Trying For a Baby II

ginvzt

GracieP wrote: »

Some people are incredibly insensitive. My friend and her husband have been married over 6 years and from the first day they returned from honeymoon her m-i-l has been on at them to give her a "proper" grandchild. (She already had a grandchild from one of her other sons, but as the parents weren't married it didn't count.) At a family party about 4 years ago she went around and told everyone my friend was expecting twins. My poor friend had no idea until people came up and started congratulating her.

I have to say I'd cut my m-i-l out if she ever started to carry on like that. Mine is in her 70's and as yet grandchildless. Apart from getting tipsy at our wedding and telling anyone who cared to listen that she felt ready for grandkids now (she would also prefer grandkids born in wedlock) she hasn't been too pushy. Though they are coming for a visit tomorrow so maybe that will change.

I can't believe about your friend's mil - going around saying they are having twins!!!! I think I would refuse to talk to my mil if she did that! Both our parents have no grandchildren - we both are the eldest in the families! To be honest, I don't really have a good relationship with my mil - she is too bossy for me, we get a lecture about healthy eating every time we come (my OH is overweight, has been for ever, and I am not a skinny one either). She is 65 this month and we are going to see them this weekend in Italy - we are all going out to restaurant for celebration meal (OH's dad is 70 this month too), so I suppose I'll have to order salad instead of nice italian food!

Actually, my OH went to friends wedding in September, so after few drinks - I have no idea what he told the world!!!! Maybe everyone expects me to arrive with a bump!

mancbird

djdymond wrote: »

i realise hes not trying to be mean. as he says, he just wants to come home to me and little one, in our own happy warm home, with plenty of food thats not all value, clothes from nice shops instead of having cheap, not because we choose to, but because theres no choice at all, and knowing theres no debts and nothing to financially worry about.. but if he was made redundant in the future, you couldnt change that. we would change our lifestyle as we needed to. i still think hes being a little too careful. still, i suppose waiting another 8 weeks or so if alot better than waiting the 2 years i already have!

I know exactly how you feel! My oh wants us to wait until after Christmas before we start "properly" ttc and I am feeling very broody! It's frustrating because I can't really see what difference two months would make but I'm not going to push the issue as it will be January soon anyway.

At the moment I'm waiting for AF to arrive, I'm due today but as yet she hasn't appeared. I did think I could be pg last week as I felt different and had very sore boobies (sorry if tmi!) but this week I've started to get all the usual tummy aches and pains I get just before AF Still, she hasn't appeared yet so fingers crossed! I'm not getting my hopes up though...

Congrats to all the BFPs x

ginvzt

Martha1 wrote: »

I don't know whether anyone else has this experience but our friends that already have children are very supportive and don't ask how we're getting on, unless we mention it, but I get a monthly text from my other friend who doesn't have children asking me if there's any news, you can imagination the combination of AF and getting that kind of text:eek: !

We haven't told that particular friend, but every time we used to meet up, she would bring on a subject of children and keep telling how her friend has been trying for 3 years, and later on that she is going for IVF!!!! I can't tell you how sick of that I was....:o

GracieP

Martha1 wrote: »

GracieP - hope you don't get any pressure from your MIL this w/end.

Ah, I don't think she'll be too bad. My husband's sister got engaged in Sept so I'm sure that'll be enough to keep her occupied for now. I just have to sweep through the house and make sure none of my pre-natal vitamins are on display. And take my maternity clothes out of the drawer in the spare room where my husband stashed them when I mc'd. I'd hate for her to get the wrong idea.:o

And I have to say that if I'm in my 70's and grandchildless I'll have a hard time from stopping myself be a pushy mother/m-i-l myself. Being desperate for grandchildren has to be like a weaker reflection of ttc, so I don't blame them for being a tiny bit gran-broody.

djdymond

mancbirdQuote:
Originally Posted by djdymond
i realise hes not trying to be mean. as he says, he just wants to come home to me and little one, in our own happy warm home, with plenty of food thats not all value, clothes from nice shops instead of having cheap, not because we choose to, but because theres no choice at all, and knowing theres no debts and nothing to financially worry about.. but if he was made redundant in the future, you couldnt change that. we would change our lifestyle as we needed to. i still think hes being a little too careful. still, i suppose waiting another 8 weeks or so if alot better than waiting the 2 years i already have!

