How old is too old to have a baby??

Lydia.42

Hiya
My little one is 9 months old and i am gonna be 33 this year. OH and i just weren't ready for children until after we hit 30 odd. I don't think age matters much, so long as you love them.
Would love another, but will have to wait for a bit financially before we try for next.
Don't think i could ever contemplate 10 though!!!!!! Much as i love our son :rotfl:

Rachie_B

the average age of a first time Mum is 30
http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/womanshour/05/2007_02_tue.shtml



10 children ?!! OMG what state must her body be in after all that!!!!

ekroys17

Hi
We have been trying for a baby since July 2006, I am 35 this year and my OH is 36, it had taken us 7 months to conceive and fell pregnant in March 2007, unfortunately my 20 week scan revealed that our Daughter had spina bifida, despite taking the recommended folic acid before and after conception.

We had to make the most difficult decision of our lives and ended the pregnancy as Doctors advised she wouldn't survive the birth.

28 is young and you have plenty of time before the 'biological clock' starts to tick. We are trying again and its been 7 months, Doctors have told us that it won't happen again to us as I will be monitored more closely.

Just don't leave it too late as you never know what your path holds for you.

Bargain_Rzl

I'm 29 and not broody at all, wouldn't have kids unless I was with "the right person" and am not looking for a partner.

However I wanted to share the experience of a friend of mine, who's now 48. She has been with her husband (similar age) for nearly 25 years but because of instability of lifestyle and finances (both are professional musicians) they left it very late before trying for a baby, despite her being obviously the "maternal type". Eventually she got pregnant at 42 and had her beautiful daughter at 43. The catch at this stage in her life was that while caring for a young baby, she was also nursing her dying mother...

climbatron

Just to back up my previous post... when I said having children later in life is the best thing you can do, my rationale is as follows.

Between 20-30 I had a fantastic time, loads of nights out, holidays, freedom to do what I want. During that time I also nurtured my career and stepped up a couple of rungs on the ladder. When my son was born in my late 30's I was happy and confident to make such a big change in my life as I knew I was ready. I didn't feel I was losing out socially or financially and am happy to dedicate my time to making him happy.

Those of you who felt you missed out because your older parents did nothing with you, I really think this is your parent's state of mind, nothing to do with their age. My son keeps me young, and will continue to do so. Don't forget that when he's 15 I will only be 50 - not old by modern standards, and I fully intend to still be active and entertaining him.


Rant over. OP - IMHO it's only biology you're fighting - the rest is all in your head, and therefore within your control.

Paul

sheilavw

I had my first daughter at 25 and a half. I went into hospital and ward was heaving with teenagers, I felt ancient. Five and a half years later I had my second and I was one of the youngest on the ward at 31. Times change

angel81uk

I felt similar to you chelseablue, I always thought 25 would be a nice age to start a family, but at 24 I was still living with parents and was starting to worry that I was leaving it a bit late. Now I'm 26, just bought my first flat with my OH who is 35 and we're getting married sometime in the next couple of years. Not ready to think about babies until after the wedding so I can see me being at least 30 and my OH 39 by the time we think about TTC.

I think the thing that really bought around the change in thinking for me was going from living in an seaside town with a very high rate of teen pregnancy to living in London. I used to feel like the odd one out for not having 3 kids and a council flat (I know, not all young mums are like this!), now I feel positively normal, infact almost too young to be thinking about starting a family.

LouBlue

BACKFRMTHEEDGE wrote: »

And I truly wish you luck....but if you were the OP at 35 - would you be encouraging her to dither or saying "get on with it" "what are you waiting for"If the OP was my daughter I would defo be saying the later...."get on with it":p

OP says she doesn't feel she is ready yet to have a child, so irrespective of her age, I wouldn't be trying to rush her into it, until she felt ready, I would of course point out the difficulties she could face leaving it til later on in life, but I wouldn't be telling her to get on with it just because of her age.

Elliesmum

meeps wrote: »

My mum had me later in life, and I haven't got a single recollection of 'larking about' with her- I want to be able to put up a good fight in football at the park!! quote]

I lark around with my daughter all the time - I think is a state of mind not age as another poster has pointed out.

Well meeps - fancy a race? 28 v 41 that could be interesting (you would probably win though )

Oh - but can I give birth first, otherwise I could be a little hindered :rotfl:

EM xx

Elliesmum

LouBlue

I wish you all the luck in the world in your quest for children and hope it works out for you.

EM xx