Advice on Potty training

Buttonmoons

I know how you feel, my 2year old had been showing signs she was ready to be potty trained, but put her anywhere near the toilet and she would scream, the potty was useless as she thought it was a helmet...
All of a sudden, she just started going herself, I don't even have to ask her if she needs a wee, she does it herself, although I'm still trying to persuade her to poo in it aswell, she demands a pull up for that. Kids eh!

arthur_dent_2

I had a nightmare potty training my eldest and in fact she wasn't dry at night till she was gone 4. I did all the right things with her and yet she was awful. So second time around to be honest I couldn't be bothered and she was dry day and night not long after she was 2. It is down to the child whether she will go potty or not but my father in law once said to me that you never see an adult with a nappy on so don't worry about it and that is what I would say to you.

pukkamum

i would agree with just leaving it.
Also maybe it's the potty itself my dd hates the potty as it is really uncomfortable and would much rather use the toilet.
Does she have any older friends who are potty trained?
My dd loves knowing she is the same as her big girl friends.
Definately do not force her to wear knickers or sit on the potty as you may well create a phobia.
Also if she is holding herself for hours she could end up with a urine infection, just leave the potty out, don't mention it and let her run around in a bare bum you may be surprised.

JC-P

My daughter is 3 in March so just a little younger than yours. She asks for the potty all the time but never does anything on it.
As much as so called friends may say their children were dry in the night too by then I'm just ignoring it.
They'll do it when they're ready I suppose and would defiantely avoid making an issue as like it's been said before, she could end up with a phobia of the potty.

jinky67

my DD was three and a half when i had to force her into pants..she showed no signs at all of ever being interested:rolleyes:
She hated it the first 2 days but was great after that...

sandraroffey

My Daughter Had A Terrible Time With Twins - Try To Get Two At The Same Time Trained!!! And They Were Three And A Half. So We Waited Until It Was A Nice Week Weather Wise And Let Them Run Around With Nothing On The Bottom Half And Put The Potties Where They Could See Them. A Few Accidents Of Course But By The End Of The Week, They Were Well And Truly Trained. My Daughter In Law Potty Trained Her Two By The Same Method.

rosielx

Thankyou for all of the replies

My toddler won't run around the house without pants on but I see where you are coming from. We have more than one potty - a pink one, a green one and a musical one and she doesn't like any of them.

Have just bought a padded toilet seat with the handles on so will see if that helps. I think if I don't see any progress by Sunday then we are going back into nappys for a while :rolleyes: . Thanks to Boots we have rather a lot to use up....

All of her older friends are potty trained as are some of the younger ones but I'm not intending to pressure her. I thought the time was right as she had all of the signals mentioned in books and parenting pages but might just be wrong.

She has a very large toy coming in the post today so I can see some bribery coming on tonight. I'm also wondering if it is because she was a prem baby and her physical development seemed to be a little delayed at 18 months? Also mummy has crohn's disease and anyone with that know's that when you gotta go you have to go so she may have picked up that toilets aren't nice.

I got her a baby born doll in a charity shop that does wees so we will have to spend some more time role playing with her.

Millie's_Mum

My daughter was exactly the same and i gave up because I felt that she would begin to associate screaming and upset with going to the toilet/the pottty and that things would get worse.

Then one day a couple of months after she was three she told me she didn't want to wear nappies anymore, we put pants on and she was away, she never used the potty went straight to using the toilet, dry day and night, two years later has never had an accident.

She just wasn't ready before that, she also has a stubborn streak and letting her decide when she was ready was the best thing I ever did.

Don't let peer pressure force you into it, she will do it when she is ready.

TotallyBroke

You have already started the process so I think you need to carry on. Stopping and starting is only going to confuse the child and will make it harder as child will want the security of the nappy.
Do you use the toilet yourself in front of the child. Maybe take the potty with you both when you need to go and you use the toilet while they sit on the potty. My DS is not even two but when we go to bed he gets to the top of the stairs and says wee. (I have to then use the toilet as I personally think at 20months he is too young)
You could try skipping the potty altogether and maybe try going straight to the toilet with a seat.

But remember they will have to be dry before starting nursery which will be anytime soon if they are three.

rosielx

She does go to into the toilet with mummy with no problems. She's always been used to this because I have crohn's and spend a lot of time in toilets . Have tried toilet with her and normal toddler seat but she screamed am now waiting for padded one as I can see her point about it not being comfy.

There is no pressure from a nursery as she has been four days a week with my childminder since she was one and she is happy to train her with me. She does go to play group but they will usually change them if they have an accident.