Advice on Potty training

Nicki

The attached link summarises the theories of both Freud and Erikson into the psychological impact on introducing toilet training before the child can control its sphincter and before it has the cognitive ability to understand the process.

http://inst.sfcc.edu/~mwehr/PEDevAnalStage.html

Now, whilst I understand that over 50 years combined detailed research into child development and human psychology can in no way be seen to be as good as looking after someone else's children for a few hours a day for a short period while your mum is too busy :rolleyes: there are clearly credible sources which contradict what GracieP has read, and therefore it is possible for different people to hold different views on the subject.

So with that in mind, can we please get back to the original question, and help the OP with ADVICE WHICH IS APPROPRIATE FOR A 21 MONTH OLD CHILD!!!!

(sorry to shout, but things are getting silly on this thread!)

shirlgirl2004

There are credible supporters of both elimination communication and later potty training. Both points of view are to some extent relevent here.

The OP is asking about what she as a mother looking after her own child in her home environment can do. Therefore experiences of looking after other people's children especially in nurseries hold little relevance. What one can achieve on a one to one basis just would not be practicle within a group environment.

The OP is actually making a really good start and in reality should ignore what others are saying and follow her own intuition as it seems spot on thus far. If you ask a dozen mother's their own theories on potty training you'll get a dozen different answers, all based upon personal experience. It doesn't make one less valid than another rather it proves that it depends upon the individual child, the parent and the home circumstances in which it has to live.

clou19750

Hi

My son is coming up to 4 next month and is still not toilet trained... have tried many times without any luck! Should i take him to docs?

Palm_Centro

This isn't

cobbingstones

Hi all


My dd is 4 1/2 and still very wet at night. We have tried lifting her before we go to bed, tried restricting drinks and star charts etc etc. We were changing her and her bed three times each night :eek: I don't mind if this is going to take longer than expected, but the problem is that she is a very tall, large girl for her age and nappies are not going to fit much longer. She also hears that her peers become dry once toilet trained or not long after and I know she feels that she ought to be, when she talks to me about it.

Any suggestions ideas please?

Js_Other_Half

cobbingstones wrote: »

Hi all


My dd is 4 1/2 and still very wet at night. She also hears that her peers become dry once toilet trained or not long after and I know she feels that she ought to be, when she talks to me about it.

Any suggestions ideas please?

Have a good read of this thread - it may be of some help:
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=113201&highlight=bed+wetting

EMcG

Hello,

my 2 and a half year old son is fully potty trained for wee-wees at home. But at nursery he still wets himself all the time. He loves sitting on the potty at nursery. But never actually uses it.

The nursery has suggested training pants. But I am resistant to this as he doesn't use them at home and this may confuse him even more.

Any suggestions?

galvanizersbaby

EMcG wrote: »

Hello,

my 2 and a half year old son is fully potty trained for wee-wees at home. But at nursery he still wets himself all the time. He loves sitting on the potty at nursery. But never actually uses it.

The nursery has suggested training pants. But I am resistant to this as he doesn't use them at home and this may confuse him even more.

Any suggestions?

Hello

Do nursery require him to be potty trained by 2 and a half?
My son was nearer 3 when he finally became potty trained at nursery.
If it were me I wouldn't worry about it too much - he is still very young and if he enjoys sitting on the potty at nursery surely it's only a matter of time!?:D

elainew

When you say he is potty trained fully at home--is this you asking him does he need the potty or you putting him on all the time?
there is a big difference. Do the staff put him on the loo or are they waiting for him to ask can he go. Also nursery is SO busy and they are preoccupied with something more interesting.

EMcG

The nursery doesn't require him to be potty trained. But he has been asking if he could have a potty, telling us that he felt like weeing and pooing, generally fascinated by all things to do with poo/wee/potty/toilet. At home he tells us that he wants to wee and, occassionally poo. At home it's been a dream with only 3 or 4 'accidents' in 3 weeks or so.

At the nursery the staff put him on the potty after each meal and also listen out if he askes to go. He doesn't seem to ask for the potty at nursery but will answer 'yes' or 'no' if asked if he wants to go.

Thanks for any tips/advice.