How old is too old to have a baby??

mandy2383

I think its fine my OH turns 30 on the 4th of march and our first baby is due on the 9th

JoJoB

I'm pregnant with my first at the age of 36. It feels absolutely right for me at the moment, emotionally and financially. I would have been far too screwed up in my early 20s, even late 20s. Everyone's different!

skintbutsmiling01

I think its a perfect age!

kr15snw

Weve compromised in that Im willing to have them around 25 (The time were thinking would be right). Instead of saying we will wait until im older and ready. Yeah Im giving up some of my youth but I want this as much as he does

It does worry him, but like he said what can we do. We both want a future together and thats the main thing. So were both going to have to compromise on this I have them slightly younger than planned and he has to be slightly older than planned.

glossgal

Have to agree, my twenties will soon be a distant memory...but I can't imagine having children yet! IMO there's far too much pressure to have children young, hopefully nobodies putting this pressure on you..?

VickyA_2

My friend has just had her first baby. She, like you, knew that she wanted children but didn't necessarily feel "ready" and isn't really maternal. She's got a gorgeous little boy now and still doesn't feel "ready"! Nevertheless, she seems to be a good mother.

Kez100

What an impossible question to answer.

I'm pleased we had ours in our late 20's as we were not so set in our own comfortable world to give us second thoughts. I know if I considered it now - I'm 40 - that I would be more likely to see children like you do 'what am I going to have to give up' than 'what are they going to add to my life', which was my view when I had them 10 and 12 years ago.

It is worthwhile asking a medic the medical pros and cons of waiting so you are as fully informed as possible. Also remember if you may want more than one, at 35, you have already delayed that one until you are 37 (unless you are blessed with twins,of course!)

Kez100

kr15snw wrote: »

I worry about this aswell, not for me though. Im 20 and my boyfriend is 35. Weve talked about marriage / kids etc and have said we will wait till I finish uni (this summer) before looking at engagment etc. We both want a decent engagment (2 years) before getting married and then would like a few years to enjoy having 2 wages and being just the 2 of us So roughly we reckon about 6 years from now.

Well Id be 26, great age for kids. But Boyfriend will be 41 which worries me. My dad was 40 when I was born and he couldnt do alot with me due to back problems etc. I was so glad that I had older brothers (ones 9 years older, other 13 years) who could take me to the park etc.

Its probably my biggest fear about us, but what can we do? Its not like I can magically make him 10 years younger!

No,you can't make him younger and you wouldn't want to. Any child will unconditionally love their Dad and a loving home is the most important thing for them. I'm sure he will make a great Dad and he may well see many many more fit years.

I also think getting your qualifications out of the way is a good thing. You stand to earn more per hour with a decent career under your belt and that might mean, later on, that you can work school hours for a reasonable wage and still see a lot of your children.

BACKFRMTHEEDGE

Hi

I had my kids in my early 30's and am so glad I did as I had an early menopause. My menopause was completed by the time I was 41. That was it few dizzy spells, all over....I never thought this would happen to me as there is no history of early menopause in my family.....Probably by the time I was 36/ 37 it was probably too late, in my case, for kids...

I personally would be considering having kids if you REALLY want them. There is nothing wrong with not having kids - it's not for everyone;)

LouBlue

I don't think you can say a specific age is too old. I was never with the right person to even contemplate having a child with them and I wasn't broody. I have now met the right person and I would like to try and have children with him in the very near future. I have just turned 42 and he is 31. Neither of us have had children before. I don't know if it will happen but I am a very young 42 as in outlook, and I think times have changed since I was a girl. Having older parents now isn't the same thing it was 30 years ago. I am more ready to give a child emotional love and support, than I was 20 years ago, I think that is the main thing.