How old is too old to have a baby??

kr15snw

vixarooni wrote: »

im 21, my mother had me at 40 so now my parents are 62 this year and 65. My brother is 13 years older than me. I have no cousins, my nan died when i was 17 at 89 and my auntie and uncle are in thier early 70's. I think because of this i get on with older people so well, but i do sometimes wish my parents were younger.

Wow its like looking in a mirror, hi

Im 20 (21 in a month) and my dad is 61 and my mum is 58. Hence they were 40 and 37 when I was born. My brothers are 9 and 13 years older than me. I have no auntie / uncles or cousins.

I also think this is why I get on with older people so well, due to my 'mature' upbringing. Lol.

I also wish my parents were younger at times, we never went disneyland etc as my brothers had grown out of that by the time I was that age and my parents didnt think it was fair on them. Still want to go, but my boyfriend doesnt like that kinda thing! Ugh men! Lol.

But I do thank my parents for making me more level headed. At the age of 20 Im living with my boyfriend, finishing a degree, looking for a job, keeping up a part time job and planning on buying a mortgage together. None of my friends my age can say that as they just want to go out and party and spend all their money on drink and clothes. Ive saved and so can afford to buy half a house

So yeh

countrygal

My MIL had her 5th child at 46 - conceived after her eldest child's engagement party!!! (44 years ago)
She told her GP she was pregnant and he explained that it was impossible at her age and to go away and get on with her menopause!!! - Later that year no5 turned up to prove him wrong!
She is 90 next month and living life to the full - she is learning how to use computers at her local library and wants a laptop for her birthday!!
Her 1st grandchild was born soon after her last baby and the generations are all mixed up now - I feel sure this has kept her young.
I know her youngest child is jealous of me having young parents but she was(and still is) spoilt rotten by everyone in the family.
My late FIL had to work full time until he was 70 to ensure the youngest could go to university and this took it's toll on him I know but all in all I'm sure they never regretted it!

Mrs_pbradley936

Rachie_B wrote: »

That age is classed as "elderly" on mat notes i think?! :eek:

When I was young "elderly" meant anyone have their first baby at 23 or older!

LouBlue

Rachie_B wrote: »

That age is classed as "elderly" on mat notes i think?! :eek:

I am sure my sis (40) when she had her baby, was classed as geriatric on the hospital
notes! :rotfl:

scottishchick27

I wasn't ever really interested in kids until I was 23 then all of a sudden my maternal instincts kicked in. I had been with my then boyfriend for 2 years and felt the time was right. My sister had polycystic(sp?) ovaries and I was scared I would be like her and unable to conceive. I fell pregnant after 8 months and was so chuffed. DD is now 6 and me and OH have been engaged for 5 years. I'm 30 now, nearly 31 and getting that broody feeling again. Isn't it strange how this urges take you unaware. Can't look at babies at the moment. lol. I want another one before I feel to old to run around etc.

haylibo

My df is 41 and started trying for a baby at 36/37 with her then partner. When things didn't happen as planned they had investigations and it turned up that df had a marginally reduced number of eggs as is normal over 35 but that they didn't think this to be a problem in conceiving. Consultant did also counsel on birth defects as there is an increased risk.
As it happened they split when df was 39 and I think she sees it as her last chance to have had kids unless she does something rash;)
Hayles

Js_Other_Half

I'm 39 soon and will be having more IVF later this year - I was 37 when DS was born. In my NCT group only one out of 8 of us was in her 20s, the rest were my age or older.

Part of me does wish I was younger having DS, but there's nothing I can do about that. It's not as if he doesn't get to do things with me - swimming, signing, going to the park, playing peek a boo

Rachie_B

LouBlue wrote: »

I am sure my sis (40) when she had her baby, was classed as geriatric on the hospital
notes! :rotfl:

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ladypinkof66

i am 42 tomorrow and still childless i am currently on my last round of clomid and ovulated yesterday, if this fails i shall persue ivf. yes i would have loved to have a child at an early age yet even though i tried i was unable to, you can never predict when you are going to meet a suitable partner in with which to have a child, and i dont agree on just getting pregnant with just anyone just cause you want a child. i unfortunately this time around have still been unable to conceive. i dont think age comes into it with regards to bringing up a child yes it is more difficult to get pregnant over 40 and problems can arise however i am more like a 30 year old in respect to life, i have endless energy, and feel that i am still more than able to bring up a child.

LouBlue

ladypinkof66 wrote: »

i am 42 tomorrow and still childless i am currently on my last round of clomid and ovulated yesterday, if this fails i shall persue ivf. yes i would have loved to have a child at an early age yet even though i tried i was unable to, you can never predict when you are going to meet a suitable partner in with which to have a child, and i dont agree on just getting pregnant with just anyone just cause you want a child. i unfortunately this time around have still been unable to conceive. i dont think age comes into it with regards to bringing up a child yes it is more difficult to get pregnant over 40 and problems can arise however i am more like a 30 year old in respect to life, i have endless energy, and feel that i am still more than able to bring up a child.

Good luck to you. xx