Why are some people on here being so nasty?

JonnyBravo

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

.... still in all that time have never met another man half as interesting, compassionate, funny or sexy. So it was a good choice (-:

He's twice as interesting as any man you've ever met?
He's twice as compassionate as any man you've ever met?
He's twice as funny as any man you've ever met?
He's twice as sexy as any man you've ever met?

Blimey.
:rolleyes:

posh*spice

Lillyj- DD is a wind up merchant, ignore him hun;)

neverdespairgirl

JonnyBravo wrote: »

He's twice as interesting as any man you've ever met?
He's twice as compassionate as any man you've ever met?
He's twice as funny as any man you've ever met?
He's twice as sexy as any man you've ever met? /quote]

He is all of those things - which is why I've hung on to him!

LillyJ

Dithering_Dad wrote: »

So sad that you won't give yourself time to develop as an individual, but rather have to attach yourself to the 'safety blanket' of being someone's 'other half'.

Well, it's your life to waste. Don't say I didn't warn you. Perhaps I'm just the sort of person who doesn't just jump at the first thing that comes along - whether car, house, or partner.

It's also funny that you equate being single to having sex - mentioned a few times and with references to sexual diseases. Sex isn't anything to be afraid of, it's not 'dirty'. Being single isn't really about casual sex, it's about dating and enjoying the company of different people from different backgrounds, instead of latching onto someone you found at school/uni who may become a different person as they mature.

hehe, you really are so wise aren't you?

"enjoying the company of different people from different backgrounds"??? Yeah, cos I have absolutely no friends whatsoever....
I only live in one of the most mulitcultural cities in the whole of the UK, and having lived abroad a lot when I was a child, have friends from all over the world, friends who went to Harrow school, friends who are assylum seekers, friends who do all manner of different things for a living, university educated, left school after GCSEs, have kids, single, etc etc.

It really seems like you are very bitter about something in your life, and you clearly have an extremely strange view of what it means to be someone's partner. I am most definately an individual, hence the reason why I was able to go to Africa for 3 months alone, and mix with all sorts of people. If I needed to be someone's partner I wouldn't have gone.

I also have a very healthy attitude to sex, thanks very much and am more than happy with that side of my life!

Are you married Dithering Dad? Maybe you regret it? If so then there is no point in trying to make other people feel silly for being happy.

So so far you have come up with "dating" as something I have missed out on. Wow, my life really isn't complete.

Sir_Humphrey

Dithering_Dad wrote: »

It's also funny that you equate being single to having sex - mentioned a few times and with references to sexual diseases. Sex isn't anything to be afraid of, it's not 'dirty'. Being single isn't really about casual sex, it's about dating and enjoying the company of different people from different backgrounds, instead of latching onto someone you found at school/uni who may become a different person as they mature.

I am not sure that unsolicited marriage advice is appropriate.

I think you do make a reasonable point about marrying young. I think that is an issue if the person ends up wanting something very different from life than their partner.

For the record, my mother was 23 when she married and my parents are still together. However, I was not born until she was over 30.

I think the frustration that DD mentions is a frustration felt more by men more than by women.

It is impossible to generalise about these things.

LillyJ

Sir_Humphrey wrote: »

I am not sure that unsolicited marriage advice is appropriate.

I think you do make a reasonable point about marrying young. I think that is an issue if the person ends up wanting something very different from life than their partner.

For the record, my mother was 23 when she married and my parents are still together. However, I was not born until she was over 30.

I think the frustration that DD mentions is a frustration felt more by men more than by women.

It is impossible to generalise about these things.

It's also funny that he has been giving me all this advice about how I am going to regret getting married young, when I am not even married!

At age 23 a huge number of my friends are married with kids. (one has a 7 year old) I am neither married nor have kids. Maybe we should raise the age of marriage from 18 to 30 if it is such an awful thing!

posh*spice

DD - have you got nothing better to do?
For those interested Rightsearch have just reported falls in HPs and so has HMCE...

LillyJ

Dithering_Dad wrote: »

Why are you still determined to twist what I am saying from

"I think it's a mistake to marry/settle down with your first serious boyfriend and I also think it's a mistake to rush from school to Uni to Mortgage and that you should enjoy your youth, while you still have it"

into "I think relationships and marriage are crap, mine especially"?

Do you just not understand what I'm saying or are you being deliberately obtuse as you find it hard to argue against what I (and the National office of statistics) say?

I am not a statistic, I am a person.

You have yet to enlighten me as to what I am missing out on.

You have yet to find any suggestion that I am not enjoying my youth.

Did you not need a roof over your head when you were young? It is a choice between renting or mortgage, and I chose the later, nothing to do with not enjoying life.

I am still at a loss to understand this wonderful thing I am missing out on, and it appears you are aswell.

Another thing, what did you propose I did apart from go from school to uni to getting a roof over my head? The only thing that people I know do with GAP years are travel, and I have managed to do that without taking a whole year to doss.

I am sorry if you have an issue with people who work hard to get the career they want rather than taking time off to randomly lay about, but I am very proud of my achievments in life.

To give up the man I love in order to go on a few "dates" is utterly pointless when I get all the company I need from friends.

Despite all this I think Posh Spice may be right and you are a wind up merchant. You most certainly don't have anything of value to say other than "you are wrong, anyone in a relationship under *random unspecified age* is going to regret it".

If you lived your life by statistics, you would be a very sad person. The majority of people from Comps don't go on to get PhDs do they? Doesn't mean I sat on my a**e at home not bothering with education cos that's what the statistics say.

jamescredmond

FWIW: met my OH when I was 20. she 19.

mortgaged at 22.

1st born at 24.

together for 26yrs and no complaints.

but how, in the name of the Almighty, she puts up with me is a total bloody mystery.

moved up the prop. ladder and mortgage almost finished.

then rent-free for the rest of life.

keep life expectations low and don't ask too much of each other.

meeting young CAN pay dividends, notwithstanding the NOS figures.

LillyJ

Dithering_Dad wrote: »

I don't need to to tell anyone else on this forum what you are missing out on. Does the fact that you don't know, not answer your question?

Not sure any one else knows to be honest DD, read the other posts.

You have come up with..... "dates".

You can't think of anything else.

You are now stuck so post some sort of ridiculous mysterious comment as if there is something in life everyone bar me has experienced and you are all sitting there chuckling to yourself. I think not.