Big Badger House (aka Noisy Lodger) HE'S GONE!

m1ntie

Badger Lady

I really feel for you. What you have to do is never pleasant, but he is turning you into a prisoner in your own house.

" (and don't really fancy going downstairs at all, not with them all there ) "

I think you really need to get it over with before you leave in the morning. Either ring him and ask him to come up to your room, or put a letter under his door backed up by an email.

He knows what is coming, and is making it difficult for you. What if he employs these tactics next week and the week after. Do you really want to live with this until the new year.

My advice to you is bite the bullet and get it over with.

Good luck - we will all be thinking of you.

Badger_Lady

It's not so bad for me - I can still get to the bathroom, and I have bottles of Slimfast up here for tea (thank goodness for Approved Food deliveries!).

But poor old Tufter's starting to get antsy... he's scared of going downstairs on his own, and he can't open the doors anyway

I think I'll hand write a letter for him, and take a scan of it before I poke it under his door. Feels like the wuss's way out, and more likely to seem aggressive, but I've really run out of choices

JonnyBravo

Badger_Lady wrote: »

It's not so bad for me - I can still get to the bathroom, and I have bottles of Slimfast up here for tea (thank goodness for Approved Food deliveries!).

But poor old Tufter's starting to get antsy... he's scared of going downstairs on his own, and he can't open the doors anyway

I think I'll hand write a letter for him, and take a scan of it before I poke it under his door. Feels like the wuss's way out, and more likely to seem aggressive, but I've really run out of choices

Do say that you're doing this by letter as you're more than aware he's been avoiding the requested meet up for a chat.

Badger_Lady

OK, I've written out the notice (as per previous post), and a note to go with it:

Letter_from_Badger_Lady wrote:

Hi BigGuns,

I was hoping to talk to you about this in person, but it doesn't seem to have worked out that way!

Enclosed is your one month's notice. Please feel free to get in touch with any questions.

I hope you'll understand that this doesn't reflect how I feel about you personally - you're a sound guy and it's been a pleasure meeting you. I'm genuinely sorry that the houseshare hasn't worked out.

Badger

I'll tape it to his bedroom door when I leave - don't want to risk a scene tonight.

He's down there watching Beyonce with his GF (I just had to go down and sort the cat out). The two of them made a big show of standing in the back doorway (note: not actually in the back yard but close enough) as though they always smoke there. Without pausing the TV (we have V+), and without saying a word to me.

BitterAndTwisted

One's month's notice. That's pretty reasonable under the circumstances. Let's hope he acts like a gent and treats you and your home with respect until he goes

marcowil

Badger Lady - I just wanted to say this is my fav thread on MSE and I really hope you get shot of BigGuns lodger with no problems. I look forward to the details on the replacement search

Badger_Lady

Well I'm back in London. I left the note taped to his bedroom door at about 4:15 this morning, so I wait to hear from him...

My little spy (JoannaLodger) tells me that he's left this morning, presumably for work, leaving GF behind for her student lie-in. She also says there's a puddle of something mysterious in front of his fridge and that she intends to ask the first person she sees to clean it up :rotfl:

m1ntie

Well done Badger,

I am sure you can do without all this stress when you come home at weekend.

Given his totally disrespectful behaviour, I think you have been extremely generous in giving him a months notice. I would only have given him a week!

Just don't let him talk you round by giving you some sob story.

BigAunty

I imagine he'll get a shock when he tries to find new lodgings and realises he's blown a good thing.

He'll struggle to find somewhere as relaxed as yours and perhaps get a bit of insight that his abuses won't be as tolerated.

Like the others, I think it will go one of two ways - sob story or sabotage. He'll either plead that he's a changed person, to give him another chance, how hard it is to find somewhere to live at this time of year, blah, blah. Or instead of getting angry with himself for his slack behaviour, he'll take it out on you and the household - withold rent, get noisier, dirtier, etc. He doesn't sound very mature so I can't see him being sensible about it and putting his energies into finding new accommodation.

jc808

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

What would I do? Send him an email some time tomorrow telling him exactly how thin the ice is that he is skating on. Give it the heading "Final Warning". Any other transgression, most especially complaints from the neighbours, and he'll be given 48 hours notice. If the transgression is especially irksome it'll be 24

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No offense BBL but youre far too soft IMO