dads g/f wont give us his stuff

elona

hev

Stop reading my mind.:eek:

I am trying to be polite here!!!!!

Also sitting on my hand so I do not type what we are probably both thinking!

margaretclare

Oooops. Just re-read some of this. It would appear that the OP has had 2 children which have now been taken into care. She blames her late father for 'setting her up to fail'. Rubbish.

And 'I want money, why should she have it (i.e. the fiancee) - she's not family, we are'. Again rubbish. There IS no money, if your father died with debts.

People are not grateful for being allocated a council house, are they? Council houses are as scarce as rocking-horse droppings in many areas. I know of one person who does appreciate what she's been given - a young woman in my own family. After homelessness and joblessness she was given a council flat a year ago. She had little or nothing when she moved in - a bed from Freecycle, a dining-table that she found dumped in a skip. She treats that little place like a palace, she's so pleased with it - in fact, to her it IS her palace, her little domain where she rules. She wouldn't put that at risk for anything - she knows what the alternatives are.

There is no earthly reason why a father, or a mother either for that matter, should take on another family, especially when there is no reason on earth why anyone should now have illegitimate children with all the free sex education and free contraception that there is. They may help out, from the goodness of their heart, but they should not be expected to do so as a matter of course. You should be grateful!

People move on in life. Your late father, following his divorce from your mother, probably wanted to move on. He met someone with whom he started a new relationship and a new life. You resented this and constantly tried to drag him back. You're still doing so.

I understand some of this because of what my present husband had said. He walked out on his marriage one evening 10 years ago, locked the door behind him for the last time, drove down the road and never looked back. 'Today is the start of the rest of my life' is what he says. Your father may have felt the same. God rest him.

margaretclare

elona wrote: »

margaretclare

I do not think we can assume the OP has a husband.

Er, yes, I realised that when I re-read the post about Social Services becoming involved. Remember, I've been translating this as I go along - it's not a language I'm familiar with.

Stephb1986_2

Well lets face it after 2 years you are common law partners so she would be entitled to everything i think never mind 10 years! the fact that she's took care of the funeral and his debts its a good thing as really she should of passed them on to you, actually i hope she gets some balls and does!

Dont be blaming everyone else for how your life has panned out because you decided to open your legs not only once but twice! the fact that you have had your kids taken off you says it all as social services only take kids away from parents as a last resort.

If you get a job you would have some money.

IF your dad had left you some money could you really enjoy it knowing that you hadnt seen him for 2 years and knowing full well how you feel about him. I wouldnt want his money if you say he is as bad as he was but it sounds to me like he tried to help as much as he could by taking your son in, why would he want to look after your mistakes!

I seriously think you need to grow up and think about what your writing here before you post it because at the moment you just look like a jumped up chav who cant even look after her own kids who is after some money.

Steph

floss2

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Well lets face it after 2 years you are common law partners .....

There isn't any such thing in the eyes of the law.

But after reading all this, you can't really blame him for leaving everything he had to his partner and not his family!

Noctu

Stephb1986 wrote: »

Well lets face it after 2 years you are common law partners

Agree with the rest of the post but take a look here:
http://www.cornwall.gov.uk/index.cfm?articleid=7438
It's a common myth that 'common law partners' are entitled to anything.

Curv

Stephb1986 wrote: »

... because you decided to open your legs not only once but twice!

Now, call me an old cynic, but I'm betting she did it more than twice...

alwaysonthego_2

Everyone stop posting, I am having to read the new comments instead of studying lol

cprtknight4

hi sorry to but in, I have not got along with my biological father for the last 5 years, have not spoken to him, seen him and neither do i want to. Through my choice and for the protection of my children, he was physcally and mentally abusive. I am 23 and if my biological father died I would not expect a penny and if I was contacted it would go to charity.
I have been brought up to respect people and had to grow up to find out what he was like, I am now fortunate enough to have my step father who I treat with the respect of a father and in return he respects me as his flesh and blood daughter.
How can the op blame someone else for losing her children when a women gives birth she then has responsibility to look after them. That comes with highs and lows, but the good always out weighs the bad.

Sorry for rambling x

oldMcDonald

Curv wrote: »

Now, call me an old cynic, but I'm betting she did it more than twice...

Curv, you are an old cynic