dads g/f wont give us his stuff

hev_2

I think the OP's father left his money and belongings to someone who loved him.

ForDad - I don't know or care how old you are, and whether you are a man or a woman. Please take a second to realise what a dreadful picture you have painted of yourself. If this is not a wind up, please learn from how people have reacted. I strongly suggest that if you do come back to this Forum that you use a different login, because you have made yourself sound awful.

Now I am going to walk away from this car crash thread and if anyone sees me posting on it, tell me off!

melancholly

this much anger after 10 years of them being together? maybe after an affair and a recent break up, but seriously, if you're 23 then just grow up and act like an adult. not a spoilt brat who will happily trample over anyone's feelings to get at some money.

squashy

What is it that you desperately need the money for, out of interest?

Kimberley

What a disrespectful way to treat a dead man.
I don't see why you think you "deserve" anything at all.
If your Dad was looking down on you now,do you think he would be proud of the way you are treating the woman he loved?
I think rather than calling yourself "for Dad" you'd be better off calling yourself sumfin like "Juz4mi."

Thats how some youngsters are growing up these days, just watching out for themselves and having no respect for their parents. Just out to grab whatever they can. If anyone owns a property you'd best give it to charity because the kids would probably put you in a home anyway

Diamond78

ForDad wrote: »

so what if i want money why should she get it shes not his family we are. btw im female and im 23 so all you know alls were wrong

Its the way you come out with things..She as in your fathers partner was his family.He was with her for 10 years. That is a long time. You seem to really resent this lady and are very bitter.The way you have come across from what you have said makes you look like your only after money. Ofcourse your dads other half should get money if there is any money. It is not your dads fault you are in debt or need money.You say your 23, so your old enough to earn money and pay your debts off like everyone else.

ForDad

yes im angry at them. i had my son at 15 and i asked my dad to take him not her and then he said i couldnt see him whenever i wanted he was my son why should i make an appointment. dad got me a council house after i had my daughter so i could have them both back but they expected me to take them back as soon as i moved in which was hard. they set me up to fail with social services and its their fault i had them took of me.

mizmir

Surely this is a wind up? Noone is this brazen, selfish and uncaring - are they?

On the off chance it is for real: ForDad. She was his partner. She had been with him 10 years. They had been intending to marry. Presumably because they loved each other. Any reasonable person would recognise those things as having far more to do with "family" than happening to share genes with someone who by their own admission hasn't seen them for 2 years, doesn't care about anything but their money and sees nothing wrong in videoing them after their death! Perhaps if you wanted to be treated as a daughter you should have acted like one?

The house is hers because when they bought it together they had the foresight to have a joint tenancy. What has it to do with you at all? You have no more right to her house than you have to mine! And as it sounds like he left no remaining estate, you are entitled to nothing. Not a bean.

What a shame.

Stephb1986_2

why is it their fault that you opened your legs? never heard of contraception? why should they get you a council house and sort out social services for you are you not capable of standing on your own two feet and doing something for yourself for once. If you was a good mother you wouldnt have had them taken off you in the first place it sounds like your just trying to blame other people instead of yourself for the mess you have got yourself into. perhaps if you sorted yourself out with a job and got your house in order then maybe you would get your kids back. Its not down to your dads partner to sort you out anymore its yourself or even your own mum could help you out.

It sounds like your dad and his partner helped you out as much as they could but you couldnt be bothered to help yourself.

that still doesnt answer the question as to why you so deseperatly want or need the money? the world doesnt owe you a living.

Chollita

So first you complain that they deny you access to your son, then that they expect you to look after your own children? Which is it? What would make you happy? Oh, yes - the money.

Hmmmm ... maybe there should be a maturity test before people can breed.

Or maybe this is a researcher for the Jeremy Kyle show ...

Savvy_Sue

fordad, can I suggest you get yourself some counselling to help you deal with the issues you are raising? Maybe then you can move on, so that if there is contact with your children now or in the future it can be more positive than you seem capable of at the moment.

Clearly you have had a lot to deal with, but you do need to decide whether you're going to carry on blaming everyone else, or say "OK, that was then, this is now, I'm going to take responsibility for where my life goes now and not be bogged down by what went wrong then."