How old is too old to have a baby??

basilcat7

starbump wrote: »

However, I would tell any female friend or relation who asked my opinion to start trying for a baby as soon as they got married.

I have to get engaged first !!!

LouBlue

starbump wrote: »

However, I would tell any female friend or relation who asked my opinion to start trying for a baby as soon as they got married.

Even if they didn't feel ready to become parents?

pickle

I think the earlier the better really. I waited until 37 and then had a miscarriage. Then two years went by trying to conceive before my baby was born. I now have a very active 18 month old and I am 41 years of age. I participate in everything, take her to all the groups, playgyms, climb up the apparatus etc. If you think old then you will be. From what I can gather a lot of my younger counterparts would have trouble with the gruelling schedule which I keep. If you can manage waking up at 5am every day then go for it (not all babies get up at this time). There are advantages and disadvantages to having them earlier and later but you won't be the odd one out at the playgroups. A lot of mothers these days are in their thirties (and a few in their forties).

janet6267

I had my first child at 37 and he is 4 in August. I never really wanted children but now he is here I would not be without him. Part of me wishes I was younger now so we could have another, but I know when I was younger I would not have coped as well. Saying that we do more with our little boy than some younger parents I know, who have never kicked a ball around or gone kite flying as they can't be bothered. It does not matter what age you are as long as you do all you can to keep them happy and loved.

Rachie_B

LouBlue wrote: »

Even if they didn't feel ready to become parents?

and even if they didn't want to get married ? :rolleyes:

not everyone wants to get married, but they ( may) want to become parents

can you not have one without the other ? :rotfl:

LouBlue

Rachie_B wrote: »

and even if they didn't want to get married ? :rolleyes:

not everyone wants to get married, but they ( may) want to become parents

can you not have one without the other ? :rotfl:

I never mentioned marriage - just talking about when its the right time to become a parent. One is definitely not exclusive to the other.

Rachie_B

LouBlue wrote: »

I never mentioned marriage - just talking about when its the right time to become a parent. One is definitely not exclusive to the other.

lol sorry i know,that bit was to starbump ( who mentioned the marriage bit)

LouBlue

Rachie_B wrote: »

lol sorry i know,that was to starbump really ( who mentioned the marriage bit)

Do I have to help you out with your chocolate tempering AND how to use a Quote button. :eek:

Oh if I must.............:rotfl::rotfl:

cootebird

Interesting topic for me at this moment in time!

I am having the baby chat with my husband at the moment. We both want children and are both 27, soon to be 28.

My parents were late 30's when I was born, and are thankfully still here and able to look out for me where needed! I love them dearly and they really have done the most amazing job of making me the woman I am today.
My grandparents died before I reached 4 years old, so I have no recollection. When at primary school I remember friends talking about grandparents and wondered why I hadn't any.
I spoke with my mum, and she explained I didn't have any, and simply, my parents would act as my grandparents too.
I have never felt like I missed anything.

The right time is when you can provide love and support for your children. As many posters have said, being wanted by your parents and having that strong union beside you through at the troubles and woes of growing up.

I have not had children yet due to a long previous relationship which was going nowhere. I knew that was the wrong time. I have been ill for a couple of years which my attention was focused on.
So here I am now, married, settled, good health, and getting a bit of travelling out of my system. This year I know, is the only time so far in my life I could ever be happy with the decision.

I would not let age trouble me, as long as you aren't living your life to have children. As said already, as time ticks by, so do your chances.

Rachie_B

LouBlue wrote: »

Do I have to help you out with your chocolate tempering AND how to use a Quote button. :eek:

Oh if I must.............:rotfl::rotfl:

:rotfl: tempering i am really not going there :eek: sounds far too much like :eek: hard work :rotfl:

i did want to quote you ,you numpty, but was also commenting on starbumps reply too

god you are hard work :rolleyes: Miss G :rotfl: