Advice on Potty training

Loulou2010

pokey128 wrote: »

Thanks everyone for your replies. I know I'm in the wrong here and he probably isn't ready but when I've suggested him wearing nappies again he doesn't want to and says nappies are only for when he's sleeping. I feel like the worst mother in the world when I've got frustrated at him (and I probably am). I know it's all my fault and not his at all but I'm just so tired all the time I can't help it. I can't send him to preschool until he is trained and I was (as selfish as it sounds), looking forward to him going to preschool for a couple of hours a day so i can spend more time with his little brother. I really want to be a good mum and feel so blessed that we can afford for me not to work at the moment but this is really getting down and I hate myself for it.

you hate yourself because you cant get your two year potty trained (i'm trying to do the same thing) and you want to do it so he can go to preschool - you sound stressed and in need of a break imo. that sounds more of the prblem

jinky67

my DD went to nursery in nappies at the age of three. Dont stress over it

themull1

If he doesn't want to wear nappies, get him some pull ups.

pigpen

state nurseries are not allowed to refuse a child that is still in nappies.

Put him back in them, leave him while summer and give both of yourselves a break!!

bluebag

pokey128 wrote: »

Thanks everyone for your replies. I know I'm in the wrong here and he probably isn't ready but when I've suggested him wearing nappies again he doesn't want to and says nappies are only for when he's sleeping. I feel like the worst mother in the world when I've got frustrated at him (and I probably am). I know it's all my fault and not his at all but I'm just so tired all the time I can't help it. I can't send him to preschool until he is trained and I was (as selfish as it sounds), looking forward to him going to preschool for a couple of hours a day so i can spend more time with his little brother. I really want to be a good mum and feel so blessed that we can afford for me not to work at the moment but this is really getting down and I hate myself for it.

You ARE a good mum, that's why you are on here asking for help, otherwise you wouldn't give a toss! He is probably becoming stressed because you are stressed, give pull ups a try, they look like pants and with a little pep talk you can probably get him to accept them.

Stop being so hard on yourself and him, parenting is hard work, relentless and there is no guidebook, day off, bank holiday or lunchbreak.

You are doing a good job.

McKneff

I agree with bluebag, youre trying to be a good mum, its just that youre trying too hard and going over the top.

just take each day as it comes and make an effort not to beg frustrated.

The sumer is the best time to potty train, they can run around in the nude if they want too, and they are easily washed. Much
harder in the winter.

Good luck

meer53

Leave him to decide when he wants to stop wearing nappies. The more you stress about it the more accidents he will have. My son was still wearing a nappy for bed when he was nearly 4, he was dry during the day but at night he woke up if he wasn't wearing a nappy. He's 24 now, no nappies ! Each child is different, don't listen to people who tell you their child was out of nappies at 6 months.

go_cat

Completely agres with him not being ready - My DS was 2 months off 3 before we tried properly and took him out of nappies he picked it up in 2 days but am convinced was because he was older

he will pick up on the fact yur being negative towards his accidents and this will make him feel worse and may even delay success

money_saving_diva

You are not a bad mum, you are just stressed about potty training and tired. Being a mum is hard work. If you wait until he is ready to potty train you will realise how easy it can be :j he will do it all by himself when it 'clicks'.

Most of the children are in nappies/pull ups at my sons preschool I think because they can start when they are 2. My son has had lots of accidents at preschool because he is so distracted. They don't care - they are use to it! Have they actually said they won't take your son if he is not potty trained??:eek: Even when he is dry in the day he will still have some accidents (and you just have to ignore them because he won't be able to help it).

Get your son pull - ups (I found the supermarket brands just as good as huggies/pampers) They all have pics on them. One have monkeys on them so I called them 'monkey pants' not nappies. My son wears pullups at night and he calls them his 'night pants'.

He will be ready when he is ready. Go for a coffee or drink with a mate and chill out for an hour or two

minnie123

My little boy is nearly three and I tried toilet training him over this bank holiday weekend - he hated it and just wanted his nappy back on - I got mega stressed about it but after talking to some friends and family I have realised it's no biggy and i'm just going to leave it a few weeks and then try again. He won't do it until he is ready I guess.