only started as I had read so much on the net about how unlikely it actually is to get pg in a month, like 30% or something if everything is all in working order on both sides so that gave us the boot up the bum.

Dreama- You haven't mentioned how old you both are either, which may also play a big part in ttc. Has he ever said anything about when he sees himself as a dad, like at a certain age? This was my life plan, and any time, circumstances being right (and haven't been till now really), after 26 and definately want one before 30 (now 28) so maybe he is waiting for a point in his head where he has a mental plan? Alternatively he may not have given it serious thought-maybe you may kick start his grey cells on this. Did you happen to see any of the sex eduction programmes on Ch4 last month, they did a good one on fertility? He might just need to be made aware of the time it can take to conceive and that thinking about it sooner rather than later might be the way to go?

Does he know how miserable you feel?

Dreama

Hi LizzieBell

No I didn't see those programmes on C4 but if they are avaliable online still I will download one!

O/H is 27 and I am 25, I always planned to have a large family and I think that has kicked me into action sooner rather than later. Also I am at a good point in my career and I just have this feeling inside me 24 hours a day, it actually hurts :-(

I have told him how I feel but he is not one for making decisions or thinking about things so it's hard for him to not take it as nagging. I am aware that it is going to take time to concieve so I just want to get cracking and give ourselves the best chance of getting PG....I am going to speak to him about the mental plan thing tonight, I think it will help if he can associate it with an age, and if it is a little way off then so be it, all I want is for us both to want the same thing!! :-)

djdymond

im on CD19 of 29. the last few days ive been either weepy or angry at more or less anything! my arms seem to really ache and my breasts are very sore. they normally are a week before im due but im currently due in 2 weeks. i also seem to get this odd nasuea feeling but it is very faint. then i think i must be imagining it although my appetitie hasnt gone. i know deep down i wont be pregnant as weve only been trying this month.. my problem is i get all these things during time of the month anyway. so im just going to wait and see...

trying not to post too much and not doing any sort of plan etc still, as like some of you, i want us to bd because we want to, not because the calender/diary says to.

anyway i am still reading, and hope you all are having a good day! x

lizziebell*80

Dreama wrote: »

Hi LizzieBell

No I didn't see those programmes on C4 but if they are avaliable online still I will download one!

O/H is 27 and I am 25, I always planned to have a large family and I think that has kicked me into action sooner rather than later. Also I am at a good point in my career and I just have this feeling inside me 24 hours a day, it actually hurts :-(

I have told him how I feel but he is not one for making decisions or thinking about things so it's hard for him to not take it as nagging. I am aware that it is going to take time to concieve so I just want to get cracking and give ourselves the best chance of getting PG....I am going to speak to him about the mental plan thing tonight, I think it will help if he can associate it with an age, and if it is a little way off then so be it, all I want is for us both to want the same thing!! :-)

http://sexperienceuk.channel4.com/videos/about/pregnancy
http://www.channel4.com/video/the-sex-education-show/series-1/
If you select a clip from second link, there is a button to watch the full programme with Ch4 on demand and just have to install that feature I think.

lizziebell*80

djdymond wrote: »

i know deep down i wont be pregnant as weve only been trying this month..

I got pg the first month of trying (it just wasn't a viable one for me) so doesn't mean anything.

iwantababy123

Hi Dreama

I can totally see where you're coming from and it must be very frustrating for you. I'm also 25 and we've just decided to start trying. I'd just ask your OH if he's going to mind being an "old" Dad, the reason my OH (who is 23) wants to start trying now as he knows how long it can take and he wants us to have a few children and he doesn't want to be an "old" Dad, he wants to be able to play football with them (he's footy mad!!) for as long as possible and stuff like that.

Maybe he needs something to read so he realises how long it can take and how the later you leave it the longer it takes/more problems could occur. I know in my case, my OH has the ability to completely tune me out and doesn't listen to what i'm saying at all :rolleyes: I know what it's like to feel like you're nagging as well, you're probably not, I bet he's just not listening so you want to keep going on about it til he DOES listen.

djdymond - I'm doing this to myself as well, only a bit, just feeling so tired and constantly starving but a bit sicky too and I'm being so daft coz I know we're not going to be, it's my first month off my pill and we haven't done much BDing due to my bad back. I completely agree about not just BDing to get pregnant, I looked at the SMEP and I really hope it works for the people who are trying it and I wont rule it out for the future but for now I don't want any pressure on us.

It's so cold here today! I just got caught in a horrible rain/hail/snow type shower thing and I can't get warm at all

got-it-spend-it

djdymond wrote: »

im on CD19 of 29. the last few days ive been either weepy or angry at more or less anything! my arms seem to really ache and my breasts are very sore. they normally are a week before im due but im currently due in 2 weeks. i also seem to get this odd nasuea feeling but it is very faint. then i think i must be imagining it although my appetitie hasnt gone. i know deep down i wont be pregnant as weve only been trying this month.. my problem is i get all these things during time of the month anyway. so im just going to wait and see...

trying not to post too much and not doing any sort of plan etc still, as like some of you, i want us to bd because we want to, not because the calender/diary says to.

anyway i am still reading, and hope you all are having a good day! x

DJDymond I feel I could have written that! First month TTC, sore boobs, some nausea......I've also been waking up at 4am for the past five days and feeling soo sick. Not really sure why. My rational brain says 'you should be so lucky' but it is so hard not to symptom spot!

djdymond

lizziebell*80 wrote: »

I got pg the first month of trying (it just wasn't a viable one for me) so doesn't mean anything.

thanks lizziebell, i think right down inside me theres something shouting out oh my god you are pregnant, thats what the nausea etc is! but if i start believing it, i will be so disapointed so i keep sayng to myself naaaah its not going to be this month, hoping itll make it so!

im trying to be as cool as possible about it and trying not to stress out.

djdymond

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

DJDymond I feel I could have written that! First month TTC, sore boobs, some nausea......I've also been waking up at 4am for the past five days and feeling soo sick. Not really sure why. My rational brain says 'you should be so lucky' but it is so hard not to symptom spot!

yeah it really is not to.. every little thing which could be down to anything else im thinking is it... is it???? and i have to keep thinking nooo surely not. although i know every month ill be like this and every month till it happens i will symptom spot until i can say see i knew it this month!!!:rotfl:

AnnieM_3

Hi everyone,

Am miserable today - tired and feel like I'm getting 'flu. I've been in a crabby mood all day, really.

I feel old, despite being only just in my 30s, and also not pg. I can't even bring myself to hope that the SMEP has worked - it's just depressing me. I just can't seem to imagine myself with a baby growing and a bump

Sorry for being a misery-guts. I'm just very keenly aware that we have given ourselves this last cycle to manage to get pg without assistance, and then it'll be off to the docs for tests/referrals etc. It's probably the 2ww blues, the weather and the fact that I'm coming down with something.

I may give the last night of bd a miss if I still feel yucky later... Although if I don't get a bfp then I'll always wonder if I missed a chance... :mad: Any SMEP updates from anyone else?

AnnieM x