Advice on Potty training

lou49

Hi there. Haven't read all thread but just wanted to add: daughter now 22 - tore my hair out that she would always be in nappies and wasn't out of them till she turned 3 - a wonderful health visitor reassured me that they do it when they are ready and I just had to postpone her nursery starting date by a term. Son (17 last week) was also not having any of it until he turned 3. We laugh about it now! Health visitor said they never go down the aisle in nappies! (not that this is happening - the aisle bit!) Just saw this thread so wanted to weigh in...!
Louise

rosielx

Taken a break from potty training today so I have my little angel back...:eek:

lou49

What a relief to have a day off, Rosie. Have looked at thread and wanted to add that my two never used potty, went straight to using the loo with a trainer seat. They were also pretty much dry at night (would take them to loo when I went to bed). It was if they made their minds up....and with the second one I didn't feel so worried as I knew it had been OK with my elder child.

Funny when I think of it; people used to say to me - about everything annoying that kids did - 'they'll grow out of it - it's just a phrase'.I try and tell myself this now when my 17 year old son is being really impossible and bumped into someone today who told me I can expect this for eight years! It must be true with kids - no sooner than you go through one difficult bit then another one comes along!
Louise

balmaiden

For what it is worth both my daughters and my 3 grandchildren always used the toilet and were never offered a potty.Some were trained quicker than others but they all new what a toilet was for as they obviously from tiny accompanied mum or gran to the loo. I think introducing a potty is a bit baffling to some kids

homeaway

Hi just to add that I have three children, one loved using the potty and the other two just decided to use the toilet with a toilet seat. I would not get stressed out by this he will be dry when he is ready.... remember you dont see teenagers in nappies::rotfl:) I would not force her it will just end up a battle ground. Choose a time when you are both relaxed and try again.

beckseven

I went through the same angst with DS a month a go. My second baby is due in January and DS will be three in February and I booked a week off work to devote one on one attention to DS. I loosely followed Gina Ford's potty training methods but was in despair by the Tuesday after about 30 accidents, and him hating to sit on his potty. Then in desparation I put him on the potty and kept him there-he cried a bit (oh I sound awful don't I ) but did a wee in it and I made a massive fuss of him and gave him a jelly tot and a sticker. He had loads of accidents at first but we are now getting there and he's actually worn the same clothes all day long at nursery all week now! I know encouraging with sweets is bad for teeth but I read that this can be used to coax a very stubborn child. I've now sneakily stopped giving the sweets now! Last month I though that there was no way I could potty train DS but he's done really well. It is about being ready so don't listen to peer pressure especially from the older generation-remember they had to use terry nappys so they were desparate to get them out of them ASAP! Good luck

loobylou2

Don't worry, she'll just do it when she's ready to and not before. My youngest is 3 this month and she's only just got there. Even now we still give her the choice about whether or not she wants to wear big girl pants or a nappy during the day but she's now at the stage where she'll choose the pants over the nappy and knows that she just wears a nappy at bedtime!!! Letting them choose which pair of pants they'll be wearing is also an incentive!!! My little one loves wearing her "Upsy Daisy" knickers and she'll quite happily tell us now when she needs to use the potty!!!!

Mummyboo

Hi My 3 year old is great for weeing on the potty But he refuses to do a number 2 .

He will either hold it or do it in his pants. Sometimes he will ask for a nappy and do it which I don't like doing but don't want him to hold it and hurt himself.

Does anyone have any suggestions???

Jo_R_2

My DD1 was EXACTLY the same!

She was toilet training a little younger than your DS, but she did the same thing. We waited until she showed she was ready, following her cues, and she started off being fine with doing a poo in the potty or toilet.

However she then went backwards a little and started not wanting to poo in the potty or toilet. She would ask for a nappy so she could poo, or else she would hold it for as long as she could and inevitably when it eventually had to come out, she would be very distressed and in tears about it, which incidentally was also really upsetting to see

Much as we tried coaxing and gentle persuasion, a fibrous diet with plenty of fluids, it simply took time. All we could gather was that possibly she had had a bit of soreness previously when using the potty and after that held it in because she was frightened it would hurt when she did it again.

We swapped and changed between pants and nappies, she had been wearing pants but at one point we started her in nappies again thinking she might relax about it more, realise it would be fine then could put her back in pants again. However after consulting with nursery, they thought it would be better to have one or the other and to go with pants all the time as the 'grown up' option.

Once she did realise it would be fine, she never looked back. I gather it can happen fairly frequently apparently.

Milford_Cubicle

Make sure the stool he's passing isn't hard and causing distress. If it's normal, then the trick I used was a sweet or a chocolate for doing a poo on the potty. DD tended to only poo on the potty once or twice per day, so she was only getting one or two chocolates/sweets for doing this. I know so many people frown on it, but it really worked for us, stopped her becoming constipated and got her into a routine. She's now 7 and has a number 2 every day at teatime without fail.

I think the treat was given by me for 6 months or so, when she was in a good routine with normal stools, I'd 'forget' about the treat, or pretend we didn't have any and that I'd get some when we went shopping (tomorrow or whatever). Eventually the treat was forgotten about, but the routine remained. Good luck