I am so hurt and confused

katiekittykat

duchy wrote: »

Of course you do !
The other thing is that if you do try and get in touch (even on the key pretext) you may get very upset in front of him......and later wish you'd kept your dignity and kept away so matter how tempting.....don't do it !

There are princes out there as well as frogs but it is horrible when you discover your prince was just a frog in prince clothing ! (its a great visual to think of him as a frog when those feelings get overwhelming though ......I mean you can't cry over a frog- right ? )

Thank you - I will try.

We will both be at an event on Christmas Eve, not sure whether to go tbh

duchy

katiekitty._Of_course_he_may_not_go_either_kat wrote: »

Thank you - I will try.

We will both be at an event on Christmas Eve, not sure whether to go tbh

It's two weeks away ...... see how you feel closer to the time but if it'd make you miserable then don't bother. It's one event . Let him assume you have something better to do . Of course he may well not go either.

Mojisola

katiekittykat wrote: »

They weren't lies I did do as he said I had done, he just didn't mention we had split up

katiekittykat wrote: »

We will both be at an event on Christmas Eve, not sure whether to go tbh

He must be wondering how he's going to keep this charade going when you're both at the same do!

katiekittykat

Mojisola wrote: »

He must be wondering how he's going to keep this charade going when you're both at the same do!

So true hadn't thought of that! xx

katiekittykat

duchy wrote: »

It's two weeks away ...... see how you feel closer to the time but if it'd make you miserable then don't bother. It's one event . Let him assume you have something better to do . Of course he may well not go either.

Yeah that is true tbh. I will see how I feel

gycraig_2

To be honest it just sounds like he would prefer the single life over you. Problem is as men sometimes we go out with single friends and yearn for our youth going out every weekend getting drunk / meeting new women/living in a shared house with friends blowing money on questionable things.

Very close to 5 year itch as well, I wouldn't take it personally tbh just move on, chances are he will come back when he remembers he's not an 18 year old anymore or his friend gets a girlfriend and stops wanting to go out anymore he will come crawling back.

katiekittykat

gycraig wrote: »

To be honest it just sounds like he would prefer the single life over you. Problem is as men sometimes we go out with single friends and yearn for our youth going out every weekend getting drunk / meeting new women/living in a shared house with friends blowing money on questionable things.

Very close to 5 year itch as well, I wouldn't take it personally tbh just move on, chances are he will come back when he remembers he's not an 18 year old anymore or his friend gets a girlfriend and stops wanting to go out anymore he will come crawling back.

Yeah that could be the case as well ( he owns his own house though but know what you mean)

BucksLady

gycraig wrote: »

Problem is as men sometimes we go out with single friends and yearn for our youth going out every weekend getting drunk / meeting new women/living in a shared house with friends blowing money on questionable things.
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Not all men are like that;). By the age of 30, some have actually ''grown up'' .

moneyistooshorttomention

katiekittykat wrote: »

Thank you - I will try.

We will both be at an event on Christmas Eve, not sure whether to go tbh

You go - and you hold your head high and smile as brightly as you can manage imo.

If you have to nip off to the loo for tissues at intervals - so be it - and then whack that "bright smile" back on face again.

EDIT: as for any concerns about what people might say if they notice anything amiss - I'll tell you from experience they'll admire you for having the guts to go and compliment you on being a "survivor".

I'll also mention, from experience, be careful how much booze you have. Stay well within your limit - no drunken "reconciliations" that have evaporated by the next morning.

Mojisola

gycraig wrote: »

chances are he will come back when he remembers he's not an 18 year old anymore or his friend gets a girlfriend and stops wanting to go out anymore he will come crawling back.

After treating someone the way he has, would he really expect to be able to be a couple again?