Why are some people on here being so nasty?

LillyJ

I also note that you have more mortgage debt than I do.

Is that why you aren't enjoying your life?

I don't know what age you are (but you are probably pretty old judging by your comments and the fact you are a dad when you see relationships at a young age as wrong) but there is no way I am saddling myself with that much debt at your age.

LillyJ

Dithering_Dad wrote: »

Perhaps you should hire a few chick flicks to see what all the fuss is about? Unless you experience it, you won't understand it. It's like me trying to describe what 'Love' is like to Osama Bin Laden...

I like Pretty Woman, are you suggesting I become a prostitute?

You can't think of anything I am missing out on, when you started you though I was someone who had sacrificed my life for someone else, when actually you have realised I have lived a very fullfilling youth. Sorry to dissapoint you!

You are very boring actually, which is likely why you didn't meet anyone when you were young. Just shown this thread to a single friend who I work with, she nearly cried with laughter. (at you that is).

Conrad

Dithering_Dad wrote: »

I don't need to to tell anyone else on this forum what you are missing out on. Does the fact that you don't know, not answer your question?

Dithering dad, you make assumptions.
Your subconscious appears to be taking mental shortcuts, a trait that can lead to a lot of negativity in life.

LillyJ

Dithering_Dad wrote: »

lol, just with this comment alone you have shown just how much you need to mature and develop.

Can someone else explain to Lilly why having a smaller mortgage debt than someone else doesn't necessarily mean that you are doing better than they are?

Nope it doesn't mean that I am doing better, but by the time I am your age (actually probably before I am 30) I will be mortgage free and rent free.
Just trying to explain to you (although you are so much older and wiser) that it isn't necessarily a life sentence buying a house as a 23 year old.

If I was a 17 year old saying all this then I may understand your response, but I am a grown woman in a senior position in my job with excellent qualifications and more life experience than a lot of people 20 years older than me.

LillyJ

Dithering_Dad wrote: »

You should know.

I can't believe you just told me I need to mature and develop and then posted this!

You might as well have just said "so there " os something equally as playground.

You clearly have a lot of anger. I suspect you are also jelous of people who have what you never got in life, which is a terrible sorry state to be in.

olly300

DD behave.

She is only 23.

Conrad

Dithering_Dad wrote: »

You should know.

DD you accuse Lilly of seeking validation from an internet forum, yet your signature previously advertised your '3 yr to clear your mortgage' challenge and that you had repaid £35000 last year!

Seems an extreme and dare I say pretty dull aim

izzybusy23

Dan: wrote: »

Still a little hacked off at not being able to afford a house Izzy??????

No, why should I be? Quite fun actually watching this whole silly mess unfold. You still cr&pping yourself that you have overstretched yourself?

Oh dear, I thought you had grown up since you PM'd me.. obviously not.

LillyJ

Dithering_Dad wrote: »

Prostitute? There you go again with the sex stuff. You are obsessed. I say again, that's not what being single is all about.

Yes, I am obviously wrong. You have such a fulfilling life and it could not possibly be any better. That's why you need to validate your life with colleagues, forum friends and within long paragraphs of words on a forum. It's also why you get so irate with strangers who may question the longevity of your relationship.

I have changed my views. I think it is a great idea to settle down with the first person you have a serious relationship with.

Being single may not be about having sex, but that is what chick flicks portray so your anaolgy was flawed there. Have you not seen Pretty Woman?

I don't have forum friends (no offence to anyone) I have real life friends, as that is what life is about. I only came on this forum to find out about buying a house and I have since found it quite interesting. However I don't buy in to living my life through it or making friends on a forum.

My colleague you mention is actually a close friend who I have know for nearly 6 years. It is a shame you seem a bit confused as to what constitutes friendship and cannot see that colleagues can be friends too. I just wanted to give her a good laugh, which she certainly got.

Still, you have avoided the real issue here that you cannot see anything I am missing out on. My life isn't perfect (I would like to live closer to my parents, I would like my Mum to be in perfect health again, I would like my car not to have blown a head gasket 2 months ago, I would like to stop eating chocolate when I don't need it, I would like to be able to run 10k every day rather than the 5k I currently do, I would like my boyfriend to work fewer shifts, I would like my best friend who is heavily pregnant to live closer to me so I could see her more regularly, I would like another friend not to have just been diagnosed with MS, I would like my Grandad to still be alive....)

But as far as what I have got goes, I certainly make the most of it.

Since my mother became very ill and nearly died (she is only in her 40s) in January, I have made sure I take every oppurtunity to live my life to the fullest. That includes being with the most wonderful man in the world.

Conrad

Ha!

I see the signature is back

Validation............