I am so hurt and confused

katiekittykat

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

You go - and you hold your head high and smile as brightly as you can manage imo.

If you have to nip off to the loo for tissues at intervals - so be it - and then whack that "bright smile" back on face again.

EDIT: as for any concerns about what people might say if they notice anything amiss - I'll tell you from experience they'll admire you for having the guts to go and compliment you on being a "survivor".

I'll also mention, from experience, be careful how much booze you have. Stay well within your limit - no drunken "reconciliations" that have evaporated by the next morning.

That is the plan - i am also planning on driving so that means zero drink,
Which I think is for the best, as well as showing up looking amazing!

Childish I know, but will make me feel better

gycraig_2

BucksLady wrote: »

Not all men are like that;). By the age of 30, some have actually ''grown up'' .

5 year itch is a real thing and I'd say a lot of men especially go through it.
Very easy when in a relationship or single to imagine how amazing the other side of the coin could be with rose tinted glasses.

By no means does everyone go through it but if I had to put money on it based on reading this thread it's What my money would be on.

katiekittykat

gycraig wrote: »

5 year itch is a real thing and I'd say a lot of men especially go through it.
Very easy when in a relationship or single to imagine how amazing the other side of the coin could be with rose tinted glasses.

By no means does everyone go through it but if I had to put money on it based on reading this thread it's What my money would be on.

How long does it usually last would you say?

ManofLeisure_2

gycraig wrote: »

Very easy when in a relationship or single to imagine how amazing the other side of the coin could be with rose tinted glasses.

If you genuinely love someone, the only thing you centre upon is that person and being with them.

moneyistooshorttomention

katiekittykat wrote: »

That is the plan - i am also planning on driving so that means zero drink,
Which I think is for the best, as well as showing up looking amazing!

Childish I know, but will make me feel better

No - most definitely NOT childish at all.

The act of a strong, mature woman who has no intention whatsoever of letting a man turn her into Miss Havisham look-alike.

You go gal...sock it to him with your most amazing dress ever:) - and then walk out at the end of evening with dignity/pride intact.

katiekittykat

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

No - most definitely NOT childish at all.

The act of a strong, mature woman who has no intention whatsoever of letting a man turn her into Miss Havisham look-alike.

You go gal...sock it to him with your most amazing dress ever:) - and then walk out at the end of evening with dignity/pride intact.

This sounds like a plan!! xx

PasturesNew

He's either not ready yet as he's not got the experience of comparing with other relationships, or he's got a fear of commitment.

Or, he's not that into you.

If you were "the one" he'd have never entertained doubts... you'd just be "the one". You know "the one". You're not it.

As you're not "the one", he can't be the one for you.

It's just how it is.

At least he's said now and not in January.

katiekittykat

PasturesNew wrote: »

He's either not ready yet as he's not got the experience of comparing with other relationships, or he's got a fear of commitment.

Or, he's not that into you.

If you were "the one" he'd have never entertained doubts... you'd just be "the one". You know "the one". You're not it.

As you're not "the one", he can't be the one for you.

It's just how it is.

At least he's said now and not in January.

Why is it worse in Jan?

groovy_chick

Man is like a monkey - he doesn't let go of one branch until he has his hand firmly on another one.


I'm afraid I think there is someone else. Maybe the weekend he was describing at work was with someone else, but he just led them to believe it was with you.


In my experience, men don't wander off on a whim - the wander off because they think the grass is greener on the other side with someone else. By not admitting it, he is leaving the door open in case it doesn't work out.


I'm sorry, but I think you need to firmly show him that it is over, key back, Netflix off, and let him see what a fabulous woman he has lost at the Xmas do.

katiekittykat

No it was deffo me as he told them I was out with his friends girlfriends .. and I was

The truth will out I guess in the end