How much money to give as wedding gift?

Jet

I like the idea of giving a goat!

The sparkling wine idea is good too.

I can't do an office collection as I'm the only member of staff. There is 1 other boss and me.

On the invite they have said that if anyone wishes to buy them a gift, please give them money for their savings pot. They are specifically asking for cash for themselves. I'm sure they would make all the right noises if I donated the money to charity but I'm sure they would be a bit miffed.

I think there are 2 issues here;

1. That I object being asked for money rather than a gift or voucher.

2. I have no respect for how they deal with money. As someone who has made many sacrifices and I now after many years have a little to show for it. They are people who spend today and expect someone else to bail them out (family, loan, credit card, business, selling home to release equity etc. etc.) I really resent the fact that my money will be used to fund this. I keep telling myself that it's none of my business how they spend their money, but I can't help it. I hate seeing people wasting money!

I've just got to decide if I've got the balls to do the charity thing!

Loadsabob

Well, I think I'd go for making them miffed, seeing as what they're asking is making you a bit miffed to start with - and justifyably so. If it were me, I couldn't resist the putting their nose a little out of joint at the same time as doing sommething really useful for a charity! It can't be construed as a selfish act, anyway, so you will always have the moral highground!

squeaky

I can accept that in these days when so many couples have either lived together or re-married and so have a full set of household goods asking family, and maybe close friends, for money (if you have to ask for anything at all) is fair enough, but for a boss to ask employees for money...? It really isn't on. Very unfair.

There are some good alternative ideas here, and I wish you luck

Zziggi

I think the oxfam unwrapped gifts are a great idea. I mean, they couldn't possibly appear ungrateful - not the done thing! What a lovely gift though, say you wanted to spend £30 - you could feed 500 african schoolchildren for a day. I would think that is a lovely gift!

Jet

Loadsabob wrote:

Well, I think I'd go for making them miffed, seeing as what they're asking is making you a bit miffed to start with - and justifyably so. If it were me, I couldn't resist the putting their nose a little out of joint at the same time as doing sommething really useful for a charity! It can't be construed as a selfish act, anyway, so you will always have the moral highground!

You are quite right Loadsabob.

I spoke to my partner about it last night and he actually thinks we shouldn't give anything. (ultimate money saving) :rotfl:

I've made a decision - I've just ordered 50 trees from Oxfam for £16. I might buy them a little bottle of sparkling wine or something as a token gift for themselves.

Thanks for all the feedback.

Gingham_Ribbon

Good choice!

Loadsabob

Jet, I think that's great, and I bet it's a gift they'll always remember...unlike the dribs and drabs of cash. :T Yay, you!

r.mac_2

Jet - great decision. I love the idea of Oxfam unwrapped and wan to use the tree idea when my sister gets married next year. I know she will love it.

Enjoy the wedding

Loretta

Buy them a goat and I hope it butts them up the backside for their cheek!!

Zziggi

Loretta_Tucker wrote:

Buy them a goat and I hope it butts them up the backside for their cheek!!

]that'll be £24 from oxfam unwrapped