cheating - what now?

spacecommander

pantsdr wrote: »

However, and this is directed at the OP and FG, why did you feel the need to air your frustrations on 'money saving' forum? Just type infidelity into google and i'm sure you will find many an avenue for your 'blogging'.

Why do you feel the need to say that? there are all manner of threads in this particular forum that relate to nothing to do with moneysaving.

MSE is a community where people go to ask advice on moneysaving, and in this case and numerous others, non moneysaving matters too. I really don't think there is any blogging going on here whatsoever....

pantsdr

spacecommander wrote: »

Why do you feel the need to say that? there are all manner of threads in this particular forum that relate to nothing to do with moneysaving.

MSE is a community where people go to ask advice on moneysaving, and in this case and numerous others, non moneysaving matters too. I really don't think there is any blogging going on here whatsoever....

So hurt and pain are quantifiable in terms of financial losses and gains?

melancholly

pantsdr wrote: »

So hurt and pain are quantifiable in terms of financial losses and gains?

try reading the rest of the sentence:

spacecommander wrote:

MSE is a community where people go to ask advice on moneysaving, and in this case and numerous others, non moneysaving matters too.

feelinggood_2

pantsdr wrote: »

FG, why did you feel the need to air your frustrations on 'money saving' forum? Just type infidelity into google and i'm sure you will find many an avenue for your 'blogging'.

I've been a regular poster on MSE for over 4 years, and I've made many good friends here. I've come to see MSE as a friendly and helpful place. I've recieved support here, and hopefully I've given support too. There are many threads, from long standing support threads to one off discussions. Sometimes it is good to talk about things, and this thread gave me an opportunity to, and I'm grateful to the OP. I've learnt about myself by posting in, and reading, this thread.

pantsdr

melancholly wrote: »

try reading the rest of the sentence:

Why ask for the thread to be closed then? starting a thread such as this you know you are going to get both sides of the argument, if you only want to hear one side then post on 'infidelity appreciation' Not MSE.

feelinggood_2

melancholly wrote: »

any chance the thread could be locked before anything more offensive is levelled at the OP?!

i don't approve of her actions but i think the condemation and personal attacks on here are just horrible.

I wouldn't like the thread to be locked, as I think there has been a lot of helpful discussion around a very emotive topic. I think sometimes we need to take a step back and remember the No. 1 rule: Be nice to all moneysavers!

melancholly

pantsdr wrote: »

Why ask for the thread to be closed then? starting a thread such as this you know you are going to get both sides of the argument, if you only want to hear one side then post on 'infidelity appreciation' Not MSE.

just to be clear - I didn't start it. i just think that manners have gone out the window and some people just want to tell the OP she's a horrible person. i don't think the world is as black and white as that, and while i have repeatedly said that i don't think the OP has behaved properly, but it's very very sad that people want to be so nasty (especially when most of the points telling her she's been inappropriate are just repeating others from earlier).

i don't think advice needs to all sympathetic but the nastiness is not what MSE is about..... it's just plain juvenile name calling. (e.g. "What a horrible, selfish, self-centred person you are.").

i suggest everyone typing in insults goes back to their prefect little lives where they never do anything wrong..... :rolleyes: because clearly they must be whiter than white themselves since they are so keen to cast stones.

i'm done with this thread now anyway (i don't see the point) - it actually sounds like something from the arms rather than the main side. the OP is ashamed of herself, but there are plenty of people who've posted on here should be too.

mymatebob

melancholly wrote: »

just to be clear - I didn't start it. i just think that manners have gone out the window and some people just want to tell the OP she's a horrible person. i don't think the world is as black and white as that, and while i have repeatedly said that i don't think the OP has behaved properly, but it's very very sad that people want to be so nasty (especially when most of the points telling her she's been inappropriate are just repeating others from earlier).

i don't think advice needs to all sympathetic but the nastiness is not what MSE is about..... it's just plain juvenile name calling. (e.g. "What a horrible, selfish, self-centred person you are.").

i suggest everyone typing in insults goes back to their prefect little lives where they never do anything wrong..... :rolleyes: because clearly they must be whiter than white themselves since they are so keen to cast stones.

i'm done with this thread now anyway (i don't see the point) - it actually sounds like something from the arms rather than the main side. the OP is ashamed of herself, but there are plenty of people who've posted on here should be too.

My thoughts exactly and for me, time to move on.

Have given this enough of my time and I have been disappointed, yet not surprised, at some people's reaction.

searching_me

ok i think people need to put emotions aside nobody is trying to attack anybody... FG and OP wanted peoples advice and thoughts and thats what they got yes some havent sounded very nice but every body is different and are gonna voice different things its how people take them that makes them nasty if your gonna put your bussiness out there someones gonna say something someone might not like xxx

searching_me

right now FG- finally got the whole picture by the looks of it theres still lots of hurt going on deep down affairs are people way of running away from there problems the one they dont want to look at... i also think people on here are right in the sense that if he can do that to his pregnant wife what stops him from doing it to you? ... i think you need to look at yourself (i dont mean that in a bad way) but why do you do this... why the lies and the deeper commitment with someone else? ... you cant like yourself right now i understand that but have you ever thought your not right for your husband and this guy is not right for you? xxx