How old is too old to have a baby??

lindseykim13

You could flip the question over and ask when is it too young? If your happy with your man why wait, none of us know how long we'll be around for so live every day to the full. Just because kids bring responsibilty doen't mean you don't still have fun. Some of my fav times have been having family picnics and the older your kids get the more fun things you can do together.

Me and hubby had our first when i was 18 and second at 20 we've been a happy couple and family now for 7 years. Why wait you'll have plenty of time for 'couple fun' when the kids have left home! I think sometimes as human beings we worry too much about the non important things in life, money, work, houses. When all that really matters is somewhere thats warm and dry with family. I hope that you do have a family of your own one day, there's nothing better.

LouBlue

lindseykim13 wrote: »

You could flip the question over and ask when is it too young? If your happy with your man why wait, none of us know how long we'll be around for so live every day to the full. Just because kids bring responsibilty doen't mean you don't still have fun. Some of my fav times have been having family picnics and the older your kids get the more fun things you can do together.

I wish I had met my OH when I was a lot younger and we would have definitely started a family back then. But seeing he is 10 years younger than me, I probably would have been arrested! :eek::rotfl:

lindseykim13

LouBlue wrote: »

I wish I had met my OH when I was a lot younger and we would have definitely started a family back then. But seeing he is 10 years younger than me, I probably would have been arrested! :eek::rotfl:

:rotfl:You are right though me and DH were very lucky to have found eachother so young and both wanted kids asap. Poking around for the first few years in a 1 bed flat and sharing a room with your 18mth old at the time was a tad hard, but all worth it as long as your all together. Glad to say though that we don't live in that titchy flat no more!

SeptemberBaby_2

I'm 34, DH is 33 and we have a 20 week old baby. She's our first and we certainly didn't want children before we started trying, even though we have been married 5 years and together for 10! .

Despite my age I conceived within the first month of trying with both of my pregnancies (I had a m/c in June 06). I consider myself extremely lucky but my midwife actually told me I was a 'spring chicken' at 33! :cool:

xx

patchwork_cat

Noonesperfect - I know how you feel I was 29 when my Mum died at 62 and 12 years on I still feel jealous of people who have their Mum. She never met her granddaughter and never heard her grandson say her Grandma. She was 33 when I was born which was older than my friends mums, but not at all unusual now. I would say that luck being with you the only upper age limit for having children is biological - I think to have children after that age is not right. However you may leave your children without you too early.

It is hard to lose your parents when others haven't (expecially so when you have -or before- small children) so may be anything other than the norm is too old.

Incidentally when I was born there was a lady having her first child at 36 and she was termed an elderly primagravida ( long story as to why I know that!)

You do have years of fertility left, but it does wane. HAve the test at the Dr's to see how you fertility is doing.

Lady_E

Dont know if this has been mentioned yet but last Friday on the Jeremy Vine show on Radio 2, they had an item about this. This discussed those that chose to remain childless, those that cruised until their body clock started ticking loudly and it was very infomative. I am an older Mummy. Had DS1 at 38 and DS2 at 41. I didnt meet the right man until 37 but met a lot of wrong me:0 I would say that whilst I have a lot of experience with life the school gate politics really get me down. People make assumptions and that hurts. On the plus side we are big enough and brave enough to ignore that and we are also comfortable financially to help the boys as much as we can.
I wish I had met Lord E earlier but that is life. We could not be happier. HTH

patchwork_cat

LAdy E - at our school the average age to have first child is 32- 35, so you would be about right. How old are your children now? Move them to a different school!!!

HappySad

Leaving it until now to have a baby you may find that you have fertility problems and you reduce your chances of conceiving. The later you leave it the less your fertility and also the greater your chance of a downs baby.

\I waited until I was 35 until having my child. Pre 30 I was with the wrong person in my life and post 30 I was not ready to have a child. ONce I did eventually had my child I wish I had done it earlier in my early 30's .. i† is such a great enhancement to my life that I wish I had this wonderful life with my children earlier.

It took 1 year to conceive my 2nd child and as I was in my late 30's I was always thinking that this was because I was getting on...

basilcat7

LouBlue wrote: »

I wish I had met my OH when I was a lot younger and we would have definitely started a family back then. But seeing he is 10 years younger than me, I probably would have been arrested! :eek::rotfl:

me too lol:rotfl::rotfl:When I was 23 he was 14.....

mummymania

my best friend was 47 when she had her last (planned) baby.