Advice on Potty training

tsstss7

IMO it's better to potty train in warmer weather as by far the easiest way is to do as mentioned above and let them roam around nappy free and preferably spend more time in the garden (if you have one).

Also familiarisation with the potty and what it is used for is helpful so if you know a potty trained older child letting your child see them use the potty will really help.

My oldest was potty trained at 18 mths and out of nappies altogether at 2 (I had a bad back and hated changing nappies so at the first sign of readyness I was in there) but to make that successful I did have to always know where the toilets were when out in town....LO says "I need a wee" and then you sprint....... fun. lol.

TotallyBroke

If your childminder is happy to help then I say go for it.
What I meant about the nursery is the ones linked to the schools. They will not take a child in nappies or one that has regular accidents.
My childminder is mentioning now about training my son (who won't be two until Jan) but she is older when it was average to have them trained by 18months. I think it's too soon for my son as he won't even tell you he has messed his nappy. I have to ask him then he'll say "yes wee" no matter what he has done. But he is becoming more inquisitive about it all as my 3yo nephew has been dry for at least 6months and prefers the toilet to the potty.
So we'll see how he develops over the coming months.

Good luck I hope it doesn't drag on too long for you.

mishmash

My Little girl was 3 and a half, when she decided it was her time. I had tried at regular intervals from her being 2 and a half. All my other children were about 2 and a half and were dry day and night within a few weeks my youngest had other ideas.

I got the pink potty, toilet seat and step, Cando wipes, star chart the lot- all to no avail. I was starting to worry she would be at Nursery school in nappies.

However, In the summer (just before she started nursery) she decided she would go to the toilet. I think it can be the sign of a clever (or stubborn) child.

My advice is to wait til she is ready. The best advice my Nana gave was "she won't still be in nappy's when she is 21" this is generally the advice for any child issue she gives, won't still have a dummy, wont still be waking in the night and so on when they are 21.

Mish

Nicki

TotallyBroke wrote: »

What I meant about the nursery is the ones linked to the schools. They will not take a child in nappies or one that has regular accidents.

This may have been the case years ago but should not be the case now. All nurseries (and schools) are required by law to take children whether or not they are out of nappies/having regular accidents. If your school pretends they will not, a quick call to your local Education Department should sort them out!

That's not to say that you wouldn't want, if you can, to have your child toilet trained before they start nursery, but if that doesn't happen for whatever reason, its not a reason for your child to miss out.

The government takes a much more liberal view than some parents and grandparents about these things :rolleyes: , and its official guidance makes clear that if a child is not toilet trained by the age of three, this is in most cases because the child is not developmentally ready, and is no reflection on either the child's temperament or the mother's parenting skills, and is not a valid reason to exclude them from nursery provision.

My DD (who has special needs) wasn't toilet trained until she was 6 and we had more than 2 years of accidents to contend with, so anyone struggling with this stage has my full sympathy.

Lillibet_2

Oh you have my sympathy! I spent 9 weeks earlier this year attempting to potty train my son (he was 3 in August). Eventually nursery said they jusst didn't think he was ready & they suggested I revert to nappies, oh the relief! I didn't want to be the one to admit defeat but he clearly wasn't gettigg the idea & my house stank for pee & poo:o. He has gone back into pull ups, has absoutly no interest in using the potty or toilet & we are just leaving it for now. I intend to try again after Xmas. In the mean time I've got him lots of potty books & pottys for his cuddly toys to try & keep him used to the concept even if he doesn't want to practise it himself.
Bottom line, don't beat yourself up, it'll happen eventually, just not necessarily when we think it should!

Good luck;)

liney

Gina Ford did a potty training book, but you do need to dedicate a week to it in the house. I followed it liberally, and my son was still dry at the end of the week, with no previous attemps at potty training; he was 2 1/2. Might be worth a look in the library, even if you don't follow the 'plan' you could get some ideas for methods. There were methods for different temperments of child if i remember correctly.

My_Fathers_Daughter

I have all this yet to come (got to actually have the baby yet!) but my mother was a childminder and I would say have a good chat with the childminder about how you both want to take it forward. The minder has probably done this many times before and will know your child well.

Having said that, I know kids don't always behave the same with the minder as with their parents but a combined approach is likely to be best.

hannahsmummy1

My daughter wasnt trained till well after she was 3, (though it wasnt for the lack of trying from MIL) she didnt even really have the language to try it before that. I dont recall having any probs with her at all, because it was all done on her terms, there was no tears,tantrums or anything from me or her. She didnt go on a potty though, she went straight on the toilet. she will go when she is ready

TotallyBroke

Nicki wrote: »

This may have been the case years ago but should not be the case now. All nurseries (and schools) are required by law to take children whether or not they are out of nappies/having regular accidents. If your school pretends they will not, a quick call to your local Education Department should sort them out!

That's not to say that you wouldn't want, if you can, to have your child toilet trained before they start nursery, but if that doesn't happen for whatever reason, its not a reason for your child to miss out.

The government takes a much more liberal view than some parents and grandparents about these things :rolleyes: , and its official guidance makes clear that if a child is not toilet trained by the age of three, this is in most cases because the child is not developmentally ready, and is no reflection on either the child's temperament or the mother's parenting skills, and is not a valid reason to exclude them from nursery provision.

My DD (who has special needs) wasn't toilet trained until she was 6 and we had more than 2 years of accidents to contend with, so anyone struggling with this stage has my full sympathy.

I did not know this and maybe now I have read this I fall into the non liberal view of some others. Interesting that the "liberal" governemnt can allow children that are not developmentally ready to use a toilet into a preschool nursery. Yet two years later will find them developmentally ready to receive sex education in some form.
I did and do not mean to offend anyone with my posts.
I wish you all the luck with potty training and hope that when the time is right it goes smoothly for you all.

onlyroz

We started potty training our boy from the age of 2. We put him into pants and just let him wet himself, making sure we took him to the toilet frequently. Bribes also work - we found keeping a big pack of minstrels in the bathroom worked - he could have one after he'd sat on the toilet for a bit (whether he used it or not) and after he'd washed his hands. It took a long time, but by the age of three he was only wearing a nappy at night, and now, at three-and-a-half, he's dry at night as well. He hasn't had a proper accident in ages - sometimes he leaks a bit, mainly when he gets distracted and forgets he needs to go, but he's basically trained.