Advice on Potty training

JC9297

I favour leaving the nappy off when at home and making sure you have a least 2 potties (1 upstairs, 1 downstairs), just put leggings or whatever that she can easily pull down on her. Girls are usually ready to toilet train earlier than boys, so most girls are probably physically ready by your daughter's age to stay dry but obviously if she gets upset about using the potty don't push it. My son was happy to use a potty from quite early on for a wee but insisted on having a nappy for a poo for quite a while afterwards.

bestpud

I've never seen the point in pull ups tbh but if the nursery use them, maybe you could get her some for when she's there?

It sounds like she's not ready to start full on training yet but there is no harm in her slowly getting the idea at nursery - peer pressure can sometimes work in our favour.

Just a thought about her getting upset on the potty: I was pulling my hair out with my eldest dd because she wouldn't use a potty at all and was approaching 3. Her childminder tried her with a kiddie seat on the toilet and hey presto, dry almost overnight!

Funnily enough, my other dd was the same but I tried her with a training seat much earlier! I tried a potty first because we only have an upstairs toilet at home, but alas, she decided it was more fun having me run up the stairs with her - in the early days 'I want a wee' means right now lol. Keeps us fit I suppose! :cool:

They had tiny toilets rather than potties at her nursery so I think that got her used to a toilet as well. What do they have at your dd's nursery?

happy35

i used ordinary pants when I toilet trained my son, he wasn't very keen on the potty as they had little toilets atnursery so I bought him a little stool and one of those things you put on the seat to make it smaller.

DS was about 20 months when he was toilet trained and it only took a few days, he kept saying 'nippy off' nd undoing the velcros, so took this as him being ready to start toilet training.

Cat1

With my eldest DS, he potty trained within 48 hours. I left it until he was 2yrs 9 months and the thing that motivated me was the nursery (this was over 10yrs ago - not current practice!) telling me that they had to be dry before they could go into preschool class. I took him to the shops, he chose some bob the builder pants and we promptly put them on and stayed under house arrest for the weekend. We didn't use a potty but went straight on the toilet instead. He wet himself twice and did a 'code brown' once and the trauma of having his bob pants cut off and binned meant he never did it again. By the time he went to the childminders on the Monday he was in pants and he's never had an accident since!

DD was a bit more tricky, I again left it until she was 2yrs 9 months. She rather liked the idea of pull ups and I also had a new baby to deal with as well so I thought they might be easier. She started off really well and again, had her dry within 48 hours. As I had bought a couple packs of pull ups and she rather liked the princess picture on the front I let her carry on wearing them. Then she worked out she could get away with a little wee in them without them leaking. Then she decided she didn't like pooing in the toilet and became really constipated - to the point she couldn't sit down and was clutching her bottom screaming. I think we used pullups like nappies for about 10 days - she effectively untrained herself. We ended up putting her in pants like I did with DS1. I think in total it took about 2 weeks.

Personally I would go for pants or bare bum over the weekend and potty in the living room. Just see how it goes, you might be suprised xx

bubs

bestpud wrote: »

I've never seen the point in pull ups tbh but if the nursery use them, maybe you could get her some for when she's there?

It sounds like she's not ready to start full on training yet but there is no harm in her slowly getting the idea at nursery - peer pressure can sometimes work in our favour.

Just a thought about her getting upset on the potty: I was pulling my hair out with my eldest dd because she wouldn't use a potty at all and was approaching 3. Her childminder tried her with a kiddie seat on the toilet and hey presto, dry almost overnight!

Funnily enough, my other dd was the same but I tried her with a training seat much earlier! I tried a potty first because we only have an upstairs toilet at home, but alas, she decided it was more fun having me run up the stairs with her - in the early days 'I want a wee' means right now lol. Keeps us fit I suppose! :cool:

They had tiny toilets rather than potties at her nursery so I think that got her used to a toilet as well. What do they have at your dd's nursery?

Hi bustpud and everyone else! thanks again for all the advice. At her nursery they have the little toilets and potties. She went on the potty there twice, but I do take the point about trying her on the toilet instead. We have tried her a few times on the loo when she's seen me go while she's having a bath (hmm, afraid we only have one toilet in the house too!), and she'll stand up and say 'my want toilet', she's wee'd once in it and that was about a month ago. Nothing since. She's been out all day today and went to the downstairs loo at father in law's, pulled her tights down to her knees but when asked if she wanted the potty said 'no'. Def not going to push it, especially as I have a one year old as well who's into everything so if DD1 wants me to go upstairs to the toilet with her it means wrecker DD2 comes too! I'll follow the suggestion and get some next size down pull ups for nursery and see how she goes next Thursday when she's there. Cheers everyone, really appreciate the help! xx:)

butterflylady

Everyone kept putting me pressure on me to start potty training with my DS but I kept saying no it wasn't ready, in the end he was 2 years and 9 months and was dry within a week during the day.

However night time was another matter in the year since he became dry I think we have had maybe 2 dry nappies, about 2 and a half weeks ago a slight miss communications issue between me and my OH meant he went to bed with no nappy on. He's had 1 accident since and that was the night my DD was very poorly so I was up all night and there was lots of noise etc.

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mancitychick wrote: »

I found straight to knickers best with all mine. They didn't tell me when they needed to wee in pull ups, but would in knickers. I found pullups don't lock the wetness away aswell as a nappy so they ended up with a red bum. Also found pullups to come up bigger in size than nappies, especially pamper pull ups.

I found that as well. Nappies of all sorts were just nappies whilst Asda own brand knickers were for "big girls". Started around 2.5 and now 3.5 she is going through the night without nappies as well starting this week. I expect a couple of accidents and will revert to pyjama pants if necessary but here's hoping.

pokey128

I'm at my wits end with my 2 year old over potty training and just don't know what to do. He has been out of nappies for 2 weeks now but still has accidents every day. I don't want to give up cause sometimes he asks for the potty and goes and is dry over his nap but often he just pees himself even though I've just asked him if he needs to go. It drives me insane cause all I seem to be doing is cleaning up after him and it's leaving me no time for his wee brother. My husband thinks that iam going to screw him up for life cause I do sometime es take my frustrations out on him telling him how disappointed everyone is when he pees o. The floor. (when he goes on the potty he gets showered with praise)
I just want to run away from it all

nearlysorted

I am currently toilet training my 2 year old, and all is going well, however.....
We did try to potty train him a couple of months back but, like you we just had accident after accident. So we decided to leave it a while and then try again. This time my son has taken to it like a duck to water, he just wasn't ready the first time round.
Maybe you could try to skip the potty and go straight on to the "big boys toilet?" Also with my elder son, we put a ping pong ball in his potty, he loved "the game of trying to shoot the ball lol!" and didn't stress over it.
Most of all try not to stress, some kiddies potty train a little later then others, it's nothing to worry about unless they're wearing nappies in secondary school:eek:.
Hth

Rachel021967

I think your expectations are unrealistic. He's still small and will continue to have accidents for sometime. My six year old still has the occasional accident. They don't always know when they have to go until its too late, especially if they are concentrating on something. You need to praise him when he does use the potty and just clean him and the floor up when he has accidents. Maybe pull up pants would make your life easier. Good Luck.
Rachel