Marriage problems

winterblues2019

I can lock the door from the inside, no keys involved and there have been lots of burglaries in my area so I don't feel safe with the door unlocked from the inside. A locksmith wouldn't be able to do anything. I can tell him that I will lock the door after 10pm and it's his choice to be home or not.

seashore22

winterblues2019 wrote: »

He put about £25k towards the deposit and I put about £160k so I'll have to look at some deal to buy him out.

You have a relatively lengthy marriage and a child. It's not as simple as getting back what you put in. The starting point is usually 50/50, although having more of the childcare responsibilities could mean more of a cut for that parent. I think earning potential is sometimes taken into account too when apportioning a share of the assets.

seashore22

It's his home too. He could easily get a locksmith to gain entry to his home if he wanted to.

I'm shocked that you somehow had his family (how many!) living with you in your 1 bed flat without your permission. What were their circumstances? That sounds very uncomfortable for all concerned?

winterblues2019

It's a very long story....anyway, thanks all for your contributions, it seems I can't do this or that or the other and I won't get back what I put in and I'm a doormat who needs counselling etc but it'll all work out in the end!

Pollycat

winterblues2019 wrote: »

That's the next hurdle I guess, to get him to agree that we sell the house and go our separate ways or I'll have to lock the door from the inside at 10pm every night when I go to bed and he won't be able to get in and will have to sleep in his car!

Why won't he be able to get in if you're simply locking the door and taking your key out?
Or have you changed your mind between the above post and the one below?

winterblues2019 wrote: »

I can lock the door from the inside, no keys involved and there have been lots of burglaries in my area so I don't feel safe with the door unlocked from the inside. A locksmith wouldn't be able to do anything. I can tell him that I will lock the door after 10pm and it's his choice to be home or not.

Personally, I have all my doors locked (with the key out) whenever I'm in the house, regardless of what time of day or night it is.

Reading some of your posts, I really think you need to seek legal advice to avoid causing trouble for yourself.

winterblues2019

When I say lock I mean bolt, it's a type of bolt on the inside, not a lock.

Legal advice will be sought, thank you, I have enough trouble as it is

Pollycat

winterblues2019 wrote: »

When I say lock I mean bolt, it's a type of bolt on the inside, not a lock.

Legal advice will be sought, thank you, I have enough trouble as it is

If you bolt the door and he can't release that bolt from the outside, you are effectively stopping him entering the property you both share.
Or have I misunderstood?

winterblues2019

I'm not sure what is tricky to understand?

Pollycat

winterblues2019 wrote: »

I'm not sure what is tricky to understand?

What is 'tricky to understand' is how you can bolt the door with your OH on the outside and not be denying him entry to a property he part owns.
But if you think that's OK, go for it. :whistle:

winterblues2019

He'll be out drinking til the early hours or the next day and my child and I will be sleeping upstairs in a secured house. Thanks for your contribution