A Little Advice

bertiebots

Just remember you are only 21 and your lifes path is not carved in stone. You have a newish job but that doesnt have to mean that you stay their....you have so many choices available, but you need to build your confidence (sounds to me like you have lost yours) and realise life is full of oppertunities and is what YOU make it. You deserve happiness and the respect of others .What are your ambitions ,dreams,goals for life?
I am sure they dont involve being sat miserable at silly o'clock wondering were your bf is. Be strong..xx

galvanizersbaby

LillyJ wrote: »

I think you need to find some friends, go and join a club or something, at 21 there are tons of ways to make friends. Where are your friends from before? I just don't believe you have no friends, I know I wouldn't survive 5 minutes without mine, there must be people you can call one?

Call or email (if you can't face calling) one of your lost friends - ask what they are up to this weekend - you need a friend! - explain that you feel you've lost/neglected them if you feel the need to
I can't believe that you've done anything that awful that they won't respond to you and be there
In the past I have been in a similar situ and I bumped in to one of my lost friends (I had neglected her and lost contact) - she asked how it was going and I ended up in floods of tears crying on her shoulder.
She helped me through it all and she is still a friend to this day x

LillyJ

Drea wrote: »

No, no kids, just a cat!

I can still text my old friends but we never meet up anymore, we don't really have anything in common anymore to be honest... it was like that a while before I met my boyfriend so it isn't because of that. They are still all about going out every night getting drunk whereas I've not had money for the past couple years to do that and I just didn't want to anyway.

I have found that some people our sort of age feel like that is what they should be doing, and loads don't want to do that all the time! Just text a friend and ask to meet for a coffee for a catch up. You don't have to talk about your boyfriend! Or say you need a friend to advise you on a new skirt and go on a shopping trip (you don't have to buy anything, just try loads on!) You may find you have more in common with them now as they might have grown up a bit.

Do you have a sister? I go and see my sister sometimes when I just want someone familiar around, although she lives a long way away. Or an aunt, or even your Mum?

Drea

I will text them, if I ever get my phone back. Not too sure I will to be honest, he said if he didn't get his phone back then he wouldn't be back home so I don't know. Nope I don't have a sister. I can speak to my mum though...

McKneff

ask yourself a question

Do i really want to spend the rest of my life like this?

Js_Other_Half

I am with everyone else here - we all grow and learn from our experiences. Your experiences with your BF are telling you that you are not worthy of respect...do you want that for your future?

<hugs>

MissSaz

Hiya,
Just been reading your thread and to be honest you are too young to be putting up with this s*** !!

I understand you have talked to your bf till your blue in the face, but does he realise how you are feeling? Does he see that you are at the end of your tether and are considering walking away from your relationship?

It is quite clear that there is no mutual respect in your relationship at the moment but it isn't impossible to gain that if you think you love him enough to stay and try and work it out, but if it is the end of the road you really do have your whole life ahead of you and you will come out the other side a stronger person.
If you have no friends that you feel you can confide in talk to your mum altho she will be biased (mine always is when I go to her with problems) but she may advise from a different angle.
Good luck x

Drea

I don't think it's about whether I love him enough...

clairg_2

Sending (((Hugs))) girl Is this the type of relationship you want to be in for the rest of you life? you've grown apart from your friends and he's treating you like s**t, get out while you can and live your life!!

We're thinking of you and here if you want to sound off xxx

specialK

anniehanlon wrote: »

ask yourself a question

Do i really want to spend the rest of my life like this?

I second this. OK, you say you love him and maybe you can see yourself with him in five years time. You will still be young and things could get better......this is what you will be telling yourself anyway. Imagine being with him in 30 years time, what will the excuse be then? I'm telling you, you will feel so worthless and you will have wasted your life. If you are feeling like this now and he is acting the way he is, you are best to end it. You will grow to hate him and hurt yourself in the process.

Remember you are worth more, your life should be fun. Nobody should make you feel this upset. You will be surprised at how strong you can be when needs must. Life is not easy and things are sent to try us, the only thing you will lose from this if you stay with him, is your self worth. The only thing you will gain from this if you make the break is strength.

Ultimately, only you can decide what is best for you. Remember that things are never as bad as they seem.
((hugs))