She's Dying & My Head Is All Over The Place - (Long Thread, Sorry)

fsdss

my thoughts are with you sally xx

Stephb1986_2

My thoughts are with you and your family at this tough time.

Its 5 years on saturday since my uncle died he was only 43 and died of bowel cancer left 2 young kiddies and a lovely wife. They say that coming to terms with death gets easier as time goes on and tbh i dont think its true its also just been last month 5 years since my lovely grandad died everyday i miss him.

Its also 2 years on 3rd of january since my lovely nana died, I dont have any grandparents anymore i find that really hard.

Steph xx

the_rottweiler

I am very sorry that you have this situation, but you are not responsible for the past and you cannot change it.
Unfortunately you have been unable to speak to your "sister" about your past and you may never forget but maybe find a way to forgive.
Please try counselling. you are obviously a fantastic parent but keeping all this quiet is going to have an affect on your children, and having an outlet can only make you calmer.
I know my mum was abused growing up and she has never talked about it, we were well looked after but we had no affection, but as adults we would touch her hand as we talk an kiss her etc, and eventually she opened up and showed her enjoyment of her kids, but the affection we never had is poured out on her grandkids
My thoughts are with you in these trying times

Paparika

Be strong Sally, if your going to be with her tell her to go.
Although i feel by the time you catch up with this thread she would of gone.
Hugs to you in this most difficult time.

SallyUK

Thanks everyone for all your replies, I really do appreciate them and they are helping me.

Her daughter just rang me and said that a hospice nurse has stayed with her all night and that another one has arrived this morning. They said they were amazed that she was still with us this morning.

However, yesterday she was still able to speak a little and her grandson travelled to see her yesterday. Apparently when she was told who it was that was standing by her bed, she gave a big smile and tried to lift her arms to hug him.

Today she seems a bit more agitated and isn't able to speak - her eyes are rolling.

Sally

cazxx1

god bless you sally

tankgirl1

Sally I have only just seen your thread, but my thoughts are with you and your family

x

Init_sister

Same here, Sally, I have only just seend this thread and it makes my worries and stresses minute compared to what you are going thru.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

peediedj

my thoughts are with you and your family,my father in law has unoperable lung cancer,had lots of chemo+is having blood transfusions just now,starts radiotherapy next week,so we have a lot of pain and suffering to come in the future

SallyUK

Morning all

I was just about to post saying that she'd had a peaceful night, although her breathing is irregular.

However, my niece has just called me this second to say she's just died. Poor girl is there with her on her own and thinks it was her fault for her Mum dying. She said, "I think it was me" - I said what do you mean, and she said I had just told her that she'd suffered long enough and it was time she was at peace" and at that she took her last breath. It was like she was waiting for permission to let go.

She wasn't sure who to call, so I told her to ring Dr or whoever's number she had on her phone.

I'm going to have to go now and sort out what I'm going to do about children etc, as if I fly up tonight, it wouldn't be worth me flying back down on Sunday, as funeral will no doubt be next week.

God, I just don't know what to do now.

Sally