Bridal Party Dilemma

Trina90

Sort of feeling a bit regretful today. I feel a little like we may have rushed into deciding who to have as our attendants in our wedding next year.

I am having 3 bridesmaids; my sister, his sister, and my sister-in-law.

My Fiance is having a Best Man. For our Ushers, he's asked 2 mates, and his sister's boyfriend. It was my suggestion and he agreed. I kind of thought, these should all be 'from the Groom's side' but then, I do have his sister as my bridesmaid, so don't really think it matters! I have one brother, and one brother-in-law, who I feel we should have asked.:( Instead, we thought we'd ask them to be witnesses, so they are still a little involved.

This is a relatively small wedding (60-ish) so would 5 ushers, one Best Man, be too many? Especially as I only have 3 Bridesmaids? We are also having 2 flowergirls and a pageboy however, which are my nephew and nieces.

I've also noticed some people have both Ushers and Groomsmen. But it seems like more of an American thing, to have them as separate people.

I'm probably thinking far too much into this but would appreciate any thoughts.:)

McKneff

Why do you need more than a best man......

What would all the others do....... People just mingle at the wedding service nowadays.....

Trina90

Every wedding I've been to has them. The Best Man stays with the Groom, whereas Ushers greet guests, seat them and hand out the order of services, things like that.

Person_one

It's fine, you've included them and shown they're important to you by having them as witnesses. Don't stress and don't overthink it!

74jax

I've not been to a wedding where I'm shown where to sit so don't know what am usher looks like. However if you are happy you've picked them and what they are doing, go with that. Grand scheme of things who cares.

Artytarty

The ushers at my daughters recent wedding did a great job that the best man really couldn't have done as well as his own duties.
They handed out orders of service, pointed out cloakrooms,
Escorted Grannies etc to their seats, marshalled the relevant people to have their photos taken, paid the organist etc and were generally just very helpful.
They had two ushers for a guest list of 120, another one wouldn't have gone amiss.

lika_86

You say "I have one brother, and one brother-in-law" - is the brother in law the brother of your fiance? Or the other half of your sister? If it's the brother of your fiance then maybe he should have been part of the bridal party, but otherwise no. If your fiance is happy with his choices, then don't overthink it. You've chosen who you have, first instinct, best instinct.

duchy

74jax wrote: »

I've not been to a wedding where I'm shown where to sit so don't know what am usher looks like. However if you are happy you've picked them and what they are doing, go with that. Grand scheme of things who cares.

I'm the opposite. I can't think of a wedding I've attended that didn't have ushers (well apart from one at a registry office with about 6 guests total)

arbrighton

We had around 70 people. My sister was bridesmaid, his brother was best man. They acted as witnesses. That was it. No ushers, no pageboys etc

Gloomendoom

McKneff wrote: »

Why do you need more than a best man.......

I had a two best "men" because the main one didn't want to do a speech and the other one (actually a woman) really wanted to do the speech but nothing else.

It worked rather well.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

We've got a Best Man. Haven't got further than that,

It seems like a lot of people to me, but then again, we don't particularly care where people want to sit.