Advice on Potty training

elainew

frugallass wrote: »

Are you a mum as well? I find your answer quite a strange one tbh.

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yes I do actually mention that I'm a mum too in my reply. I never said dont do it but its sooo much easier to do it when they are older and can tell you they need to go. At 12 months children cannot tell say Mummy I need a wee and a poo and sometimes the accidents can put them off and can be quite distressing.
To train early usually involves lots of tears , wees on the floor and lots of pants going in the bin.
For ME personally I found leaving it longer, planning on staying in the house for a week and doing it. But as I said it took 2 days and 1 day of accidents before she was trained and 2 months later to be dry at night.
Each to their own but this worked for me

liney

Actually it's more likely the mothers of the 12 month old potty goers were trained then the children.

It's easy enough to put a child on the potty straight after a meal/nap/drink, catch a wee and say they are potty trained. Children are not potty trained until they, without prompting, go to the potty/loo remove clothing and use the facilities.

OP, yours sounds like he might be ready, and i'd give it a try, but don't fret about it. He is still very young. When a child is ready it just clicks and the whole process takes a matter of days. Those that go for months with accidents are forcing children that just aren't ready yet.

feelinggood_2

I don't think it is the age that is important, its the child and the method used.

This child seems to be ready and keen to start, and as long as the OP continues to treat this in a calm, and relaxed manner, I don't think that age is a problem.

OP - sounds like you are doing all the right things, so continue with letting your son dictate the speed which you 'potty train'.

mwa

This is a great post, I am trying to potty train my 26 month old DD now and apart from one poo success we just get lots of sitting on the potty but no results yet!

MWA

SarahNeedle1872

Well the potty was a success for the first couple of hours I had it out today... DS did one wee, then Maka Pakka and Iggle Piggle spent the rest of the morning on the potty.... 'Mummy, Paka poo! Yay!' was all that could be heard.

I didn't put him on after his meals or milk at bed time (didn't think of that!) but will give it a go again tomorrow.... well I say 'give it a go'... there's a potty upstairs and one downstairs, and if he wants it, he can use it!

Thank you all for your input so far, its interesting to see people's differing views

GracieP

liney wrote: »

Actually it's more likely the mothers of the 12 month old potty goers were trained then the children.

It's easy enough to put a child on the potty straight after a meal/nap/drink, catch a wee and say they are potty trained. Children are not potty trained until they, without prompting, go to the potty/loo remove clothing and use the facilities.

How many early trained children do you know? That's initially how it works, but because of that the babies never learn that they should defecate on themselves which is what nappies teach them.

From 5 months my mother used to put me on the potty at the time I normally pooed. When I was 8 months I crawled to get my potty when I needed to poo. Which shocked my mother as she hadn't thought she was training me, she had just been saving herself the work of washing a dirty nappy. Within days she stopped putting me in a nappy in the day time and after two accidents I never wet again in the day. By 11 months I had a dry nappy each morning after 12 hours of sleep.

At 13 months I fell headfirst out of a shopping trolley knocking my self unconscious. When my mum picked me up I peed all over her (making her think I was dead) that was the last time I ever wet myself. Back then hospitals had strict visiting hours, even for the parents of infant patients. So I spent 15 hours that night in hospital without being taken to the toilet as the nurse had put me in two nappies (one over the other) and assumed I'd just go in them. By the time my parents were able to see me in the morning I was screaming for the toilet, but I hadn't wet myself.

I might not have been able to take myself to the bathroom but I was able to control my bladder and sphincter which is what potty trained means. Or are you saying that a disabled person with perfect bladder and sphincter control but who can't use the toilet unassisted is actually incontinent? Early toilet training may not be something which you felt was right for you or your child, but that doesn't give you the right to claim it isn't real.

galvanizersbaby

I would say to relax and go with it OP if your son is showing an interest.
I wouldn't worry if he falls in and out of love with the potty just go with the flow pardon the pun!

I didn't end up really going for it with my son until the summer before he was 3 (though he had shown interest on and off in using his potty) as it was easier having accidents outside
My daughter trained herself at around your son's age - just took herself off to the toilet (didn't want to use the potty) and refused to let me put pull-ups on her so that was that! - I can only recall one accident and she was poorly at the time so plain sailing there.

Good luck with it all x

kj*daisy

My DD was like this - in the end it took nearly a year to get it sorted after we'd started potty training. Bribery with chocolate did it in the end.
Getting cross just made it much worse, and I did go through a period of getting quite annoyed. Nursery helped as they kept reassuring me it was normal and she would eventually stop - which she did.
Good luck:)

onlyroz

Give bribery a go. My boy used to get a small chocolate for every successful use of the toilet. Otherwise, stock up on some cheap toys (e.g. toy cars - Tesco sells them for 50p) or make a sticker chart, or something. Maybe 5 stickers = one toy car?

milliebear00001

You could try putting the nappy in the potty and getting him to sit on it. A couple of people I know have had success with this!