I know exactly how you feel! My oh wants us to wait until after Christmas before we start "properly" ttc and I am feeling very broody! It's frustrating because I can't really see what difference two months would make but I'm not going to push the issue as it will be January soon anyway.

At the moment I'm waiting for AF to arrive, I'm due today but as yet she hasn't appeared. I did think I could be pg last week as I felt different and had very sore boobies (sorry if tmi!) but this week I've started to get all the usual tummy aches and pains I get just before AF Still, she hasn't appeared yet so fingers crossed! I'm not getting my hopes up though...

Congrats to all the BFPs x


my god we sound so alike! i came on this morning!

i was on the injection for about 4 years or so and came off it november of last year.. i remember thinking it would take months and months for the effect to wear off, and that depressed me. i remember thinking im this broody, and because the injection theres nothing i can even do about it, im not even capable of having a child. that was really hard to live with.. and here we are a whole year later, my word!

still, if you do start ttc in january too, we can keep eachother updated

mancbird

djdymond wrote: »

still, if you do start ttc in january too, we can keep eachother updated

Definitely!

My AF still hasn't arrived so I'm hoping it won't but realistically I'm expecting it either later today or tomorrow

Here's to January :T :T :T

Leopardlady

Well djdymond and Mancbird my OH wants us to wait until January to really try, although he knows it could happen now but he wants a baby in October! I have tried to explain that planning that carefully is difficult so we should try now and see what happens. Oh well lets see if AF arrives.

Baby dust to all with sticky stuff

becs

My Mum has been quite pushy about me going to Dr's etc and getting checked out but that's mainly because of my situation. She feels that the tumour having stopped my cycle for over a year we still don't know if everything is ok. I've tried explaining that because cycle only started again this year we've effectively only been in a position to try for the past 4 cycles so my GP would just say it's too soon. I've said we'll give it until the NEw Year and then see her. Will have seen my consultant by then as well so he'll be able to advise if theres been any change with the tumour which might affect things.
In the meantime I've ordered a clearblue fertility monitor off ebay to see if that helps, so fingers crossed.
Why is it that life seems to always kick you when you're down as well. Alot of us seem to be having a tougher month on here than normal me included, and tonight DH comes home to say his friend is 9 weeks pregnant. unplanned and she was on the pill! How is this fair!

rose7_2

djdymond wrote: »

Me and OH have been together 6 years next month and were married last month. i have been desperalty broody for the last 2 years!!


Long time lurker first time poster...

djdymond me and OH have also agreed to start trying in Jan (seems to be a few of us waiting for the new year) after getting married in Sept. I know how you feel as I am mega broody and obsessed with this thread even though we haven't actually started ttc yet!

I can see the sense in waiting until Jan for us as we are in the process of some big stuff work wise (we are self employed) but although OH definitely wants kids I am much more impatient than he is. We had a bit of a talk recently after another semi-hysterical outbusrt from me and he explained that he is keen to start ttc but also quite scared and anxious about the whole baby thing. I think that men and women both feel scared but once the broodiness hits it really takes over and drowns out the fear for women whereas men just don't have that in the same way.

Anyway apologies for the rambling post, good luck everyone

LADY_A_5

hi all, not sure if this is the right place for this but this is all i could find.
i cannot have children naturally, i need to have ivf and i am wondering if there is anyone here that can tell me what to expect. apparently you get the first one free via nhs (postcode lottery im told). me and oh are going to put names down as there is a waiting list, i would like to know what it entails.
is the process painfull? (im a wimp) i have heard many things and would really appreciate any advice from anyone that has actually been through this process. maybe in pm? we are both curious and the leaflets are nothing like personal experiences.
any help really appreciated thankyou and good luck to everybody xx