How old is too old to have a baby??

polegirl23

Me and OH are the other way round, although he's only 3 years older than me, he's wanted children since he was 19 (his mum had him at 18 and his nan had his mum at 19!). He's very worried about being an 'old dad' and as he never had a father figure in his life to play football with etc, he really wants to be able to do all this with his children. I'm 23 now and he's 26, we've been together for 7 years, living together for 3 and are getting married in June. I've got a career which is really moving forward but I know that once I become a mum I won't want to continue working full time. I've agreed that we can start trying next year, which means assuming that we concieve within 6-12 months, I'll be 25 when I have number 1. We have always planned to have 2 children approx 2 years apart!

It is all a bit too planned out for me and I'm fully aware that things that are planned out usually have a habit of going wrong!!

basilcat7

polegirl23 wrote: »

Me and OH are the other way round, although he's only 3 years older than me, he's wanted children since he was 19 (his mum had him at 18 and his nan had his mum at 19!). He's very worried about being an 'old dad' and as he never had a father figure in his life to play football with etc, he really wants to be able to do all this with his children. I'm 23 now and he's 26, we've been together for 7 years, living together for 3 and are getting married in June. I've got a career which is really moving forward but I know that once I become a mum I won't want to continue working full time. I've agreed that we can start trying next year, which means assuming that we concieve within 6-12 months, I'll be 25 when I have number 1. We have always planned to have 2 children approx 2 years apart!

It is all a bit too planned out for me and I'm fully aware that things that are planned out usually have a habit of going wrong!!

Wow that does sound very well planned !! I really hope it all works out as above for you !! xx
You never know, you my have twins (that's my plan- get it all over in one go !)

polegirl23

basilcat7 wrote: »

Wow that does sound very well planned !! I really hope it all works out as above for you !! xx
You never know, you my have twins (that's my plan- get it all over in one go !)

Haha, it's not me that made the plan, I'd be happy to wait another year or so but we compromised! He's been nagging me for about 6 years so we had to agree to something!! We got goldfish about 5 years ago and then when he started nagging again we got 2 puppies last year. I think that they're filling the void for him at the moment and taking up a lot of our time !

LouBlue

polegirl23 wrote: »

We got goldfish about 5 years ago and then when he started nagging again we got 2 puppies last year. I think that they're filling the void for him at the moment and taking up a lot of our time !

:rotfl:

From goldfish to puppies to children. Well, you have to start somewhere! :D

bryanb

Don't know if anyone has already said it, but consider how old you will be when child is 15, also are there likely to be any grandparents around?

LouBlue

polegirl23 wrote: »

But I must admit that I'm starting to get a bit broody and I am one of those sad people that treat their little dog like a baby so maybe that's a sign that I might be getting a bit more ready!! :rotfl: :rotfl:

Me and OH treat our 5 year old pedigree cat like a baby. :rotfl: We bought her a new litter tray thing with a roof and she was too nervous to go in so I have been carrying her to it, and waiting for her, and when she did her first poo in there, me and OH clapped her! :rotfl: I think she will have her nose severely put out of joint if we ever get lucky enough to have a child.

basilcat7

bryanb wrote: »

Don't know if anyone has already said it, but consider how old you will be when child is 15, also are there likely to be any grandparents around?

Oh has both his parents- both around 50 so young ....... he has both sets of grandparents too so GGparents !!
My Mum and soon- to-be Stepdad are both fairly sprightly too !!

basilcat7

just wanted to say thanks again for all views and sorry if I came over all defensive about choices etc..... I think I've realised that everyone has different views and experiences.... and have different opportunities at different times. Whatever will be will be !!!

skintbutsmiling01

You didnt come over all defensive at all- you probably spoke for more people than you realise. Hope all the opinions have helped you !

starbump

Personally, I think it is irrelevant whether you feel "ready" or if you are an active person or if you look young. Biology will dictate when you become "too old" to have a baby. With every passing year, your fertility continues to decline. It is not a stable level until the menopause - it is decreasing every single day. Of course, I wish all the would-be moms well and I hope they are lucky and blessed with children. However, I would tell any female friend or relation who asked my opinion to start trying for a baby as soon as they got married. You see, you generally don't know it's too late until it actually is too late. (I would also add: there is nothing wrong with adoption. You don't need to get pregnant to be a parent.)