Trying to concieve 12+M !!!

chickpea

Hi folks - I must admit - the first time I posted on the TTC thread was after nearly three long years of trying - something snapped and I turned a bit mental at that stage, so I started researching everything on the web like mad, and doing and taking everything likely to help, whether medically approved or not!

The things I did/tried were:

-Laparoscopy
-Clomid
-Personal trainer
-Acupuncture
-Getting my husband to say a little prayer (he's religious, I'm not, but you never know..!)
-Wearing rose quartz
-Drinking pineapple
-Cutting out coffee
-Taking baby aspirin
-Taking cough mixture

SoI started posting and got pregnant not that long afterwards. But that was after nearly 3 years TTC. I feel I did earn my stripes and hope no-one minds if I post on either thread, because I feel I learned a fair bit in the three years and may have some advice in some instances, because I know as well as anyone what it's like.

I agree it is annoying when people pop on the TTC thread and get instant results - that's why some of the baby/conception sites are in some ways better places to post, because they have levels of granularity - TTC 1 yr plus, TTC for 2nd time etc. But then you'd have to meet a whole bunch of other folk!

I always thought this long-timers thread would be nice to see on here - but didn't say so to Honeypop at the time because I wasn't TTC myself, so wasn't the target market.

Or perhaps the other thread should have branched off into a separate 'TTC - but it won't take long coz I'm hyperfertile' thread!

Good luck everyone on here anyway - I hope your dreams come true.

Rosie_Bud

shelly - I for one am really glad to see you "over here" . And I think it was really brave and honest of you to admit your true feelings. I can really understand and empathise with your feelings aswell (about being "bored" with trying). The thing that is hard is that, I find, no matter how fed up I get and think "whatever" - when it comes to AF time I am still finding myself hoping. Trying to totally switch off the hope is what I am finding hard, and probably what is hindering my ability to fall pg.

I freely admit that I worry far, far too much. I even worry when I have nothing to worry about, like "why aint I worrying? Something is bound to go wrong, so what can I worry about next". Writing it down it looks ridiculous, even in real life I know I am being ridiculous but I cannot help it . This is my demon to get over and maybe this will help in my ttc quest.

nottslass - my fingers are sooo tightly crossed for you hun. Better ease off really cos I will cut off the blood supply, lol :rotfl:

I can't admit to any wacky things I have tried yet, but never say never. I will make this my first point of call when I have something to confess!

Best wishes to everyone

Rosie Bud xx

shelly

Rosie_Bud wrote: »

shelly - I for one am really glad to see you "over here" . And I think it was really brave and honest of you to admit your true feelings. I can really understand and empathise with your feelings aswell (about being "bored" with trying). The thing that is hard is that, I find, no matter how fed up I get and think "whatever" - when it comes to AF time I am still finding myself hoping. Trying to totally switch off the hope is what I am finding hard, and probably what is hindering my ability to fall pg.

Hi Rosie, thanks to you too for the warm welcome

Re the hoping every month.....oh gawd.....If I am late then I start to think back over the month to any symptoms I might have had. As I said before I hate symptom spotting during the month and I won't do it. If I get anything at all that resembles a possible pg symptom I explain it away to myself.

For example....this past week I have been feeling a little sick which I explain away as something I have eaten.
Also my nipples has been a bit sore, I explain that away as hubbys fault :rotfl:


I have once or twice said to hubby that I should have had a hysterectomy when I had the cancer. At least then we wouldn't have to go through this every month. He says then we would have lost all hope....I say its the hope that's killing me!! :rotfl:

Its a vicious circle, I laugh about it more than I cry though so I keep a sane head.

ginvzt

I think my OH is getting a bit fed up with me now. The only things I can talk about is baby and house (we are looking to buy or rent something else). I told him that from this month he will be on any supplement, food, etc that I hear is supposed to help to conceive. So, here it goes, zinc, sweet potato (bought one today!), I got my set of vitamins, folic acid, agnus castus. I am fed up of trying. I want the final exam and get on with it.

It doesn't matter how hard I try to convince myself that I won't symptom spot during the month and however I explain to myself any niggles in my body, when AF due date is closing in, no explanation works. Even after AF it takes a a while to sink in that I cannot be pg. I was even tempted to do a test this morning, even I had AF on Monday!!! I know I cannot be pg, as apart from having AF my temp is very low, but it doesn't stop me hoping. I can't lose that. Even with the hope so stupidly strong, I do think that there is something wrong with me that stops us becoming a proper family. (For example, when I was 14-15 I had an ovary inflamation and I remember reading then that it could cause some problems geting pregnant, so think that is one thing in the back of my mind.)

