Weekly Flylady Thread 12th May 2008

likklegibbon

Morning all (just)

Thanks for advice on wedding cards - I'm just going to buy the evening ones and add a couple of bits to them and I've ordered some cake embellishments to make the hand made ones so they'll soon be in hand. I don't want to seem like I'm knocking back another friend who offered to make some for me so I'm going to ask her to make me some special thank you cards for me instead as I won't need them so quickly. Trying to be grateful/tactful is a minefield!

Today's list

Smoke alarm
Change bedding
Open bedroom windows for a good airing
Dust bedroom and landing
Vac bedroom
Vac landing
Vac hall and stairs
HHI
WM
Wrap Nan's pressie

Do bag for overnight at mum's

Wedding stuff
Buy silk flowers/stems from Dunelm
Buy vases/tall votives from Ikea
See Deb's friend about thank you cards
See Nan and take birthday card and pressie
Go and see florist tomorrow about wedding bouquet/corsage/buttonholes then get oxygen when I hear how much it will be.......
Go to hairdressers to book appointment for next week and rehearsal apt on 8/8 - take tiara/hair colour pic with me

Just gonna grab some late brekkie then HHC -

anyone in for a 1-1.30 and a 1.45 - 2.15 HHC?

Dustykitten

Taurus hugest hugest hugs. Have a cuppa (and choccie) and let's see what can be salvaged.

Firstly, can you be there to scoop her up when the exam finishes?
Secondly, if today doesn't go well is there a chance of an autumn term resit?
Thirdly, loads of kids don't do well at AS for lots of reasons but go on and get good grades at A2.
Therefore, all is not lost even though she feels this way, you my love are going to need to get this through to her over the next few days to get her back up and ready for the next papers.

In terms of sorting things out - how far up the school are you escallating the problems - heads, governors? If not go that far now - at both schools.
I am not sure where you go if they do not sort it out but your governors will know and if not we can help you find out.

Dustykitten

LG I'll join you in both HHC

likklegibbon

Taurus - I would be fuming at the very least - why do they offer the option of the lessons at the school if then the teacher is doing her best to sabotage all of your daughter's efforts? - I would raise this at a high level, with as many specific examples as you can - after all the school must be getting funding for her to attend. It wouldn't be fair for your daughter's hard work and plans to be disrupted by one person's actions - go give em hell!!

skintscotslass

taurus, who have you spoken to in the school? I'm not sure how things work in England (I'm still in shock at making 6/7 year olds do exams!) but does your DD have a guidance teacher or year head? I think I might be tempted to go down to the school and demand to see someone. Or down to the grammar school and slap the teacher! Big hugs to you honey xx

shell2001

Taurusgb - feel for you hun, no advice from me as I have no experience. It all sounds rotten to me.

Have mowed the grass
Cut 2 huge lavender bushes back
Quick trip to park (:mad: dont ask!!!)
Little one fed lunch and will leave for nursery in a min

Plan when I get back

HHI
HHE
Parcel up DH briefcase and send back to next - clasp broke and replacement they sent is broken, not even had that out of the plastic:mad:
Make coffee cake (may do this tomorrow)
Early tea for littles as DD1 has swimming lesson

taurusgb

Thank you lil-me and Dusty--- in fact thatk you everyone....I have escalated it to the Head of sixth form at her main school (am leaving myself somewhere to go iyswim if she doesn't get on the case) and the Head of the grammar school who has asked the deputy head to start an investigation this afternoon when exams are done and the tutor concerned is free.

I can't get to the school to pick her up - 11 miles, no car and minimal bus service! have just had a call from her main school to say they are writing to the examinations officer at the grammar school to ask that when marking her exam the circumstances are taken into account (eg the tutor telling her she was bound to fail).

My biggest worry is DD state of mind at the moment - she is very shy, introverted and dedicated to study - this is mainly because getting such good GCSE grades made her feel fulfilled for the first time in her life (she has always had trouble fitting in and making friends so has low esteem) and she has convinced herself that doing well at school is ALL she can do. We have tried to get her to take up outside interests but she sees them as a waste of time and just won't. So this "failure" (even though not her fault) seems like she is a failure as a person not just at the exam.

Oh gosh - I've gone on and on again so I'll stop now before everyone leaves the thread!

Thanks again - I'm not very good at making friends myself and have no family support out side DH and kids (I don't fit in), so it's such a comfort to have this thread to post on and I do appreciate you all for your patience.

Dustykitten

Taurus just having lunch - I'm starving and then I'll send you a pm

soappie

Hugs Taurus.

right, I'm going to attempt Tesco - this should be fun!

Mudbath

Hugs Taurus - I wish there was some advice I could give you but I think it's all been said. The way your daughter has been treated is outrageous so hugs to her too. Have you put all your complaints in writing? When I did this with my DDs school it was all taken much more seriously. Might be worth a try.

Soappie - I hope your toe is ok, sounds very ouchy!!

I've got lots of flying to do today as have just s/s all week. I also have an extra challenge for myself this week - I've really got to step back regarding one of my daughters 'friends'. One of the middays came and told me that my DD and this other girl got in trouble on Monday as the other girl was swearing. She's a little **** (the one who hid DD stuff and put DS's stuff down the loo - she's not been back since). This girl swears and has a terrible attitude but I've decided that whilst I don't have to encourage the friendship out of school i've got to let my daughter deal with it in school. My daughter has started to tell me that this girl lies so i've just got to hope that she has the right skills to realise there are better friends.

Children....they don't half stress you !!!