We’d like to remind Forumites to please avoid political debate on the Forum.
This is to keep it a safe and useful space for MoneySaving discussions. Threads that are – or become – political in nature may be removed in line with the Forum’s rules. Thank you for your understanding.
📨 Have you signed up to the Forum's new Email Digest yet? Get a selection of trending threads sent straight to your inbox daily, weekly or monthly!
I am so hurt and confused
Comments
-
Sounds like he had cold feet about you two living together. How often would you stay over at his or vice versa prior to moving in?0
-
Maybe spending three weeks together on holiday had made him have a rethink.0
-
Claddagh_Noir wrote: »Sounds like he had cold feet about you two living together. How often would you stay over at his or vice versa prior to moving in?
3 to 4 times a weekFriends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.0 -
Maybe spending three weeks together on holiday had made him have a rethink.
He said it was the best holiday of his life (could of been a lie i guess)
We didn't have one row not even a petty oneFriends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.0 -
katiekittykat wrote: »He said it was the best holiday of his life (could of been a lie i guess)
We didn't have one row not even a petty one
You're letting him have an awful lot of control over your life and your head right now, even though he's made it clear he doesn't want you to be part of his.
Stop worrying about his thoughts and feelings and actions and start focusing on yourself. What are YOU going to do from now on? What choices are you going to make for yourself?0 -
Kate
Another thought and sorry about this one as you have much on your plate.
Even if he comes back, IMHO he is a weak excuse of a man and may take flight once he has kids
Your choice but IMO you should tell him, you either come back within 24 hours and tell me why you flounced and if I accept you can stay or we are finished. If he complies and stays, then you must be alert to his behaviour as the last thing anyone wants is to be continuously deceived.
If I was your age and it happened to me, I'd feel like you but think it a lucky escape nd tell him to f off, but easier said than done.
Btw, do you work? the reason I ask is if you do you may not want to go into work but work will take your mind of this thing
Love and best wishes
0 -
Red-Squirrel wrote: »You're letting him have an awful lot of control over your life and your head right now, even though he's made it clear he doesn't want you to be part of his.
Stop worrying about his thoughts and feelings and actions and start focusing on yourself. What are YOU going to do from now on? What choices are you going to make for yourself?
As it is completely out of the blue, she is allowed to be confused about this. She is entitled to take a little time to process and try and figure out what went wrong. I dont see any harm in that and may help with closure.0 -
Red-Squirrel wrote: »You're letting him have an awful lot of control over your life and your head right now, even though he's made it clear he doesn't want you to be part of his.
Stop worrying about his thoughts and feelings and actions and start focusing on yourself. What are YOU going to do from now on? What choices are you going to make for yourself?
You're right, it is still raw and tbh it is all I can think about beating myself up as to what i did wrongFriends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.0 -
Kate
Another thought and sorry about this one as you have much on your plate.
Even if he comes back, IMHO he is a weak excuse of a man and may take flight once he has kids
Your choice but IMO you should tell him, you either come back within 24 hours and tell me why you flounced and if I accept you can stay or we are finished. If he complies and stays, then you must be alert to his behaviour as the last thing anyone wants is to be continuously deceived.
If I was your age and it happened to me, I'd feel like you but think it a lucky escape nd tell him to f off, but easier said than done.
Btw, do you work? the reason I ask is if you do you may not want to go into work but work will take your mind of this thing
Love and best wishes
Yeah I do work, even this has made me ill throwing up etc
Thank you lovely it really means a lot right now.
A christmas present i bought him came today, love coupons
Friends are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.0
This discussion has been closed.
Confirm your email address to Create Threads and Reply
Categories
- All Categories
- 351.9K Banking & Borrowing
- 253.5K Reduce Debt & Boost Income
- 454.1K Spending & Discounts
- 244.9K Work, Benefits & Business
- 600.4K Mortgages, Homes & Bills
- 177.4K Life & Family
- 258.6K Travel & Transport
- 1.5M Hobbies & Leisure
- 16.2K Discuss & Feedback
- 37.6K Read-Only Boards