Big Badger House (aka Noisy Lodger) HE'S GONE!

harryhound

Found myself with a new hobby during the snow month: spotting animal tracks:
I have a fox who circles the house at night (I've given up leaving the security light on standby).
He/she neatly puts one foot into the hole made by another. Presumably the back foot into the front foot's hole?

roses

badgerlady, I need your advice. What do you do when your lodger starts helping themselves to your food? My lodger has gone through half my milk which I bought yesterday and a whole 6 pack of coke in the past week. I HATE when I go to the cupboard to get something and find it's not there. How should I bring it up?

Badger_Lady

Hmm, I have to admit I've never had that problem... Though I'm sure there are other people on here who have and can hel! Do you keep all your food together? I've always assigned a separate kitchen cupboard and a separate shelf in the fridge. Even better - I'm currently giving the lodger a fridge to herself (nicesofarlodger had one that he left behind).

Saffy255

Yeah - I do that Badger,..... My lodger (boring-as-hell-lodger) has his own cupboards and my old fridge freezer that is in the garage (just off the kitchen)

Never had any lodger nick food, but I'd say something like "I came to use xxx today and I was sure I had one in the cupboard.... I must have little mice..."

I too have little names for my lodgers.. he first was a birdwatcher who worked for the RSPB, went on birdwatching holidays and only ever socialised with birdwatchers, we called him Tweety. The second had bailiffs at my door, and a rosy view of the world - having £10k of debt but going to New York and Chicago for Xmas, called him Skintbloke, and this one is Boring-as-hell lodger - works in petrochemical industry, and is a physicist. He tells me the scientific reasons for EVERYTHING during every conversation, but he pays his rent in advance and is never here at weekends!

BitterAndTwisted

Roses: I've always found that the direct approach works best, there's no point in skirting round the issue or leaving an opportunity to deny it's happened. So, I'd ask for the items to be paid for or replaced right away and make it absolutely clear that you do not give permission for your stuff to be taken without asking first. Otherwise you risk being taken completely advantage of and these thefts will become the thin end of the wedge eventually. Let this slide and they'll see you as a soft-touch and will have no respect for you either.

Bitter experience is talking here.

Badger_Lady

Well, I can't fault this new lodger... she's quiet but friendly, polite, fastidious about filling out her forms and paying her rent... I was even introduced to her boyfriend on Sunday who seems equally lovely.

My boyfriend sadly ended our relationship last night, although in the nicest possible way... I've been crying pretty much ever since, but the new lodger was very sweet, listening to me and offering to sit down with some wine. I probably should have accepted her offer - I just don't feel like company at the moment

clutton_2

oh dear, i am so sorry .... there aren't any words to comfort you today, but, soon you will realise that another door of opportunity will open up

bw

~daisy~_2

oh badgie lots of love and hugs sweets xxxx

Lisey_Loo

Sorry to hear that Badger... big hug to you xxx

BitterAndTwisted

Badger_Lady wrote: »

My boyfriend sadly ended our relationship last night, although in the nicest possible way.

Doesn't that just stink? You can't even hate them or be self-righteously angry at being unceremoniously dumped.

Are you interested in loud, heavy guitar music at all? I have a lovely friend in Swansea who I'm trying to fix up with someone moderately sensible after all the lovelies with chaotic lives he's been dating of late. Decent well-paying job, bought own house, good-looking and a right laugh