Marriage problems

Ergates wrote: »

Sounds like a real catch.

First, make sure your income is safe from him - maybe open a new account he is unaware of and have your wages sent there. Make sure he doesn't find out any of the details.

Stop paying of anything not in your name. Don't give him any money, ever, for any reason. Don't do *anything* for him. Don't feed him, don't wash his clothes.

Ask him to leave. Constantly. Every day, make sure to remind him he's a worthless parasite and he needs to leave. Eventually he might get the message.

As he smokes/drinks/etc with any luck he might just die soon. The world will be a better place without him. Tell him this too.

This might sound harsh, but your "partner" is a sack of !!!!, you can do better. You've stepped in things what were better.

There is a young child in the house and this is his/her father. The OP might want to consider how to end the relationship without continually running down the other parent in front of the child.

Divorce NOW
You dont want this man child (i shant call him a man) influencing your Child as s/he grows, monkey see monkey do, he should not be constant role model for your child.
He sounds utterly vile.

winterblues2019 wrote: »

I will go and see a solicitor and then put the house on the market for a fresh start.

You do realise that if he doesn't want to sell (and why should he, he has everything paid for by you, a nice roof over his head and I bet you he doesn't want to pay his half of the exit fee!) then you are going to be in for a very lengthy and costly court battle to be even able to put the property up for sale in the first place.

Yes speak to a solicitor, but also be prepared to speak to the police about a non-molestation order because once you have the talk with him that you want to divorce and sell the house, I don't see him being reasonable and friendly to you.

winterblues2019 wrote: »

That's the next hurdle I guess, to get him to agree that we sell the house and go our separate ways or I'll have to lock the door from the inside at 10pm every night when I go to bed and he won't be able to get in and will have to sleep in his car!

You can't do that. He has as much right to be there as you do, including calling a locksmith to regain access.
And to the poster talking about non-molestation or harassment orders, while they are fine if needed, they are not a tool to force someone who has a right to be there out of the house just because you don't want them there.