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Advice on Potty training

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  • pigpen wrote: »
    Stuff what the inlaws and the outlaws and the vet say.. do YOU think she is ready?

    If not tell them to bog off and you'll do it in your own sweet time.. there isn't any hurry. 'no' is a very useful word!

    Pee's me right off when older relatives claim their child was trained at 3 weeks old.. actually no they weren't you are old and your memory has gone to lalaland!

    Personally, unless she is refusing to wear nappies (like 2 of mine did at 18 months!) I'd leave her until the summer. My 6 y/o I never seemed to have time so she trained herself at 2 and 4 months.. :D piece of cake and highly recommended!


    Totally agree with this. Ignore the in laws and decide for yourself whether you think she is ready.

    I had it from my MIL practically from the day I brought my eldest home from hospital. MY DH apparently was potty trained from birth. Her idea of potty trained and mine are obviously two different things. As far as I am concerned if you hold a new born over a pot and go ssss ssss ssss and he wees, that is luck not that they are somehow miraculously trained to use a pot.

    It will be far easier in the summer anyway with the warmer weather here. All my three were very different and the boys were much later becoming dry that my daughter. My younger boy still wet the bed until he was about 13.

    I found it helped to have two potties, one upstairs and one downstairs.
  • faithcecilia
    faithcecilia Posts: 1,095 Forumite
    I found it helped to have two potties, one upstairs and one downstairs.


    Definately. We had 4 in total with 'boy' to begin with, one in each room he used, so that even if he forgot we could pop him on it before he had finished so he got the idea.
  • mummyroysof3
    mummyroysof3 Posts: 4,566 Forumite
    Both my DS1 and DD got potty trained at 3 as they were not ready any sooner, my DS1 is 6 next month and we still take him to the toilet before we go to bed and he still wets the bed about once a week, DD still has a daytime accident a couple of times a week and her nappy is wet every morning so is a long way off night time training. I just think all kids are different and wont take to it if they arent ready no matter what parents/grandparents say lol i got sick of the grief they gave me over DS2 late walking, now he is i bet they start on at me about time not talking next lol
    Have a Bsc Hons open degree from the Open University 2015 :j:D:eek::T
  • nottslass_2
    nottslass_2 Posts: 1,765 Forumite
    Its still quite young to be thinking about potty training (unless she's giving you clues that she's ready).


    At the end of the day,they won't be dry until they are ready.Start too early and it'll just take ages and you'll just spend weeks changing clothes and mopping up puddles and it will eventually become frustrating and upsetting for both of you.


    I didn't start training my oldest 2 until they were well over 2.5 but it took less than a week before they were reliably dry and it was safe to leave the house without multiple changes of clothes.

    My Sil started training my DN 6 months earlier than I started with My DS (they're same age) BUT my DN wasn't dry any sooner than my DS although my mother swore blind that DN was "now out of nappies" and why wasn't my DS ! This was said as she was changing DN out of her 2nd set of clothes that day.
  • I have heard so many people of the older generation say that their kids were out of nappies REALLY young. It's a load of rubbish i think. They just followed them round and caught it more. Lots of that generation didn't have to work so they had the time.
    My eldest i started trying at 2 but he wasn't really trained till about 4 and still had accidents at night till he was about 7. Daughter took herself out of nappies at 2 when my youngest was born and he wasn't too bad, about 2 again.
    All kids are different and if you do it too early you will just have loads more washing.
    Good luck :-)
  • Becles
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    I think you need to decide if she is ready and not do it because relatives are putting pressure on you. If she's not ready, it'll just add to the pressure on you and you don't need that kind of stress!

    My eldest was about 2½ when we tried. His brother was born when he was 2 and 2 months, so I didn't try before that as I thought the new baby arriving might cause him to regress. Once the baby was about 3-4 months old we tried and settled in, I said he was the big boy and not a baby anymore ;) It worked well for wee's but I had terrible bother to get him to do a poo in the toilet as he just seemed terrified of it!

    My middle one was just turned two and suddenly said he didn't want to wear nappies any more and that was it! If only they could all be like that :D

    My youngest was just before her third birthday before she was ready. We'd tried a few times, but she clearly wasn't ready. I just kept trying every couple of months until she was ready and then she got the hang of it pretty quickly.

    Take her to buy some pretty big girl knickers of her choice. I found ones with logo's on best as they didn't want to wee on Princesses/Thomas/Bob the Builder etc.
    Here I go again on my own....
  • custardy
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    alm721 wrote: »
    My mil was on at me for ages about my son still being in nappies at 3. (All hers were out of nappies by 18months at the latest apparently). My son was nearly 3 and a half before we managed it and he still has frequent accidents (hes four in a week). He just wasn't ready any earlier. My daughter was out of nappies on her 2nd birthday. One day she told me she didn't want to wear nappies anymore, I told her she would have to ise the potty all the time. Within 2 days she was dry, within 5 days she was out of nappies at night and never had an accident.
    All kids are different. By all means if YOU feel YOUR child is ready, then go for it. If not then wait. It is not important what your mil or mum thinks. They all get their in the end and very few children are in nappies when they start school, seriously don't worry about it.

    thats where we are just now. he just wont take to it
  • faithcecilia
    faithcecilia Posts: 1,095 Forumite
    I have heard so many people of the older generation say that their kids were out of nappies REALLY young. It's a load of rubbish i think. They just followed them round and caught it more. Lots of that generation didn't have to work so they had the time.

    I think children did tend to train earlier and I think a lot of that was due to real nappies. A child in disposables just doesn't need to give any thought to when they wee as the nappy soaks it up so fast that they feel dry still. With good old terry towelling they learn what feeling wet it like and can relate that to the feeling before the wetness (ie needing and going for a wee). Its the same reason most people don't recommend pullups while training.
  • I think children did tend to train earlier and I think a lot of that was due to real nappies. A child in disposables just doesn't need to give any thought to when they wee as the nappy soaks it up so fast that they feel dry still. With good old terry towelling they learn what feeling wet it like and can relate that to the feeling before the wetness (ie needing and going for a wee). Its the same reason most people don't recommend pullups while training.

    That is actually a very fair point but my mums neighbour reckons her's were out of nappies by 9 months lol. I am honestly not joking and i just don't believe that.
  • faithcecilia
    faithcecilia Posts: 1,095 Forumite
    That is actually a very fair point but my mums neighbour reckons her's were out of nappies by 9 months lol. I am honestly not joking and i just don't believe that.

    :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

    That late? If I had kids I'd train them in the womb!:p
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