We have a saying back home that 'you will spend the new year the way you meet it". We met this new year waiting for the flight back to UK from New Zealand which was delayed by a couple of hours (probably plane crew wanted to celebrate as well) - so, we are spending this year waiting...

giveitawhirl

Hello- I hardly ever post but catch up with this thread everyy day on our long journey ttc- wish me luck as I am going for a lap and dye on Mon at 7.30 am - I'm really nervous as I hate anesthetics and am feeling quite twitchy at the thought of it.
I'm really glad this thread has started- as others have said it was getting quite difficult to read all the instant results when we've been trying since 2006 wih no results.

Wishing everyone a good weekend x

ginvzt

Oh, and I don't want any baby dust. I need baby glue - and preferably the strongest kind....

Good luck giveitawhirl! Hope all goes well.

And, baby glue to all...

nikkinoo_3

Hi everyone,
This will be our 20somethingth month of ttc now (I've given up counting!). Last month I was determined to be positive all through, chanting positive 'fertility mantras' while I drifted off to sleep(!), being uber-healthy, and not minding if AF started. Well, AF came as usual, I was really positive, calm and accepting of it, then yesterday was horrendous at work and the tears flowed, the chocolate bars (yes - plural!) got scoffed, the wine bottle got emptied and all I could think was that if only I could get pregnant I'd be counting down the days til I could leave the horrid job :mad:
CD3 today, and I'm much happier - and am looking forward to my first fertility reflexology session on Monday evening. The practitioner reckons her success rate is around 72%... I can't help pinning my hopes on it working. I'm also going back to the docs to get referred for further investigations as all my bloods came back fine.
It's good to see this thread. Good luck to us all :beer: xx

Rosie_Bud

Hey giveitawhirl, good luck for Monday! I am thinking that lap and dye is something I shall also be experiencing soon. No mention from the doctor yet but if blood tests etc not showing anything then presume this will be the next step. Do you know what it entails? You mentioned anaesthetic (sp?), do you get put to sleep, or is it just a local? You can pm me details if you don't want to broadcast them but I am sure others would also be grateful if they haven't already experienced it.

shelly, I think your attitude is really great, and if all else fails blame the other half, love it! No seriously though, better to explain away the symptoms and then be pleasantly surprised than keep on hoping and getting disappointment. I think I will give this a go this cycle. Well I will try anyway, lol!

Just waiting for AF to go so that I can start this month afresh. Also roll on CD23 for next blood test. Although I suppose I should be hoping for good results of the blood test I had on Thursday. Should get results towards the end of this week or beginning of next.

nikkinoo - I reckon your reflexology could be a really good thing to do, could help you relax and stop stressing about falling pg and I have heard so many times that this is the key. Also you said your bloods came back fine, does that mean you are ovulating, etc?

ginvzt - I second the request for glue - deffo need that rather than dust, dust just blows away. We need the strong stuff!

Rosie Bud xx

giveitawhirl

Hi Rosiebud- It is a general anaesthetic but the consultant said the procedure will take approx 45 mins and I will be going home after a couple of hours which is good. They are doing a lap and dye and hysteroscopy, to be honest I'm not expecting good news as I've suffered from endometriosis and this might be the cause of my probs. Its going to be a mad dash tomorrow as OH has got to go and give another sample tomorrow and they are only open between 9am- 10 am.



Wishing everyone good news soon XX

honeypop

OH has to give his sample Tuesday and they are also only open 1 hour! It's about a 45 min drive plus nightmare parking, AND they said he cannot produce on-site so it's going to be so close getting it there. I can't even take him and wait outside instead of parking as I have to be at work.

I've also made a docs appointment for tuesday, AF is due tomorrow (according to fertility friend) so if she comes it means the 2nd cycle of clomid didn't work so want to see him asap as we're getting married weekend after next and then off for a few weeks on honeymoon so want to discuss it with him while I have the chance. Am hoping he'll give 1 more cycle to try as he said he might, which is why i need to see him quickly as need to start taking it on day 2.