A Little Advice

Drea

Life is definetly poo. Thanks everyone for all the help though.

Slinky

Haven't had time to read the whole thread, but you're 21, you've been living together for a year and arguing for months............

This isn't the right person for you. The sooner you move on and put him behind you, the sooner you'll have the chance to bring a better person into your life.

onlyroz

Can you move in with your mum for a bit, while you save a deposit for another flat?

Drea

Finally found this thread again. Basicly we stayed together after what happened, but on Tuesday he finished with me. He was still in the flat though until last night when basicly I seen red (he'd cheated on me and stuff), I wanted him out and he wouldn't leave, anyway got him out the flat and he made so much noise trying to get in that the police told him to go elsewhere for the night.

So, he went to his friends and I've heard he is now looking for a hostel to stay in. I had to come into work today. I'm feeling a bit lost really, don't know what to do. I don't know if I'll see him again, although his stuff is still at the flat. He said he hated me last night. I wish I could hate him too.

Js_Other_Half

Drea wrote: »

. I'm feeling a bit lost really, don't know what to do. I don't know if I'll see him again, although his stuff is still at the flat. He said he hated me last night. I wish I could hate him too.

Take a few days/weeks to grieve over this relationship. You don't have to hate him - you can wish him well, just far away from you;)

Honestly, by Christmas you'll be well on the way to being over him and you'll be looking forward...

<<hugs>>

Drea

No sign of him, not heard from him. Not coping too well.

something_girl

sending you good vibes. Stay strong and don't forget to eat, I just stop eating when under similar stress and it's a killer.

The very best of luck to you and I hope he can just come and get his stuff quietly, then that will be the end of it. xx

consultant31

I remember how it felt to be 21, in love and not having a happy relationship with my boyfriend, even though it was a long time ago. In my case I told him to take a hike and it brought him to the realisation of what he was losing. We've now been married for 30 years.

BUT, he was never so cruel and immature as your 'ex' seems to be. In all honesty you really are well rid. Never mind Christmas, I bet you find someone twice as worthy of you within a couple of months.

You need to tell yourself you're worth so much more than this and it's his loss, not yours.

If you were my daughter, I'd want you home so I could look after you for a while, so give your Mum a chance to do that for you.

When you're less stressed get in touch with your old mates and arrange a girly night out - have a laugh and some fun for a change.

Good luck!

Drea

I just don't get how he can go like that, without a word. My mum's here just, stayed for the weekend (in bed at the mo) but she'll be going home today, then it's going to hit me properly.

louise540056

You really do deserve so much better than this!!

I went through a relationship like this myself- I stayed for 6 years and was devestated when we split up. It only took about a month though for me to become so grateful and happy when I realised how everyone else lived (ie. not in a permanent state of upset like I had been doing!)

Good luck xxxx