problems at home - with dad

stokechick16

Thank you for the websites, and replies too.

Worst thing is my mum is just letting him get away with it. My eyes are so soar from all the crying i have done today.

Im going to be up bright and early tomorro as my mum and dad are goin citizens advice due to all the CSA problems with my dads son (same dad different mum). So im going to give them a call tomorrow. I have asked my mum if she would move out, she said no and gave me a bollockin sayin i cannot afford it etc. I would rather be skint and be happy, than have money and hate my life and be upset, careful what i do/say i dont go downstairs when my dad is there as well.

I have a bit of cash that my parents do not know about. It wont last long... but its just for emergencies.

Its been heading to this for a while. But now i cannot just take it any more, its like a bomb waiting to go off. I was really enjoying it last night, until he spoke to me like a peice of dirt. He also did it tonight again. I at to hold back the tears.

My mum has made her choice whether she wants to come or not. And she does not so im going alone which will be hard but hopefully if things go well, gradually it will get better. I want to call my nan, but she will just blame it all on me like usually and give me a lecture and say go back home.

I will ring connexions as soon as tomorrow when they have gone citizens advice. I have to be careful though as my dad is going on the sick then leaving his job because he is being bullied by his boss.

For example, yesterday.

My dad was having a fag and holding some fittings (scaffolding ones). And was just walking, his boss shouted "do you want some oatcakes son" (he calls all the workers son). And before my dad had chance to take the fag out of his mouth he started shouting at my dad and also said "me and my colleagues do not want you in this office" and my dads work mate/colleague was there.

stokechick16

Thank you very much. I am here crying yet again - everytime i think of him it makes me cry i cant help it he aint even worth my god damn tears.

I just went downstairs for a drink, mum was in kitchen. She asked me whats up (because can telll i had been crying) I said nothing. She asked if i have just been crying, i said no. And i also said i am going connexions tomorrow. She slammed the fridge and said for !!!! sake whats he said. He has not said anything since as we have not spoke. Its just getting to me and i thank you all so much for the replies.

As i said when i made this thread, i at to let it out or else i think i would ask an old friend to go the shop for me and just drink as much as possible.

xx

stokechick16

my mum has just text me saying this -

for gods sake will you tell me whats up cause i dont know.

i have text back saying - i am going longton tomorrow am goin connexions ok i cant cope i wish i was dead.

Now am sorry to be rude about my mother but is she thick or just ignorant. She annoys me so much sometimes.

LillyJ

stokechick16 wrote: »

As i said when i made this thread, i at to let it out or else i think i would ask an old friend to go the shop for me and just drink as much as possible.

xx

Please don't, you know what drinking does more than anyone.. Hope this thread helps. There are people here all times of day and night, so feel free to come back.

I am going on holiday tomorrow so I won't be here but I am sure that lots of others will.

LillyJ

stokechick16 wrote: »

my mum has just text me saying this -

for gods sake will you tell me whats up cause i dont know.

i have text back saying - i am going longton tomorrow am goin connexions ok i cant cope i wish i was dead.

Now am sorry to be rude about my mother but is she thick or just ignorant. She annoys me so much sometimes.

You need to talk to your mum somewhere private. Tell her how you truly feel and let her know that there are options for her as well even if she doesn't have any money. Maybe get your nan to talk to her?

She isn't thick or ignorant, she is probably scared and confused.

Barbiegirl_2

Just another thought. Can you trust your mom? I mean I don't want her to tell you dad your plans in case he makes your life more of a living hell? You have seen what alchohol has done to him and you know for yourself there is light at the end of the tunnel. You are different and WILL be somebody in life one day....you can do it! Take care. Feel free to PM. I will always reply. X

stokechick16

My mum is getting really !!!!!y now on texts.

She told me go tonight, i have no where to go for one and its too late, only place i think i could go is police station :S. I have decided not to tell her anything now. Alls she knows is i am going tomorrow (well i better find somewhere tomorrow now!!) and i am going connexions. She has the cheek to say she is getting sick of me keeping on at her i cannot believe she has the cheek to be honest.

My mum has shown her true colours. And because i am online reading up about where to ring and to go etc she is saying i am online too much and the net is going. Which does not bother me because i am hoping to be gone tomorrow:).

thank you xxx

Firefly

bestpud wrote: »

Do you have a Foyer near you? They help a lot of people your age find accomodation.

http://foyer.net/mpn/topic.php?topic=3

Connexions should be able to link into their provision quite effectively. They're good and do some fantastic work.

stokechick16

Also sorry to be ignorant. I am going to find out if i have a foyers around here thank you xx

pandora205

Hello Stokechick. I've read some of this but not posted until now. I have a son your age and you are at the stage of being grown up and still very young. But you are old enough to make some choices yourself.

You've had a very hard life but the future doesn't need to be like this. None of this is your fault. Things will get better if you are brave and take steps to get some help.
Connexions will help you with the practical stuff - how to manage and where to go. They can also offer counselling to you if you need someone to talk to.

You are obviously very worried about your mum too. That's difficult for you as she is choosing to be there. There's not much you can do about that. I'm not sure it's a good idea to tell her all your plans as she may try to stop you but you are at an age to make your own decisions.

I think you are brave to tell your story on here and strong enough to help yourself.

You will need to get a good night's sleep and to be calm in the morning. Maybe play some relaxing music tonight and try to unwind a bit.