Advice on Potty training

Mummy_Jo

Yes I have noticed that but had no idea how it happened or even how to join them together. Can you help with that?

brummiebabe

Hi

I posted on here a week or so ago about my DD - she was 2 in Nov and we started potty training last week. (I can't link to threads though) - she sounds very similar to your daughter - would hold it and maybe do a tiny drop on the potty - but no more. Got very distressed by the whole experience, really screaming, refusing to sit on the potty/toilet. I decided that, although she knew what to do & had the contol - she simply wasn't ready. So she's happily back in nappies - I'm hoping she may initiate it herslf at some point in the coming weeks, or I'll try her again in a month or so.

At the moment though..she's refusing to sit on the potty at all and will occasionally sit on the toilet for a couple of seconds, although doesn't do anything! I'm keeping it low key & not mentionning it anymore.

It was also suggested to me that maybe she had a water infection - but she's stopped crying and is weeing normally now she's back in nappies!

Good luck x

shirlgirl2004

I think the problem is that we teach our children to use nappies and then teach them to use a potty/toilet. It is very confusing for young children and this is why many children resist potty training. Personally I'd just continue and make sure that you do not respond negatively when she does eventually go in the wrong place. Maybe saying something such as "Oh are your legs wet? If you sit on the potty then the wee won't make your legs wet." All said as a statement of fact rather than in any disapproving tone.

My DD often goes a good 6 hours without weeing (she was 2 in March) but happily goes so I don't worry.

scottishchick27

Have you checked everywhere incase she has had a pee and you've just not noticed it? It may be harder to notice if a carpet is wet if it is a dark colour.

Kaz2904

My DD used to do this too. It was because she hated the potty. She would scream and cry to have a nappy on so it wasn't a case of not being able to go, just not wanting to use the potty.
I would think that if she had a UTI she would be more likely to wet herself. It would be likely to be whiffy too.

Don't underestimate how stubborn littlies can be! After all, how long can you hold it for? I won't go in public or in grubby loos. (I'm not saying you're sitting her on a grubby public potty !)

geekgirl

When my son was little he point blank refused the potty so he went straight from nappies to a child seat on the toilet. Now he has a 2 year old himself and he is the same, hates the potty so goes straight onto the toilet. Perhaps it is the potty she doesn't like.

Jo_F

Went through this with my son, we put him in pants and my comment to him was not to wee in his knickers, poor lad took it to heart (he had seen his big sister go through the potty training), so he didn't wee in his knickers, in fact he didn't wee at all!

Used to put him on the potty just before getting him ready for bed and he used to fill it, and then I noticed that he had a look of sheer relief on his face and then it dawned on me what was happening. He didn't equate wanting a wee with his potty, all he knew was that he wasn't to wet himself, so he didn't and waited until he was given the chance to wee! But asking him during the day if he wanted his potty always got a no answer.

mumofjusttwo

I had this with my DD. I would just leave the potty around and not mention it. If she made a mess on the floor I would tell her never mind but do it in the potty ad smile. For a couple of day she would hoover of the potty and she didn't ant contact with it but now she is my big girl and sits on the toilet . She only started potty training in Feburary

i would just make sure that you check her nappies at night to make sure that they aren't dry as I know I used to worry that she would hold it for too long. I did put her in pull up at night so I could easily check if she had gone to the toilet.

pandora205

I think your daughter is physically ready - she has amazing control if she can hold on that long - but it is becoming a battle of wills. As has been suggested she may prefer to use the toilet to a potty, so that's worth a try. Failing that, its best not to keep insisting on her going and to resist making a fuss when she has an 'accident'. On the positive side, try making a special thing of choosing 'big girl pants' and telling her how grown up she is not to need nappies. Has she seen other children using a potty/toilet? Often social conformity works wonders - children can find it easier at nursery/preschool than at home as it is the norm and part of the routine there.

If these strategies don't work, put her back in nappies for a few weeks, then try again. Summer is coming, it's often easier then.

Mics_chick

Just started potty-training my younger child today and his older sister has been staying at their gran's so it hasn't been an issue yet but I do wonder what it'll be like when she's home again tomorrow???

Anyone got any experience and/or advice?