Advice on Potty training

barbiedoll

I didn't potty "train" my son at all. I waited until he was curious about going to the toilet like the grown-ups do, and then we showed him what to do and when. He did have a potty but hardly used it, the best thing we bought was a small plastic step so that he could reach the loo. The ping-pong ball is a good idea, it makes it more of a game which appeals to boys much more.

What about "pull-ups"? They will prevent the mess on the floor at least. But you should stop being so stressed by it all, I know it's hard (and expensive!) having two kids in nappies but there's no law that says kids must be out of nappies by a certain age. Don't think that he's slow, or that there's something wrong with him, he's clearly just too young to have complete control of his bladder at the moment. It will get better, honestly!

Good luck!

mrcow

It doesn't sound like he's ready. Why are you trying to rush him?

Wait until he's ready and it will be much easier.
Rush it - and all you're doing is covering your home in urine which you then have to clean up. Plus you've the added stress that "accidents" start being part of the whole normal routine - which can then continue ad naseum for months to come.

It's not a race or a competition. Put the nappies back on, give it 6-8 weeks and try again. if he's not "got it" in 2 days. Try again later.

money_saving_diva

He sounds like what my son was like when we first tried the potty - he knew what to do but just wasn't ready. What we did was leave it longer. I often took his nappy off at home and put a potty upstairs and downstairs in obvious view. Don't stress about it - he will pick up on your stressing!

I kept nappies on my son while out because I knew accidents out would upset him. One day he started to ask when we were out to go to the toilet & he could hold it until we got to a toilet. I then put him in big boy pants all day. He was almost 3.

liney

pokey128 wrote: »

I'm at my wits end with my 2 year old over potty training and just don't know what to do. He has been out of nappies for 2 weeks now but still has accidents every day. I don't want to give up cause sometimes he asks for the potty and goes and is dry over his nap but often he just pees himself even though I've just asked him if he needs to go. It drives me insane cause all I seem to be doing is cleaning up after him and it's leaving me no time for his wee brother. My husband thinks that iam going to screw him up for life cause I do sometime es take my frustrations out on him telling him how disappointed everyone is when he pees o. The floor. (when he goes on the potty he gets showered with praise)
I just want to run away from it all

Don't do that. It's not his fault :eek:

In a month or two he can spend all day running around in the garden and accidents won't matter.

Children are ready when they decide, not when we decide, unfortunately.

What we did:

My son was 2 and 8 months when we put him in pants because he wanted to use the loo. We had decided to buy him a bike, so we made a star chart and incorporated this and I booked a week off work.

Every wee/2 in the potty got a star, and we explained that by the end of the chart he needed to have 10 days with 7 stars in each box to get the Thomas the Tank Engine bike. By the end of the first week he was completely dry in the day and I was confident to take him out of the house. He's never had an accident in public since andof course he got his bike

I also wasn't adverse to rewarding with a chocolate button

rosie383

I tried with my dd2 and after a month of dry/ wet/ wet/ dry etc, I just stopped for a month or so. Tried again, and she just 'got it' more or less straight away.
Each kid is different, but if it making you upset and frustrated, just stop for a while. If bribery works, go for it. But I agree with all the earlier posters, he's just not ready. You will just give himself and yourself miserable days over it.

bluebag

I know how you feel, I had one that was dry night and day at two and one that took forever. In the end I decided the stress was not helping either of us.

We went onto pull-ups, fantastic! Could use the potty when remembered, but no stress when having an accident. She seemed to make progress once we stopped all the fuss too.

McKneff

He's not ready

Stop rushing him

Calm down

Listen to what everyone else is saying on here

He's still a baby !!!!!!.

He is not the problem, you are.

cleaning up after their babies is what parents are supposed to do.

Sorry to be blunt but there you go,

themull1

He's not ready, put him back in nappies and try again in six months. My forst daughter was 3.

pokey128

Thanks everyone for your replies. I know I'm in the wrong here and he probably isn't ready but when I've suggested him wearing nappies again he doesn't want to and says nappies are only for when he's sleeping. I feel like the worst mother in the world when I've got frustrated at him (and I probably am). I know it's all my fault and not his at all but I'm just so tired all the time I can't help it. I can't send him to preschool until he is trained and I was (as selfish as it sounds), looking forward to him going to preschool for a couple of hours a day so i can spend more time with his little brother. I really want to be a good mum and feel so blessed that we can afford for me not to work at the moment but this is really getting down and I hate myself for it.

mrcow

pokey128 wrote: »

Thanks everyone for your replies. I know I'm in the wrong here and he probably isn't ready but when I've suggested him wearing nappies again he doesn't want to and says nappies are only for when he's sleeping. I feel like the worst mother in the world when I've got frustrated at him (and I probably am). I know it's all my fault and not his at all but I'm just so tired all the time I can't help it. I can't send him to preschool until he is trained and I was (as selfish as it sounds), looking forward to him going to preschool for a couple of hours a day so i can spend more time with his little brother. I really want to be a good mum and feel so blessed that we can afford for me not to work at the moment but this is really getting down and I hate myself for it.

But this isn't about you. It's about doing what is right for him.

He's not ready.

btw - whether he wears nappies or not is not a negotiation. He's 2. He doesn't make the decisions.