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How to cope with elderly relative who needs help but won't accept it?
My MIL is 84 and was diagnosed with cancer last year (both lung and thyroid). She had major surgery to remove part of her lung and has had a lot of pain and problems since. I'm with her regularly and she always says she's in pain. She's been prescribed morphine since the surgery and the nurses who used to visit have told…
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The cost of marriage!
My partner recently proposed and we are starting to think about when and where we would like to get married! We've recently just bought a house so we don't want to spend a great deal on a wedding. Most of my family haven't done the wedding thing before and I'm only 21 so most of my friends aren't married either!! So I'm…
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Christmas Card Dilemma - Recently Passed Away
Hi all, I know this may sound a strange one but I am struggling what to do for my Uncle's christmas card. My Aunty passed away 2 weeks ago and they were literally hardly ever apart. He is lost without her and all he keeps saying is "don't forget her, will you?" And "please don't forget your Aunty xxx". I am just writing my…
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Cohabiting couple, any rights?
My friend has been with her partner for nearly ten years, but they're unmarried and no children between them. He recently bought a property outright but only in his own name. She used money she inherited to pay for a brand new kitchen to be installed, around £9k, and it's only been installed for about a month. Things have…
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Parents vs Grandparents - Christmas cancelled?
Hi, I've had an argument with my dad that didn't actually seem like an argument to me until he stormed out of the house dragging my mum with him for the 90 min trip home. I moved out when I was 19 and haven't asked for anything except the odd dog sitting where my dad gets my ideallic house to himself. I'm now 30 and have…
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Bridal Party Dilemma
Sort of feeling a bit regretful today. I feel a little like we may have rushed into deciding who to have as our attendants in our wedding next year. I am having 3 bridesmaids; my sister, his sister, and my sister-in-law. My Fiance is having a Best Man. For our Ushers, he's asked 2 mates, and his sister's boyfriend. It was…
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Am I just an 'old fashioned' thinker
Sorry this is a longish post but Im 'niggled' and dont really understand why!!! Ive posted before about a couple of people I know who dont have any control at all of their kids. Both of the people in question have now got kids in early teens and they are struggling more than ever. My kids are grown up and were brought up…
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Financial help after a split.
I really hope someone can help me please. My partner and I are separating due to her compulsive gambling which has caused me mental health problems. Back in February she won £10,000 online after already promising that she would never gamble again for the 3rd time. She bought a car for £3,500 and without my knowledge has…
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Change of plan
Sorry, didn't mean to upset so many, was a genuine question.
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re divorce form D81
Hi, I am having difficulty completing this form and need some advice. I have a 80k share of my father's property which I have to declare as part of my capital. My ex has a 40k car and does not have to declare this. His solicitor has told him just to declare his savings. It doesn't seem fair to me. Any suggestions would be…
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How much do they charge for....
I have a very complex banking and investment structure consisting of 25 (yes 25 current accounts), 15 credit cards and some 20 or so separate investments. I am 73 and may need to go in a care home at some point in time. I am wondering how any local authority, official solicitor or whoever will deal with my finances and how…
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Is she being air? 30/70 split. any advise please..
Hi All Any advise appreciated! Thanks. Fed up now and thinking to ask my solicitor for a 40/50 split in her favour after working out how much I will get and the fact kids are 12, 13 year old.. She wants 30/70 split - I am recipient havent done any thing wrong - usual no love etc. This is how the pot is split : 542,000 K…
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jack whitehall
My daughter who is 14 absolutely loves Jack Whitehall. I have just noticed that he has released extra dates and one is a matin!e performance. Now she watches him in A league of their own, Bad Education Movie and some of his previous shows on net flix. My question is would you take your child to watch a live show? For…
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What am i entitled to in a separation
Need advice please: This is where i am at I left my husband 4 1/2 years ago. he lives in the house that is mortgage free. He has paid me a small amount each month as a gesture for living there. I had the house valued at 120 -130k though they said may sell for more.I asked him for 65k a straight split, and wouldnt want any…
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How to stop people smoking outside a school.
As the title, how on earth does one stop or dissuade people from smoking outside a primary school? The people in question are all adults, but some are parents before and after picking up their children, and occasionally staff (!!) on their break. Being mindful of setting a good example, rather than working within the law,…
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Cost of Will + LPA ?
Hi , Can anyone please give me some advice. My Mother had an appointment concerning her first Will , she was quoted £100 on the phone for a basic one but came back with a draft bill of £445 ( +£25 per year to hold the Will) . The bill reads : Single will - £100 Single LPA - £135 Single LPA Registration - £210 + Court fee (…
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How much should I be paying rent to my Mum?!
So, after my Mum and Dad just seperating, I've had to move in with her due to the fact my Dad is in debt. Anyway, I have a full time job and the wages are range from £950 to £1,000 a month. My Mum is asking me to pay £150 a week, which sadly won't leave me with alot of money. I took it upon myself to pay for Broadband and…
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University
Okay, a bit premature here as my children are 8 and (almost) 6. As I'm a single mum earning just over any threshold to get any benefits (except for child benefit), will I be expected to help fund my children through university? Will their father be expected to help? - he does pay maintenance. I want my children to go…
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Too big to have baby?
in my late 30s and around size 16 and just under 5ft. Medically I'm obese(!) which isn't great and I fear it's holding me back for me and OH to start family as I fear being pregnant now I would really struggle. I know simple answer is to lose weight only it's not that easy and my confidence has hit low again because I'm…
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The legalities of being nominated as Next of kin
I've just discovered that somebody on entering hospital recently nominated me as their Next of Kin, despite having closer relatives. I was a little shocked as I wasn't asked beforehand and wonder what legal obligations this might have imposed upon me had he become critically ill after surgery, had an unexpected stroke, or…
