Trying For a Baby II

AnnieM_3

Well I tested again this morning - a cheapie and a clearblue. Both bfn. I just don't get it!

Have to say, though, my bbs are definitely less swollen, so maybe af will show up today.

I'm so fed up, and I bet those of you who are also in the same boat are too. This really bites, doesn't it!

AnnieM x

angela6834

Annie....it can take some people a while to build up the hormone toshow up in your urine....I really hope you get the result you want soon x Good luck x

AnnieM_3

AF has arrived. I hate my body for doing this to me.

fattybooboo

AnnieM wrote: »

AF has arrived. I hate my body for doing this to me.

Hi Annie M. Sorry to hear AF has arrived. This TTC malarky must be one of the hardest things for us all. Fingers crossed for good luck in the New Year.

Well I am also late and still waiting for AF to arrive. I cant help but have a tiny bit of hope that its cos Im pg but deep down I dont think I am. I think its just where my body is still adjusting the cycle since coming off the pill. I think that I am also miscalculating when my fertile times are cos of this. Grr!!! I am on CD36 today. I am not loving these long cycles!! :mad:

AnnieM_3

DH has just ordered one of the FertilityScore tests from Access Diagnostics. Has anyone got any experience with them?

He's reluctant to visit the doc (the embarrassment factor). I think we're going to see how this test goes and then make an appt.

I'm going to post this on the other thread too, in case anyone on there has any other info - apologies for the duplication - I feel like I'm 'between threads' at the mo.

AnnieM x

butterfly72

Annie, sorry AF arrived.

Well, its day 14 so we should have been busy BDing. I hadn't been feeling very well so we haven't actually done anything. However, last night I was ready for it and felt it was the right time, but OH just said to me 'I don't feel like it'. Hes not ill or anything. Just didn't feel like it. (he knew it was around my ovulation coz I'd told him the night before)

I ended up getting upset because its ANOTHER month of not doing anything then we ended up arguing. I told him that another 12 'not feeling like its' and I'll be getting on for 38 and too old! I told him that pregnancy is harder as you get older and I would worry for the health of myself and any baby at such an age - if it happened at all!!

I asked him if he has a problem with commitment.. i'm sure he does.. but he said no, he does want kids but only wants to 'do it' when he wants too! I tried to explain that I've studied biology and theres only certain times pregnancy can occur.. and its takes a bit of effort and willing on both parts. But he's just not interested. I'm actually starting to question our relationship. Sorry for the rant. I feel so rejected and low. Do I give it another 6 months? Do I stay and hope that the one time we do it will be lucky? Do I risk being childless.. will I resent him?

This have been going on for nearly a year now. and I'm getting tired of it.

shelly

butterfly72 wrote: »

Well, its day 14 so we should have been busy BDing. I hadn't been feeling very well so we haven't actually done anything. However, last night I was ready for it and felt it was the right time, but OH just said to me 'I don't feel like it'. Hes not ill or anything. Just didn't feel like it. (he knew it was around my ovulation coz I'd told him the night before)

I ended up getting upset because its ANOTHER month of not doing anything then we ended up arguing. I told him that another 12 'not feeling like its' and I'll be getting on for 38 and too old! I told him that pregnancy is harder as you get older and I would worry for the health of myself and any baby at such an age - if it happened at all!!

I asked him if he has a problem with commitment.. i'm sure he does.. but he said no, he does want kids but only wants to 'do it' when he wants too! I tried to explain that I've studied biology and theres only certain times pregnancy can occur.. and its takes a bit of effort and willing on both parts. But he's just not interested. I'm actually starting to question our relationship. Sorry for the rant. I feel so rejected and low. Do I give it another 6 months? Do I stay and hope that the one time we do it will be lucky? Do I risk being childless.. will I resent him?

This have been going on for nearly a year now. and I'm getting tired of it.

Sorry that you are having a rough time with TTC.

Does hubby only not feel like it around ov time? If so my advice is don't tell him when you are oving. If he asks then either tell him you have already ov'd or aren't due to ov for a few days yet.
Then try and get him to BD around your ov time without actually telling him.

Good luck.

Nikabella

Shelly, I'm sorry to hear about your cat. They really are a member of the family I know. My OH always pretends he can't stand our cat but when I used to work Saturdays whilst he was at home I would come back to find them sharing tuna out of a tin (slightly gross I know!!). Before I had my DD my cat was my substitute child lol. When I told my OH I wanted another kitten he said No & (as he likes to tell everyone) he got a daughter instead :rotfl:

I don't know your circumstances butterfly72 but perhaps your OH is worried about you not getting pregnant even if you BD at the right time. He could be worried about being a failure (if you know what I mean) & men just don't seem to be very good at communicating their feelings. If it is commitment issues then I'd say that lots of guys seem to panic about loosing their freedom even when they've had a ridiculously long time to enjoy it. I have a friend who's ex-partner is late 30's & he had real problems after their daughter was born as he felt it stopped him partying & golfing (which it didn't!). Please don't all jump on me for saying this (eek!) but I kind of thought that by your late 30's you have had a lot of time to do your own thing & wouldn't feel that way. My OH is 25 & he spends his saturday morning at babyballet classes with our DD lol.

I think Shelly's idea is a good one. Maybe if he doesn't think it's ov time then he will be more interested. Although I guess this doesn't solve any issues you may have with the communication within the relationship.

Hope things improve.

lisabell

I am a day late !!!!!!
Am so confused sorry if these are dumb questions but need help girlys please.
This month i ovulated a week later than your days said i should have and i was due on yesterday according to my cycle and everything now because i only ovulated 8 days ago does that mean my period will be a week late cause i ovulated late???
Sorry does that sound confusing??? any help would be appreciated

Nicki

lisabell wrote: »

I am a day late !!!!!!
does that mean my period will be a week late cause i ovulated late???

Yes, most likely. The end part of your cycle (ie the number of days from the day you ovulate to the first day of your period) tends to be much more fixed than the first part (ie from the first day of your period to the day you ovulate). So if your period is late (and you are not pregnant) it is usually because you have ovulated later than expected due to some factor in the first part of your cycle, such as being unwell, unusual stress, travel, lack of sleep or medication.