loss of benefits for Disabled Son

Penny-Pincher!!

I think some of the replies the OP has received are rude and ignorant!

OP, are you involved with Social Services at all? Your son may qualify for Direct Payments to help with his care. It would be worth you asking them to assess him and he should be entitled to help with personal maybe even some domestic care If he is receiving the higher rate of DLA would he qualify for the severe disability element? Social services would be able to help with local charities or even certian benefits that may help with the cost of extra bedding etc.

Please let us know how you get on.

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PP
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Oldernotwiser

shellsuit wrote: »

I can see where the OP is coming from, other teens who reach the age of 18 can go out and get a job to help with money coming in the home ~ OP's son can't.

In an ideal world this would be true but many young people of this age don't contribute and many more need financial support through university etc. Although the OP's son has additional financial needs because of his disability he will also be likely to make fewer other financial demands on them than a teenager without disabilities. Perhaps it balances out?

Many disabled adults live independently on DLA and IB; will the financial position here be any worst than for them?

dmg24

I do have sympathy for the OP's situation, but unfortunately this is the situation for disabled adults. It might not make it any easier, but he is very lucky to have you, as if he lived on his own he would have to manage on IB and DLA for all of his outgoings (although he would have most of his rent and CT paid for him).

As he is going to a day centre soon, I assume he has a Key Worker? I would agree with Penny Pincher, see if you can be assessed for the Direct Payments scheme.

Please don't be offended by those that just don't understand your situation, especially mitchaa, who is just a big old troll, and last week referred to those claiming benefits as dole bludgers!

Edit: Cross posted with Onw! x

Conor_3

Jummy wrote: »

Whats with the !!!!!! comment.
The OP asked a question and the tone of your reply is disgusting.
As the mother of a severely disabled son i can sympathise with the OP.
My son is only 10 atm but when he reaches 18 i will be in the same position.
Good luck to the OP.

And like the OP, the money will have to be claimed by their offspring but ultimately, it'll end up in your pockets.

mitchaa

dmg24 wrote: »

Please don't be offended by those that just don't understand your situation, especially mitchaa, who is just a big old troll, and last week referred to those claiming benefits as dole bludgers!

Dole bludger Never used that term in my life. Im not old either, well i like to think im not at 25. Think you have mistaken me for someone else? Evidence please:p

Back to the O.P, i do feel for her situation but may i point you to this..

finningley1 wrote: »

Basically we are getting penalised for my son becoming a adult, as all he will be entitled to is IB and obviously he will still keep his high rate DLA.

Are they getting penalised? I think you'll find they are not. people shouldn't rely on childrens benefits.

Dont mean for it to sound rude, but thats the state of affairs. IB and DLA are benefits that he is already in receipt of, should he have any more?

Conor_3

finningley1 wrote: »

Only came on for advise not for Sarcastic Comments from People who Obviously Have no idea what the cost Involves are for looking after a disabled person.

Actually having 2 nephews who both have Duchens Muscular Dystrophy and live directly opposite me, I'm more than aware, thankyou. And it's not as much as you'd like to make out. The State provides for people with disabilities quite well. Certainly, my sis-in-laws income is pretty much nearly double what most people in my town is on and she doesn't have to pay for the roof over her head or the car she runs and there's plenty of charities that seem to give her money to take the kids out.

G-G_4

Conor wrote: »

You'll not be entitled to anything and he will have to claim for what he gets in his own rights.

You're not being penalised for him becoming an adult and I find it ludicrous that you can say that. !!!!!! did you expect was going to happen to CB and CTC when he hit 18?

You should be ashamed of yourself for saying that! :mad:

mitchaa

G-G wrote: »

You should be ashamed of yourself for saying that! :mad:

Why? Should he be walking on egg shells? We're all adults and to be fair he did have a valid point reference childrens benefits.

We're all too fussed about being politically correct:rolleyes: We are all adults i presume. I doubt the OP is going to lose any sleep over a !!!!!! comment:rolleyes:

Those in need of constant care are well looked after by the state, i dont think anyone can argue or whinge about that.

dmg24

mitchaa wrote: »

Dole bludger Never used that term in my life. Im not old either, well i like to think im not at 25. Think you have mistaken me for someone else? Evidence please:p

Back to the O.P, i do feel for her situation but may i point you to this..



Are they getting penalised? I think you'll find they are not. people shouldn't rely on childrens benefits.

Dont mean for it to sound rude, but thats the state of affairs. IB and DLA are benefits that he is already in receipt of, should he have any more?

Please be aware of anything that mitchaa says. Last week he had over two hundred posts, however as most of them were defamatory to various groups he deleted them all (except the few that he could not because he had started the threads).

Definite big old troll.

OP, if you are not entitled to any additional benefits, you will find lots of help and advice on managing your budget on the Debt Free Wanabee board. Good luck x

duchy

Conor wrote: »

Actually having 2 nephews who both have Duchens Muscular Dystrophy and live directly opposite me, I'm more than aware, thankyou. And it's not as much as you'd like to make out. The State provides for people with disabilities quite well. Certainly, my sis-in-laws income is pretty much nearly double what most people in my town is on and she doesn't have to pay for the roof over her head or the car she runs and there's plenty of charities that seem to give her money to take the kids out.

And I bet she'd happily repay every penny to have healthy children just like most of us parents who can't work fulltime because we also care for our disabled children.