Today I tell my husband...

mrs_lady

headinthesand wrote: »

You have motivated me to tell my gf my debt problems and mine are 3 times yours!!! So tomorrow I will tell her, she is 5 months pregnant so hope i can run faster than she can waddle, if she makes a break for it!!



Good luck, lord knows if I can do it, you can x

Snaggles

Hmmm, telling his Mum wasn't very nice....but I suppose we all do silly things when we are upset.

Obviously he is very angry at the moment, and I think you are probably right to just bite your tongue and wait for the storm to pass.

BUT, you didn't murder anyone, you just spent too much money, and you are now facing up to that and starting to correct your mistake, so I hope that once he calms down he will see that, and will be able to trust you again, and not feel he has to have complete control.

Lorne

Mrs Lady, well done for dealing with such a challenging day.

If we can help at all with your statement of account before your telephone meeting next week, just ask. We're here to support you!

All the best, Lorna

WhoopieDoodle

Mrs Lady, I knew he would come back

Now, things may be a bit iffy for a few days, but you must feel better knowing it is finally out in the open?

The two of you can work on the situation TOGETHER, with no more secrets.

Yes, the trust issue is a biggy - I felt terribly let down and betrayed and still do to some degree. I just wish he had told me - I know he said he was doing it to save me the stress as he thought he could sort it out on his own, but I'm his wife for goodness sake and no partner should be going through that on their own. I also felt offended to be honest. But after a week or so, I realised what hell he had been through and how selfish I was being, so I decided to stand by my man (don't start singing now) and grab the problem full on and sort it!

We are working together on this and the relationship is starting to improve. It will be a little while until I feel we are back on track but I am with him through richer and poorer (mostly poorer now!) and our relationship will come out stronger because of it.

Anyone who is keeping debt from their partner, please please tell them, for both your sakes!

Burlesque_Babe

I'm glad he came back and although he ranted/raged etc, this is understandable and lots of other partners have done the same to DFW'ers.

All that happened was that you tried to provide for your family in the best way you could and it has just got out of control. It isn't all your fault - you may not have told him because you didn't think you could.

An SOA on the thread will mean we can all have a look and give you some ideas and thoughts on where to go from here budgeting wise.

You don't have to shoulder all the stress yourself and telling him is lifting a lot of worry off your shoulders.

Not nice that he told his Mum but you are right - you aren't married to her and if she gets all preachy, then ask her why does she think you weren't able to share it

Queen.Bess

I'm so glad he's come back...and you're getting some nappies! You've done the right thing Mrs Lady - the hard part is done and you can look to the future.

Thanks for keeping us updated.

redsquirrel80

Well done on making that brave step Mrs Lady, it isn't an easy thing to do but it really is better to get it all out, hopefully things will be more honest and open between you now and you'll be able to work towards a solution together. Good luck x

mummum2

Just finishing reading and would also like to send all my best wishes to you and your husband.

chevalier

glad he came back. good luck with moving forward now
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borntobefree

Hi

Don't worry too much about the MIL. If one of my sons came and told me this sad tale my sympathies would lie with his wife and my 3 grandchildren I'm afraid:o.....I would be at him with a rolling pin for letting her and the kids down:mad:

Good Luck

B2bF