Trying For a Baby II

shelly

elle_gee wrote: »

When I saw my GP a few weeks ago and he asked if I was trying again, he started ranting about how he didn't like the "early" tests and how only about ten years ago everyone was told to only test on the day AF was due, and not before. He said it does absolutely nothing for your mental health if you get a positive test then start bleeding a few days later. Like you've said, years ago you would have just thought you were a few days late and not think much of it, but now for all those who have an early positive and then bleed will always know it was a(nother) m/c.

Totally agree with your GP.

When I had my first mc I was asked if I had ever had any before. I said no but after chatting to the doctor its perfectly possible I could have.
Lots of women have had/can have an mc without knowing it.
During my adult life I have been late a handful of times but then AF has come on very heavy and painful.......I used to pass clots but not so much as I have gotten older.
Apparently these times *could* have been a mc.....we will never know, and I'd rather not know to be honest.

Personally, as a woman ttc successfully for 4 years now I put enough pressure on myself to get pg without the added stress and pressure of testing early.
I have no reason at all to know early, what difference does a few days make?

djdymond

hi everyone, hope your all ok this morning

its taken me weeks, probably months on and off, to read all of this thread and the one before and have laughed and cried with you all through out.

Me and OH have been together 6 years next month and were married last month. i have been desperalty broody for the last 2 years!! i always said i wanted to be married first and i got my wish. OH always wanted to have the stability of a flat of our own with mortgage, instead of the possibility of our landlord chucking us out at any given time..

we were supposed to be in our bought flat in august. OH has always said lets give it a month or two to get an average of the outgoings in the new place, then we can plan and see if we can afford giving up work. well, because of builders going bust and blah blah blah, we moved in last weekend!

OH is now saying lets wait till jan/feb and its killing me inside. every now and then when i try to describe that my head knows its best to see if we can afford the flat first etc, my heart and my body need to do this... oh dear im filling up again!! :rolleyes: last night we were chatting and having a laugh when all of a sudden i asked him for the 1000th time in the last 2 years " can we just start trying now?" deep down knowing what the answer would be but i asked anyway. i feel so crushed and heartbroken when the usual "well, lets just see..." that i said to him "if the answer isnt the one i want to hear, please dont say anything." and he looked at me and said nothing, just gave me his smile that said sorry and i sat and cried. he held me and all i could say was please.... please anthony" and he said nothing. i didnt think being broody would effect me like this. he keeps saying weve waited 2 years, another couple of months wont hurt but they are for me. every day since then ive been tormenting myself reading books, reading threads like this, looking up nurserys.

he says he does realise what this is doing to me and not a day goes by he doesnt think of having kids. he says he really wants them too. id never trick him into it and the two of us dont want him to be pressured/bullied into it either so i just have to wait

xcat_girlx

morning all,

i've not been on here for a while. congrats to any BFPs i've missed. hope everyone still trying is doing good and we're all keeping positive.

i was just wondering if anyone has ever gotten EWCM twice in a month? i had it last tuesday (CD 11) and then also on monday night (CD 18). not sure if its possible as im guessing you cant OV twice? only had 1 AF since i came off the pill so i cant even really work my cycle out. its v.confusing! any help appreciated.

Little_Pickle

Hello all,

I just wanted to let you all know that Mr P and I have done 4 tests, all +.
We tried Superdrug's own brand and Boots own brand and all were the same result. So I guess this is goodbye for now...

You have been wonderful over the last few months on both this thread and the previous one.

I wish you all the luck in the world...*crosses fingers*
please think sticky thoughts for me and my excited Mr Pickle!

big big love and kisses,
your Little Pickle
xoxox

galvanizersbaby

:T congrats LP and all the other BFP's I've missed!

skintchick

Oh Pickle that's great! Hope it all goes well for you and you have a healthy even-more-little pickle soon!
xx

HypnoNu

Congratulations Little Pickle! :T
There's been quite a few BFP's recently...hoping for even more!

elastigirl

aww :grouphug: djdymond I know it must be so hard for you when you just want to get started it's difficult when one person doesn't want to try yet with us it was actually me who has made dh wait i won't go into details but had a v tramtic 1st birth and when i get pg (fingers cross soon) i will have to have a c-section beacause of what happened. I was very frightened it would happen again. But i just thought about the end goal a beautiful baby and 3 1/2 years later feel ready.

Sil made me mad she has just told me she is pg and said just think by next christmas i will have 3 and you will only have 1. ok she doesn't know we think i mc'd a while ago and she doesn't know we are trying but still a bit upsetting. Why is it that the min you start trying everyone else around you is pg.

djdymond

congrats Pickles!!:T :T :T :beer: :beer: :j :j

fortunalty for me, there is no one on either side of the family with a baby or even toddler right now. none of our friends either. OR any work mates. none show any sign of wanting kids etc so i would be the first all round!! i know that everyone who knows us cant wait for us to have a baby, especially now my parents who always wanted me to do it the right way, well theyre now tired of waiting and us being " a little TOO sensible"! my dad even said in his speech at the wedding " we all hope to hear the patter of tiny feet, hopefully anthony will sort this out"!

i realise hes not trying to be mean. as he says, he just wants to come home to me and little one, in our own happy warm home, with plenty of food thats not all value, clothes from nice shops instead of having cheap, not because we choose to, but because theres no choice at all, and knowing theres no debts and nothing to financially worry about.. but if he was made redundant in the future, you couldnt change that. we would change our lifestyle as we needed to. i still think hes being a little too careful. still, i suppose waiting another 8 weeks or so if alot better than waiting the 2 years i already have!

thanks elastigirl for your comment, i thought id been forgotten! :rotfl: and im so sorry to hear you had a bit of a bad time. xxx

reetyre

Congrats LP!
Just so you know the access diagnostics tests I used are the normal ones and the "early" ones. I am now 4-5 weeks and I did one of each last night and they still show only a very very faint line not as dark as the control line - in fact you can hardly see it at all to be honest. the clearblue tests I did were all positive.
Good luck all, and thanks for all the support. x