Self help thread. I am a widow coping getting on with it

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  • sheilavw
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    So please your house move went well LL, its takes a while to get straight
  • sheilavw
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    it's very quiet on here. I do hope everyone is well. We are just back from a week in Fuengirola with family and it went well. Back to work today. Enjoy your Monday everyone
  • wort
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    Yes Sheila, it's quiet maybe a good thing, hope it means everyone is copied g well.
    Glad you enjoyed your holiday.
    It's hard to believe we are almost in November! This year has flown.
    At the moment I'm struggling with not being able to remember him properly, those weeks in hospital last year seem like it didn't happen to me that I'm just looking from the outside? If that makes sense.
    I feel I have tears close to the edge at the moment, just as if I'm going g to burst into tears,but it doesn't happen, obviously in public places I don't want to! But the other night at home it happened and I really tried to cry and I couldn't.
    Focus on contribution instead of the impressiveness of consumption to see the true beauty in people.
  • sheilavw
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    so sorry to hear how you are feeling.I feel nervous because its our first ‘ neurology’
    appt tomorrow since his diagnosis, just want it to be positive but dont know what to expect
  • sheilavw
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    got a voicemail as we were ready to leave this morning. appt for wrong specialist so cancelled it and we have to wait for a new letter!
  • wort
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    Oh Sheila that's terrible. It's a hard enough time for you without the stress of waiting again. Hopefully it will be soon.
    Lots of hugs x
    Focus on contribution instead of the impressiveness of consumption to see the true beauty in people.
  • sheilavw
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    Thanks, not heard anything since. Maybe we will hear soon
  • lessonlearned
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    Hello everyone. Yes it is quiet on here. As Wort says hopefully that is a good sign that all is well.

    Sheila. Keep me PMing me anytime. Our experiences are similar so if I can offer you any help or advice I'm happy to. Anytime you want to "chat".

    Well the house move went smoothly. There is a lot to do but I think that is perhaps a good thing. It will keep me busy and give something to focus on.

    I am having a new bathroom fitted at the end if this month and because there is only one and I will be without water for while I decided to escape the dirt and mess. I originally planned a mini break in the U.K. but once I totted up how much it was going to cost I realised I could find a last minute holiday in the sun for not much more. I found a bargainous 14 night cruise to the Canaries and Morroco. :D. Crazy that you can do a 14 day cruise for practically the same price as 5 nights in the U.K..

    TBH I am very tired and have rather run out of steam. The house move was both tiring and stressful and I have been pretty much working flat out since March so I think a holiday will do me good.

    It's a different cruise line so I'm a bit apprehensive. I keep waking up with butterflies in my tummy but I am determined to start getting out and about more and trying new things. I am becoming a bit too reclusive and it's not healthy to get stuck in a rut.

    Other than that no real news. My family are all well and it will be our first Christmas with my grandchild. It's nice to have a baby in the family again.

    Hope you are all ok. X
  • Sammie36
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    Hi,

    Am I able to post here? Someone on pointed me in the direction of this thread but i didn't realise it was in the over 50s section. I'm 35.

    My partner suddenly died 9 weeks ago and I am seriously struggling.

    Thanks
  • Savvy_Sue
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    Sammie36 wrote: »
    Hi,

    Am I able to post here? Someone on pointed me in the direction of this thread but i didn't realise it was in the over 50s section. I'm 35.

    My partner suddenly died 9 weeks ago and I am seriously struggling.

    Thanks
    Oh Sammie, yes, yes, YES! Age is no barrier here really: the board is useful for some of the issues faced more by the over than the under 50s, but this thread is very much open to all who need it.

    And I know everyone who sees this will be sending you huge virtual hugs of support.

    I know some have mentioned an organisation called Widowed and Young. Now may or may not be the time to contact them, but they are out there, when you're ready.
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